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And I'm still not sure what your point is - surely you're going to go out somewhere after 4, even if it is dark? You're not going to stay in just because it's dark.
By asking them to keep their noise down?
you dont seem very willing to adapt really, to maybe try and make a few changes so that you can study properly so i think your only course of action is to ask if you can change flats, if you think its that bad. i know that sometimes when you're choosing where you want to live (in halls) you can put down if you would like to live with mature students/possibly more quieter people? maybe you could try that.
This has happened to me last year in uni halls. I lived with 6 others and one of them was horrible. It got pretty serious and he got warned by the police for harrassment. Is there anyway that you can lock ur cupboards - i cudn't but if u can do it and then you will feel better. I used to wash up all of the time - i cudn't stand the mess it was disgusting and it absolutely stank and cause i was the nearest to the kitchen i cud smell it so ended up cleaning up alot of the time - although another housemate did as well as he was sick and tired of cleaning up after people although felt it was necessary. i would look into moving out if you can but i found problems with moving out as once a contract has been signed you have to pay the rent until you have found someone else. Unless it is a campus uni and they have different rules. But i was with the company 'unite' last year and that was the rule.
how are you getting on with them atm?
xx
If it is too noisy to study halls, try using the library or other study rooms.Perhaps need not leave the room to investigate, but if you have more than it would be better for me alone. :yippe:
One of the girls (who doesn't even live there) had a go at me and told me that she has more rights than me because she does more for the flat than what I do. When I asked what she meant, she said "I cook and do the washing up", er, yeah only because her "boyfriend" can't be arsed to do it himself.:rolleyes:
I wasn't even informed that they were having people around - is that too much to ask? I didn't find out until I opened my door to ask them to keep their noise down. (they were screaming and slamming doors)
When I asked them to keep their noise down (which I did several times) they told me to get lost and lighten up. Just because they want to party, doesn't mean the rest of us have to suffer, does it?:(
If I'm away with people who I know are gonna be noisy (snoring!!!) or sleeping somewhere like a boat/tent/caravan I take a pair and they can really help.... it might not block out the really loud slamming of doors, but they can block out the background noise which often prevents you from getting to sleep in the first place.
To me what they're doing sounds like normal student behaviour, nothing over the top. Halls are going to be noisy, it's never that easy to get work done there which is why people have suggested going to alternative places. If the library isn't an option, what about a friend's house or a coursemate's house?
If it really is that bad, can you see if you can swap? A few people are bound to have dropped out so there should be some spare rooms somewhere.
They were having a party though. They claimed "we only had people around" but they were being very noisy and they did the same the night before - which I was informed about.
If the occasional slamming of a door and general noise is the worst you have it, then you don't really have a bad housemate, you have a typical student house.
It's at least every week. (ie, whenever they go out)
I can't move now; as it's too late.
That's pretty normal though in my experience. People go out, they get a bit beered up, the volume levels go up. If it were every day or something then that I'd consider a bit unreasonable, and would try to talk to them about it.
However, what I wouldn't do is try to talk to them about it whilst they are in the middle of doing it, like in a party or after they've come back from a club. That's pointless, they'll not take any notice then. You need to speak to them to them in the cold light of day.
Also, usually you are allowed to break a contract if you find someone who wishes to move into the halls. So, if you find someone to take over your room, they can take over your contract and pay.
I had to do this when my ex moved out in Sep.
Yeah, I would also have thought that they would not be so strict on it if you are, say moving between accommodation than leaving altogether.
Just because the deadline to break contracts was Nov doesn't mean it's set in stone. There are always ways around things, you just need to ask.
i tried ear plugs and they defo didnt work for me at all - the noise was way too loud. have you spoken to your uni because they have a responsibility to make sure that you are ok with regards to accomodation even if it is a private company. xx
let us know how u get on?? xx
Eraplugs don't work for me either.
I have spoke to accommodation about this before and they said "it does say in the contract that when people are studying or sleeping, others have to keep their noise down". (hallmates claim it doesn't say that - I've checked before and it does say that)
I have emailed them in regards to moving; but haven't heard anything yet.
My hallmates said because it was the end of term, they can make as much noise as they want - some of us still havew classes to attend and work to do.
Also, if they really are that bad, then how do they get any work and sleep done?
Just do what they do!
No I can't. I'm up early for uni 2 days a week and need to sleep.
One of them told me she stays up until around 4am and works. She will then get up at 7.30/8am and go to uni - something my body will not allow me to do.
They do sometimes go out on a Monday evening - because I don't have uni until 1.30pm on a Tuesday, this doesn't bother me that much. - as long as they're quiet when they come in.
A lot of my problem is that my disability makes me very tired and means I need more sleep than most people - right now, I'm sleeping for 12+ hours a night. They can't understand this - no matter how much I explain it to them. They are also convinced I'm messing uo my eyesight by wearing my glasses all the time - I have no choice.
If it's in the contract that there should be peace and quiet, I would also be tempted to keep reminding the accomodation team of the noise going on, every time they do it. I would be more likely to go down this route after having tried to get my room changed by swapping first though as it might just antagonise the team into not helping you at all.
Also, is there some kind of warning system at the halls? At mine, people were supposed to be given warnings for various things - smoking and drinking where they shouldn't, making too much noise at unreasonable times etc. Actually worked pretty well, although it was only enforced for major things.
If there is some kind of warning system where you live, that might help? Are there wardens or something?
I have no idea about the warning system; but we do have wardens. However, they're hardly around after 4pm and at weekends.
I am back in London on Wednesday, so will see them then if they're around.