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Losing weight
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Me and a friend were talking the other day and we got into a debate about the way I plan on losing weight. Basically iam eating one meal a day and if I feel hungry I just have a drink or some fruit. She says I don't need to lose weight but I really really think I do. (I'm just over 9 stone and I'm 5ft 2ish) to me I think I look fat.
She says that it could develop into an eating disorder if I'm not careful, which I think it won't. I'm planing on getting down to just under 8 stone. I'm already writing down what meal I eat and how many calories I take in roughly a day. Does it sound like a problem? I don't think it does but I would like some truthful opinions please.
She says that it could develop into an eating disorder if I'm not careful, which I think it won't. I'm planing on getting down to just under 8 stone. I'm already writing down what meal I eat and how many calories I take in roughly a day. Does it sound like a problem? I don't think it does but I would like some truthful opinions please.
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One meal a day to me sounds a bit dangerous, not only cos of the disorder like your friend said but also i dont think its the most effective way to lose weight. Youd probably end up eating a huuuuge meal every day t keep you full which would then have no effect.
You need to be eating 3 healthy meals a day and exercising to be a healthy well balanced person if that's what you want to be. No point making yourself ill to achieve something. Do it the correct way and it'll be worth it and the results will be easier to manage and last longer.
*says the drunken bum
I know I probably don't need to lose that much weight but I hate my body now and I will do anything to lose weight. I will be doing exercise aswell as we have a gym. But I do know that one meal aday is not good, and I shouldn't do it but there's soomethin in the control that makes me want to.
It is not healthy, you won't get enough vitamins etc and you will put the weight back on once you start eating normally again.
If you wanna mess your body up then carry on but it seriously isnt the best way.
9 Stone is a very healthy weight for your height. Why not try toning up instead.
As others have mentioned, one meal a day is not a healthy way to lose weight and it does raise worries about your desire to control you're eating.
As Tweety says, once you start to eat normally again it's likley that you will put weight back on again quite quickly. Fast diets may have short term effects that you enjoy but in the long term the best way to keep weight off is a healthy 3 meals a day combined with regular exercise.
It's about adjusting your lifestyle and considering what foods you eat which does require a certain amount of self-discipline and patience.
You also mentioned that you 'hate your body' it may be worth thinking about your self-esteem as this can affect how you see yourself and how you think others see you too. Building this up and gaining a bit more confidence could help you to not place so much emphasis on how you feel about you body and be happier with the way you are.
Hope this helps
I agree with Tweety. Once you mention the word control it's no longer about just being disatisfied with your weight but going into the realms of a disorder.
All i can say is please try so much not to let this take over your life. I had to watch my best friend go through years of hell due to anorexia and it was heartbreaking. Luckily she's come through the other side but many don't :no:
You can be thin and healthy and happy.
Only once you realise that exercise alone isn't hitting your targets, then you adjust your diet accordingly.
Exercise first, adjust food second.
I disagree - there's an old saying in training/health circles:
"You can't out train a bad diet"
What people should be doing is adjusting your diet to include a more balanced coverage - a good balance of carbs, proteins and good fats, as well as increasing your activity levels.
There is no point whatsoever in starving yourself, nor is there any point in starting doing some exercise if all you are eating is junk.
...i don't just sit around and do nothing.
mmm, i'll have a look i think my highest intake of calories last week was about 1100.
I'm not just doing this for the sake of it, i know what will happen to my body. Its really hard to explain why i'am doing this but in a werid kind of way it feels right and if i eat something really fatty then the next day i don't eat. Then there is something about being starving and not letting myself eat make me feel better.
Then that indeed is the makings of some form of disorder. Nip this in the bud before it deteriorates.
Definately agree with this
ETA: i've just done a rough calculation and for maintainance you need roughly 1900 calories a day, dropping below 1200 will be terrible for you, maybe thats why you think your fat, (in addition to the underlying issue) your body is in starvation mode already and is just clinging onto every calorie you are putting in.
TBH, i'm not sure. It depends if I'm happy at 8 stone or if i wanna lose a little more. But i don't think i would go back to eating loads, and i will be doing a lot of exercise.
Obviously i'm not completely agreeing with you on that one, but i can see why you would think that.
Trust me, you can eat PLENTY of healthy food, provided you are working out. It's when you're eating loads of junk that your body goes downhill.
Funnily enough, people that tend to develop whatever disorders rarely see they have a problem until they're well down that road. :yeees: We've been through this with certainly one other board user I can think of.
Why don't you try looking at different ways of judging your body. For example your body fat percentage. That's a much healthier way of seeing how you're doing, and also, you get that lovely lean look that I assume you're looking for? Also, you could measure yourself (thighs, waist etc) and monitor progress. Weight is not a very good thing to use to set your goals.
thought you might say that :yeees:
:no:
voila
Eating more, and then also exercising more is the solution. If you have say 5 smaller meals a day than 3 big ones, you can actually get away with eating more food in total over the 5 portions than the three. As it is constantly keeping your metabolism up.
Technically it is, but there is nothing saying that I will develop an eating disorder of any kind. And yes I am being stubborn and probably pissing some people off.
And I know that if I do go back to eating normaly then I will probably put the weight on, but if I start to eat healthy when I get to 8 stone then it should be fine.
You asked for help, i am telling you how i see it, and how many others see it. If you arent prepared to see it then theres not much more anyone can do.
You asked for advice, if you don't want to listen to it then theres no point saying any more.
Feeling its about control IS on way or already an eating disorder. If you choose to ignore that then its up to you.
I'm sure any professtional would tell you the same.
But if you want to wreck your body go ahead.
it's not that I'm not listening and it's not that I'm not prepared to take the advice given. I have read every post and thought about what people are saying, but this ISNT a walk in the park for me, it's not something I can stop without hating myself! I have no idea what to do and I'm really scared. So I'm sorry if I can't just see sense and stop. My way of dealing with it is defending it because if I admit I'm wrong then I admit I have a problem. I'm just trying to get a wider perspective on things, so sorry for pissing everyone off.