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I'm a 14 year old girl and i cant make myself come
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I need your help.
I've been with my boyfriend 4 over a year but we have not had sex yet.
But we do 4play and oral alot.
We do this nearly everytime we find some time alone.
My sex drive is crazy. But i never reach orgasm. And i know that alot of women never reach it but i really want to. I've masterbated 4 40 mins at the longest and never came. It still felt good but i really wana get there.
My boyfriend has licked me for atleast 15 mins each time and fingered 4 an hour but i never get there and by then his hand is almost fit to drop off. Lol. :razz:
What should i do. Any tips?
XXXX
I've been with my boyfriend 4 over a year but we have not had sex yet.
But we do 4play and oral alot.
We do this nearly everytime we find some time alone.
My sex drive is crazy. But i never reach orgasm. And i know that alot of women never reach it but i really want to. I've masterbated 4 40 mins at the longest and never came. It still felt good but i really wana get there.
My boyfriend has licked me for atleast 15 mins each time and fingered 4 an hour but i never get there and by then his hand is almost fit to drop off. Lol. :razz:
What should i do. Any tips?
XXXX
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I myself know what you're talking about. I've never been able to bring myself to orgasm aged 23. I've had many boyfriends over the years and only 2 have been able to make me cum.
The first guy took a year to make it happen and the second one gets near lockjaw when he tries. You're not alone and to be fair I'm not even sure what advice I can give you except that going down on you for 15 mins is probably not long enough. You need to be able to tell him to go "Up a bit,down a bit....a bit harder" (Ie. Directions to what feels good) until you can understand what feels good for you.
Can I also just advise you that sex probably wouldn't make any difference, if anything be able to cum through penetrative sex is more difficult. In fact I can't cum that way unless I've been able to cum through oral stimulation.
Sometimes if you think about cuming it can put you off and if anything you should concentrate on the feeling your having at the time rather than "What could be"..... you'll get there in the end I assure you.
Happy New Year
Xxx
I dont want to have sex yet and im very happy that ive managed to wait a year. But i really would love to have that experience.
It must feel amazing. It aint fair that its so easy for guys to come.
For us its not!
Also, you're only 14 and as most have said already, they didnt have an orgasm until they were much older. Just give it time and patience and dont concentrate or worry about it too much.
Once you know what feels good for you, and how you can make yourself orgasm, it will be easier.
xx
why hello there
let me direct you to our resident sex guru who may be able to help; stargalaxy!
Yeah that could help. You're still young, I'm sure it'll happen soon enough.
Just enjoy all the good feeling you get and you never know when you'll.. erm.. pop?
Shouldnt you be getting your first ipod at 14 instead of a vibrator?
I'm very excited. Hahahahah.
Yeah thats kinda wierd....................I donno. I dont get much enjoyment out of it. Thats why i want to reach orgasm.
It will feel good.
But what i do now doesnt feel that great.
I was forced to grow up fast when my parents split up. My mum was a suicidal alcho and my dad grew smoked and sold weed. I was left with my dad and at the age of 5 i had to walk 3 miles to school every dad on a busy road and home again. I had to cook my own dinner and look after myself. I would only see my dad for an hour or two every day and at that time he was usually stoned. I was beaten and nearly raped by some lad who was drunk in my house one day.
I had to grow up fast and was very mature 4 my age. I am now 14 and i'm alot further ahead than most kids. But sadly very messed up and confused. Suicidal and depressed.
Its a very long story but thats most of it. Everythings better now though. My dad remarried and is all better. My mum remarried too and is living in england.
I'm in Ireland with my new family.
you are too young to have sex, remember that its against the law, but going solo is fine!
just persevere!
I read that as "perverse", which it certainly isn't!
I'm anoyed because sex isnt as good as i thought.
I think it's more likely that you'll orgasm by yourself the first time as you are more aware of what feels good for you, because they cant feel what you do :P
Lay back, relax, think about sexy things, let your hand wander and see what happens :P
How do you know if you haven't had sex with him?
Sex is great.
It dont feel too good and i want it to be better.
I try be creative and try new things.
Ive got the karma suitra and lots of other books and read about tips.
But i guess its better to figure it out for your self.
But last year we went through a rough patch and broke up for two months.
Before then we use to do sex stuff every time we got to be alone.
(8 times a week)
I always make him come. ALWAYS!
He rarely makes me come.
We got back together 3 months ago and have only done sex stuff 6 times in thise three months.
I prefure this because it makes it more special.
But he cant make me orgasm.
And now he knows i'm getting a vibrator and want to make myself orgasm hes mad because he wanted to bring me there.
But to be honest...I'm sick of waiting for him.
He promised me a year ago he would get me there and he hasnt even tried! :no:
just like for the other way round tho, there shouldnt be an obligation to make the other person come. . . he may be self concious that he can't make you come and so feels insecure i dunno. just another flipside
14 is still pretty young either which way
Hes not happy that i want to try it myself cause he promised.
But i dont know how i could help him.
What if i used a vibrator on my clit while he fingered me?
Would that help?
What does it feel like when your coming to orgasm?
Sex (including foreplay and oral) can be crap. Particularly when you overthink it.
But sex can also be absolutely amazing and mindblowing. Including foreplay and oral.
Also, without meaning to sound too patronizing, you are still very young. Take your time, don't rush things and it will all soon fall into place.
I just always feel guilty when hes doing me and i'm worrying ''what do i look like, the sounds im making are they too weird, is he bored, she i just say ive already come to let him have some fun,''
I cant help it its just the way i am.
What should i do?
Its like a wave of pleasure and you so wont get there thinking thoughts like that. I don't always orgasm but I always have a good time in bed with my partner. Try just enjoying whats going on, experiment with new things and don't worry about letting go and enjoying yourself.
I was having fun with my boyfriend and i felt it really build up but then we had to go before i got there.
im sure it will happen soon dont worry!