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I'm a 14 year old girl and i cant make myself come
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Yep, it could do
nooooo, ipods don't fit there well id imagine?
just for the record, i was 18 when my boyfriend made me come....
Anyway, I might not be as helpful as the women in this thread - I am male afterall, just with intense knowledge on women - i'm only kidding.
I'm suppose to be getting a vibrator soon. But I'm too shy to go into a shop myself and i would probably get kicked out.
But I dont look 14. I could easyly pass as 16.
I wouldn't worry, I'm 15 and have had sex several times with my long term boyfriend. He's never made me come, and we've been sexually active for nearly a year.
As for doing it for myself, it usually takes me anything from half an hour to an hour.
I find it a lot harder to come when I'm stressed or upset about something.
It helps to fantasise, apparently a lot of women do so - and don't feel guilty if you don't fantasise about your boyfriend or if you think about something that you usually wouldn't like to do!
No-one has to know what you think about.
You could also fantasise when your boyfriend is doing his stuff - he's not a mind reader!
I know it can be seen as a myth, but some foods help too - known as aphrodisiacs - if you haven't already try researching these?
Keep at it!!
xxx
Oh? Like what? Turtle Soup?
Simba will kill you for saying that!
The only way I orgasm is by leading up to it slowly instead of just jumping straight in there lol.
Try and be vocal about it, tell him if you like it when he does something I know that if I let my boyfriend do his own thing I'd never get there
actually sometimes it is easier to cum while having sex.
A vibrator may well help - instead of the 'traditional' ones, you might find that the egg shaped ones are easier to handle and hold against your clit (and the one I use is so powerful I never need to use the 'high' setting.
I would advise thinking of something you find sexy and arousing - whatever fantasy you can come up with (and share it with your bf so you can both really get involved in it).
You should also not worry about what you look like or the noises you are making - being able to let go of your inhibitions during sex definitely makes it better. The fact that your bf wants to make you cum and has been with you for so long means that he isn't likely to rub off jst because you start moaning or make a funny face! My bf loves it when I make lots of noise and it doesn't matter if I'm moaning, panting or screaming 'fuck me, make me cum'!
I think all the advice on here pretty much sums up to - just relax and enjoy whatever you feel. If you cum, you cum, if not, you can still enjoy the feeling of arousal. Over time, this will build up and you'll get there as long as you don't worry about it.
another one here thinking this GIRL is WAY too young to have this problem
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i'm 19 and have this problem as im on a high dose of anti depressants and ant anxiety meds. thats a problem.
1...I dumped my boyfriend.
2...Im a complete nut case and on anti depressants.
3...it was my bday and now im 15.
and 4...i still havent made myself come!!!! :mad:
yo are way too young for sex and this includes playing around as you are doing
i am sorry but this is because i was still being sexually abuse when i was 14.
you need to let yourself be a child for longer
you have the rest of your life to find out about sex
waiting a couple more years is not hard to do
As upset as you may be about having split up with your bf, try not to let it get to you too much - you will find someone else and having a bit of time alone might be good to help get yourself sorted out.
I know it's easy to give advice, but try not to worry about things as much. If you end up with another guy or a girl, it doesn't matter, as long as they are someone who you like and will take care of you (and you will take care of).
As for the not cumming issue, I can't imagine how frustrating that must be, but how about you spend a few evenings just gently playing with yourself without trying to cum. The more you do that, the more it might take the pressure off while still getting you excited. After a while of doing this, you might find that you can cum without too much effort.
I agree, try not to put yourself back on the market too soon, life is too short for getting involved in relationships. And please do not put yourself out their straight away and be sluttly!
Take your time, and enjoy the freedom!
thats what i thought! Your 14, arnt you abit young for all of this? When i was 14, none of this even occured to me, and yeah, i may sound like a little old lady, but im nearly 17, so im not. I only started doing all this about a year ago, so im not going to lie, i was a little shocked when i read this. I think age could have something to do with it, you are kinda young, so maybe thats why?
It's much more preferable to having sex with someone at that age because it doesn't come with the risks and it's a good way of getting to know yourself.
I don't see why people are getting so uppity about someone exploring themselves sexually at an age when (I'm assuming) they've hit puberty... You get natural urges at this age and it's not helpful hearing people tell you what you're doing is wrong. It's not.
I think the best thing to do is not go looking to orgasm. Just enjoy the feelings and focus on the pleasure without coming, it'll happen eventually.
However when I was 14 (4 years ago!) I could never reach climax and I would get frustrated.
I can't make my self come either
Not tried toys as of yet but my sex drive has gone really high so a purchase might be in order! haha.
sorry =/
Same
The girls I have been with have almost always had the same problem. Whether it was fingering, oral or intercourse, some girls took a lot longer to come than others. One girl I was with never comed at all. She never even managed to on her own and with about 5 different vibrators. She was 19 at the time too.
It's a common thing so don't feel like you have to rush to make yourself orgasm. It will come naturally when you're relaxed and really get into it.
Hope you can find some help in these comments!
x Andy