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I'm still awaiting the dreaded results but all I can think about is what happens when or IF i get them, how do I leave home. I'm very attached to my mum, my boyfriend is leaving to go travelling, and all my friends are staying home.
It sounds really pathetic and I spoke to some friends who have gone to uni, who said if i get upset that people will laugh at me and the last thing I want to do is scare people off before I've even spoken to any one.
I feel home sick (odd seeing as I haven't left yet), so much so that I think about not going before I've even got there, and if I have got in, then it's such a waste of a place especially as I've been so excited. It just seems such a distance as it is 4 hours away and I've never really been away for home, not longer than a week or two.
I spoke to my parents about bein worried about 6 months ago, and they said that it would get better. But it hasn't. Theres now 7 weeks to go before I leave and I don't know what to do.
It sounds really pathetic and I spoke to some friends who have gone to uni, who said if i get upset that people will laugh at me and the last thing I want to do is scare people off before I've even spoken to any one.
I feel home sick (odd seeing as I haven't left yet), so much so that I think about not going before I've even got there, and if I have got in, then it's such a waste of a place especially as I've been so excited. It just seems such a distance as it is 4 hours away and I've never really been away for home, not longer than a week or two.
I spoke to my parents about bein worried about 6 months ago, and they said that it would get better. But it hasn't. Theres now 7 weeks to go before I leave and I don't know what to do.
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You have to leave home at some point, or most people do, and one of the best ways to do it is along with a group of people doing exactly the same thing with the same worries. Just bite the bullet and go for it. You'd regret it so much I think if you got the grades, but passed up the chance to go to university. And there'll be so much to do when you get there, all stuff designed to take your mind off homesickness. And, failing all else, you can always come home at the weekends
Not really, I loved being away from home. Then again I've been spending longish periods away from my home since I was 12.
It might get you down sometimes but just think about coming back on holidays, and ring back whenever you feel down. Though I bet you won't be too bad, when you get there and meet the new people, new places etc you'll hardly ever think about home. :thumb:
unfortunately a lot of them let it get the better of them. they'd be goin home every time they could, always calling, never quite seperating themselves enough and its that that makes uni hard.
throw yourself in there. give it your best shot. it all works out fine in the end.
What's worrying you?
Balls, I can imagine that being the case for someone going somewhere miles and miles away on their own. In a lot of cases though, people go to unis where they know people there and is relatively close to home. I was lucky enough to have one my good mates be my next door neighbour in halls by pure chance. :eek:
Only the one's in P&D mate.
Basically as others have said, you have to leave home at some point - unless that is you want to become one of those freaks who live with their elderly parent and say things like 'Yes mother, I know, but that dress doesnt fit anymore'.
So, knowing full well that it has to come, you have to move out and stand on your own two feet what better place to do this than uni? The answer of course is none, you will be surrounded by people, your days will be filled with this and that, and best of all you wont have to do stupid grown up things like working.
Obviously though if you have never been away from home before it is going to be scary, I think the best policy to avoid this is to be prepared, know how to cook, how to shop for food, how to budget, how to wash clothes....etc.
As for not having to work, aren't you being a tad naive? My understanding is that most students have to work in order to survive financially these days. Having done the maths, I'm almost certain that I will have to work. Indeed, getting a job is one of the first things I'll have to do. Currently, I work six days per week, (around 48 hours a week) and the student life of going to a couple of lectures, and having little to do for the rest of the day doesn't appeal to me. Will I be dismissed as a humourless, lifeless droid for saying it? Almost certainly. Does it bother me? Nope.
Heading off to uni can be a daunting prospect but its also going to be a lot of fun! It's totally normal to be nervous about moving away from home for the first time and leaving friends and family behind- as others have already mentioned you will meet many other students in the same situation who feel exactly how you feel. Living in university halls you will meet lots of new people and will make new friends I'm sure.
I suggest you take a look at http://www.thestudentroom.co.uk/ if you haven't already visited it. You will be able to find threads relating to how you are feeling and also talk with people who are heading to the same university that you are starting at.
Yes, a large section of students do a bit of work on the side during term time and then during the holidays, but its far from the kind of thing you'll do after university.
Basically put uni is a quasi-adult environment, you get to do adult things like looking after yourself, drinking, parties etc. but with little of the normal responsibilities of an adult - Enjoy it!
If you hate the idea so much why are you going? Its a time to learn and enjoy yourself!
You like working long hours? ugh I can't stand it. I miss student days, I liked having free hours where I could do things like volunteering, see friends, wander about. When you work full time there is no time to do anything!
Katchika: Yep, I do like working the long hours. It certainly keeps me busy, and keeps my bank account looking healthy. Right now, I'm concentrating on filling up the coffers. If university is going to give me huge debts, I might as well do all I can to alleviate that.
Also try here.
My sister has made lots of friends by using that site :yes:.
You're lucky to be able to go, act like it.
Stop talking shit mate. Seriously, you haven't a clue what you're on about.
Well go and be a miserable arse then. What do you actually want? Uni is a great opportunity, you either want to take advantage or you dont. We certainly cant force you to enjoy it or take part - I can only stress that if you're going to go you might as well enjoy it.
lol so true.
Whether you accept it or not you are lucky to go to uni, its a great way to spend three years - I hope you realise that before you mentally crap all over something you've no experience of.
In all seriousness I was only let onto my course because I was a girl wanting to do engineering but I prooved that I deserved to be there through hard work.
I hated uni when I first went but I refused to give up and after Christmas I made some great friends and started to really enjoy myself and for the rest of the 4 years it was fantastic. You just have to be prepared to stick it out.