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I'm glad i'm not the only one. If you want to have a lads/girls holiday, get out of your tree and shag about, then don't have a partner tbh.
But surely thats the whole idea of going on a lads/girls holiday?!
Why can't you do it single? How anyone can have fun cheating on their partner is beyond me tbh. Maybe i'm just old fashioned and not 'with it'.
You can do it single, but i'd see no problem doing it when i was in a relationship. What they won't know can't hurt them etc. Those sorts of holidays are all supposed to be about having a laugh.
So cheating is ok? If someone considers cheating just a laugh, then they're not mature enough to be in a relationship really. It's not fair on the other person, if you want to sleep around, then be single. Not rocket science.
Well sometimes it is, sometimes it isn't. We'd be here all day if i was to explain my warped view on cheating!
Lacy, you spanner...
Lol next time i'll make sure i read every one of your posts...or not
Lol Whatever floats your boat I suppose.
It *would* make sense. I always speak the trooof! :P
Somehow, whenever you join in, everything goes off topic. BAD Lacy.
Just let him go. If he gets fucked, he gets fucked. You'll never know and you'll go mad from the what ifs.
*shudders*
:thumb: If you are going to do that you are either in an open relationship or single in my books otherwise what is the point in a so called "relationship?"....sweet FA.
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I'm not one to judge but it does make me sad that there are a lot of people around who are like that.
But maybe I'm old fashioned!
Aye - to be honest, I think it's far more common than most people realise... Mainly due to this many times mentioned 'Rule'.
Still, I'm single, so I'm all good
Common or not, cheating is cheating under any circumstances. And if you do it, you're a twat.
:yippe: :thumb:
I think it's terrible!! I was pretty shocked to realise this is a pretty standard 'rule' to be honest....and what (I think it was) Lacy said about "what they don't know can't hurt them" - what about YOU knowing you've cheated on someone? Even if they never ever find out, you're quite happy to know in yourself that you cheat, that's what you do, those are your morals and that's just fine?? :eek2: Find it quite disturbing tbh...:(
Yeah, a lot of people can deal with 'guilt' better than others. I am brilliant at it as I rarely feel guilty about anything... A lack of a conscience is a god-send in certain situations and so me knowing that I would have been a cheat wouldn't bother me. Sounds twattish, I know, but I can't think of a better way of explaining it right now (just about to run out of the office to the gym again...). I just try my best to avoid situations where I would be getting myself into trouble... and I *usually* succeed.
But yes, there are many occasions when this rule applies.
Lads/girls holidays.
Lads/girls nights out.
Stag/Hen dos.
Etc etc etc etc.
Or really really bad at it, depending on your point of view...:rolleyes: What's so great about knowing you can do something wrong without feeling bad about it afterwards? I think guilt as such is a useless emotion, but if you're devoid of the ability to recognise & acknowledge you've done something wrong, I just find that very disturbing....:no:
And can you give any examples of situations where you think having a lack of conscience is useful pleeeze?:thumb:
Agreed.
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Personally, if I was with someone I wouldn't go away, cheat on them and then come back acting as though nothing has happened. Surely if someone is happy enough then they'd have no reason to cheat?
But surely if i knew i was gonna feel bad, i wouldn't do it in the first place?! It's totally not a problem for me. I wouldn't say it's disturbing though, i just have no conscience.
I don't think that is the point... People can be 100% happy and still cheat - it's just a case of whether or not the opportunity arises and if the temptation is too great. Heck, it's that old adage - if you *knew* your partner would never find out and some really REALLY hot person was wanting to jump your bones... would you? I think many people would, even if they're trying to be all decent in front of everybody and say "Of course not, I'm in love with XXXX etc etc etc etc". Really, if the chance came up, I think many people would change their mind.
Exactly.
... and THIS is where not feeling guilty would come in as an excellent thing.
No, no, no. I *know* I have done something wrong - I just don't care. It's not disturbing... It's just the way some people are. I'm in the same boat as Lacy here - if I didn't want to do something as I knew I would feel bad, I wouldn't do it.
You see, to me, life is too short for regrets, and so I have very very few. Shit happens, you should just deal with it or not do it at all. Black and white to me.
We wouldn't love you any other way.
Finally someone that understands! Having no conscience doesn't mean i'm a totally heartless bitch, it just means that i have fun and am not particularly fussed about the consequences.
Good. I was starting to get a complex that i was evil
BUT - if somebody is hitting on me, and they have a boyfriend, I generally wouldn't give a shit and would go with them as to me, that's THEIR problem. THEY are the ones that are attached etc etc and so if THEY are coming onto me, THEY are giving me the green light. Not my problem if they have a bust up about it.
Hahaha - you know my thoughts on these things Life's just too short so sit there crying over spilt milk!