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I'm not unreligious, I have sex. It's a lazy point used by people who don't have a better one.
Some people just click in the bedroom. That I know from experience. People are guranteed to change that much and at least you start off on a good one.
Taking out all the "my mate" caveats, you did actually:)
You were implying that people who wait are "often" coerced into doing this through "guilt" and "sinful feelings", not because they actually feel its important to them. Why else use the plethora of "my mate ses" examples?
Yeah, some people do just click in the bedroom.
Normally because they either hate or love each other- passion is the driving force. If you have passion you'll have good sex, and if you're getting married I'd expect to see some passion there.
I personally waited until I was in love first time. (And still am with the same guy)
Would hated to have waited until marriage but understand why some people do wait.
who said it was?
yes, i'd want to have sex with someone before i married them. i'd also want to live with them, talk to them, laugh with them, travel with them, deal with problems with them, do things with them, cry with them, eat with them, sleep with them, do everything i might want to do with them. i would want to know them inside out before i made that kind of commitment.
no, no one can look into the future and say that they will never change, but surely it's not a stupid idea to want to be as sure as you can be that everything will work out?
and i don't think that being sexually compatible with someone that you love is necessarily a given.
If the only thing holding you back from having sex is the fear of being a 'sinner' then I think that's sad.
Because of the commitment. Marriage is about far more than just being in love and having great sex.
I think its sad too to not do something through fear of being "sinful", but it's naive to say that anyone who waits is doing it because of it being "sinful". Some people want to wait for the commitment, and I really don't understand the bile towards those people.
The best marriages are ones where the partners are best friends, not best lovers.