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I don't know any women who see it as fun, not when you talk to them seriously about it. They might pretend its "fun" so they don't end up having to justify their feelings to arseholes.
That's absurd. Yes, that would be highly unfortunate, but you're talking a small exception.
Anyway, a bunch of women tarted up in short skirts (the sort who attract leering) are obviously looking for male attention.
You cannot go round treating everybody with kid gloves. It's stupid.
It's not to clever to aim it at women on their own either, but a group of women then I really see no problem.
Ah fuck up would ya...you're just assuming that. How do you know some girls actually do like it. Afraid it won't conform to your idea of gendered attitudes in modern society or something.
Really? You must know some strange women then.
Slow down Tonto, no need to resort to the playground just because I disagree with you.
You say you don't know any women who see it as fun - perhaps the ones you've spoken to don't want to justify their feelings to arseholes.....
I was trying to make myself look good for somebody.
No. I've just asked my sister what she thought on this, and she replied that she really doesn't mind and often thinks it's funny.
Obviously.... because Im sure women dont wear clothes just because they feel or look nice. In the summer for example, I'm sure its more comfortable for a girl to wear a skirt than trousers.
Im not suprised that its the usual suspects acting without respect for others.
Because quite a lot of people, especially lone women, do feel nervous when a car full of lads starts slowing down, beeping the horn, shouting things.
And they're right to. The men doing it are at fault, not the people for feeling it. That's what it boils down to.
Yes, it is just meant as a bit of fun, a compliment. But it can be seen as threatening. And why should someone have to deal with it just because of some selfish braindead neanderthal?
I'm sure some people do find it fun. But most women don't; as Blaggy says, they just pretend to because it's easier. Most women I know would rather the neanderthals would just sod off and leave them alone.
I said that "I don't know any women that like it". And I don't. What the fuck that has to do with "gendered attitudes in modern society", I don't know, apart from making you look like a twat.
How old is your sister?
So it;s wrong to comment upon what other people look like?
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Oh for fucks sake. :mad: :rolleyes:
Young then. IME younger women are less likely to think about it in any serious way.
I doubt you're her type mate
Women do it a hell of a lot aswell. Is that wrong?
I haven't. If you think that arsehole comment applied to you, then maybe that's telling you something eh?
I completely agree.
But it's not "treating someone with kid gloves" to keep your lip buttoned and your hand off the horn.
It wouldn't be as threatening with a group, but people I know would certainly prefer it didn't happen. And it shouldn't.
Unless you know someone likes it, you should assume they don't. I don't think that's unreasonable.
Do you really think its the same?
If they're tarted up and obviously looking for attention then i think it's a safe bet they ain't going to be bothered by a few rowdy compliments.
Nah you usually come out with some shit about society and how people act within the context and bla bla bla. Some women do like it, is it so hard to grasp this simple concept. Maybe that's your weak point, trying to find out complex meanings to simple everyday things.
Kermit, why should the woman feel vulnerable, weak? If I was a woman and didn't like it I'd give them the fingers or chuck a brick at the car...and you say that rape victims might feel even more vulnerable, I thought being the victim of a rape and seeking advice for would just strengthens a woman's convictions.
I haven't come across it half as much. Round here it tends to be tossers in Novas that do it.
But the ones that do do it, yeah, it is wrong.
But as has been explained countless times before, the social dynamics are different that way around. Women don't tend to get a knife and drag you down an alleyway before raping you, do they?
Why not just cut to chase and explain why you think it ain't?
So because a man's stronger means it's different. Ok?????
So they're asking for it are they?
Are you really this dumb? Or are you trolling again?