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The advice from before stands still.
If you don't have anyone its because you isolate yourself. Simple fact.
Quit moaning, start doing.
I have fucking told you a thousand times i do things! im trying to get a new job, im trying to move i try to make friends i try to chat to people so dont fucking tell me i dont do anthing.
Just fuck up out of my threads because your 'advice' doesnt help me at all and just makes me feel worse!
Thanks for taking one single line out of context kate, as i said its one of MANY things that have happened recently, on its own it means sod all, but when you add all the little things together it adds up into something pretty big!
So tell me what went right about me asking my boss if i can work from home and then crying and telling him my reasons for wanting to move (no friends, not happy, wana die etc)
Tell me what went right about all the interviews ive had where the feedback is 'You were really good like everyone else but they just didnt choose you'.
Tell me what is good about people going 'just kill yourself and get it over with because your a waste of space'.
Tell me what is good having fucking Kermit tell me im pathetic and dont do anything and just whinge all day long cos i obviously post here 24 fucking 7. I so fucking want to hit something right now or just drop dead. But even that wont happen!
In my considered opinion you don't.
From what you write you try for three minutes, and then give up as it "failed".
Hate to break it to you, but Rome wasn't built in a day.
If you want to whinge without anyone commenting on it, then go and post on LiveJournal.
This is a public board. I will comment when I want, and saying what I want. You don't like it, then tough cheese.
ever heard the phrase 'shit happens'? well, it does. shit happens to you and to me, and to every other person on these board.
and we all have three choices:
1. whine about it.
2. do something to change it.
3. learn to live with it and appreciate the things we do have/love/do.
take it from me, 2 and 3 make for a MUCH happier life.
Take her advice.
If your problem is that you feel that you're alone, you have nobody and no job is available to you, then you should reconsider your approach to these. Of course, it's common sense that whineing will get you nowhere - which is true.
If you don't have anybody, get somebody. You could meet people through a new job or a university. There are universities for your age - which will not only force you to socialise, but improve your chances of getting that ideal job. Today it is quite hard getting well-paid and satisfying job places.
If you don't do anything, then you have literally throwed your life away, which I don't see any reason for you to do.
Good luck
NO ONE owes you anything. That's right.
No one owes you friendship. No one owes you respect.
If you want friendship, you have to make people like you. If you want respect, you have to earn it from others.
It also means you don't owe other people anything. If someone is bad to you, ignore them or be bad back. You don't owe them anything.
i also think you buying presents for people you don't like is weird. you should only buy presents for someone you are close to and who you know will buy you back. it sounds to me like you're trying to buy friendship and its a bit creepy.
This post of Kermit's seems incredibly helpful to me. You don't seem to have paid much attention to it. Instead you've picked up on every little negative thing he said after it.
You're wallowing. You're just listing every single crappy thing that's happened to you. How's that going to help? If we were figuring it out by lists, I have had the shittest years of my life recently. So much shite has happened, you wouldn't believe it. I could go on for hours. But I don't. I don't look at every tiny thing and say 'this means my life is terrible' oh no poor little me. It doesn't help anyone and it's not important. You need to change your whole outlook, stop seeing every tiny thing that happens as the end of the world. So you get turned down for a job? Just think well maybe that job would have been shit anyway, maybe somehow fate's saved you from a really crappy workplace. And move on.
Seriously, just try and have a more positive outlook. I know it's easier said than done, but if you start counting up the little things that happen you're just going to depress yourself more and more.
Yes.
Unless there's a benefit for the company, it's not happening.
Unless you're out all day meeting clients (or suchlike), working from home, from my point of view, is awful. You sit at home all day, you have even less social contact. The balance between work and home life is very hard to keep reasonable, because it's always there. Motivation can be damn near impossible.
Believe me, I've worked from home for the past few months (finishing soon, woo), and it has made me utterly miserable. It's given me the benefit of a location change, but that's it. It's half-negated the positive effects of the change in location.
Break your problems down to bitesize chunks, and guzzle one bit at a time.
People here sympathise with you - many have been in the same situation and many have offered some bloody brilliant advice - including those you have told to F off.
So, put things into perspective and realise that nice things DO happen to you - look how many replies you have and be glad there are kind people around who take the time to read about your problems and respond, rather than throwing it back in their faces.
I'm not denying that you have many difficulties in life and that there are reasons behind your behaviour that we can never understand simply from communicating via a discussion board, but your defensive nature is not going to help you find friends - either online or offline.
Please try to take people's advice on board more - you never know, it might help.