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add ma an il talk to u babe
life is worth livin i swear
Ok not sure if you are old enough (18) but that never stopped my bro (tut tut!) so I guess if you don't want to do that try another sort of hobby. Do you read? I know this sounds really sad but when I am down (not in the same league as you obv) I read in the bath, music on. Read anything books about funny stuff, serious thought provoking books, trashy magazines. Relaxes me.
Don't give up-what if you become someone in the animation world who creates the next big thing like pixar did?
Most importantly use this place-even if you don't listen to the advice and need to make more threads we will be here for you honest! Need a chat with someone who doesn't know the in's and outs of depression so therefore a bit of a numpty to chat about crap with, pm me.
Yes, it's hard. Yes, it means that you are stepping into the unknown. And yes, you might end up not meetiong any friends.
But that's looking at the glass half empty.
Consider it half full... do something constructive off your own back and it'll raise your self esteem, improve your communication skills (whether you end up with best mates at the end of it or not), and you'll feel proud of yourself for getting up and doing something.
None of use can tell you WHAT to do - that's the hard bit that you've got to work out. Try lots of things... one might just strike a chord and make you feel more happy and satisfied. The alternative? Continue as you are.
One thing I think you should do right now is take a look at our sister website www.do-it.org.uk - it's all about volunteering and lists thousands of opportunities. Stick your postcode in and see what comes up near you - it might provide some inspiration.
Finally, you seem to be focusing a lot on female companionship. Why not try and find some male friends - it's likely that loads of guys out there will share your interest in computer/animation.
Franki is right, it is very hard to try and help someone who is not prepared to help themselves, and you run the risk of them giving up.
Your hobby sounds like one lots of people would be interested in. If there are no groups you could join for this, why not try and create your own?
Please look into talking to a professional, even if it's just a phone call to the samaritans, rather than full weekly sessions of counselling.
Good Luck.
Yes, and you're a really good example of someone who has made that effort to help themselves. Your first posts were very similar to this thread and now here you are offering good advice to others. Maybe NeoNero should look at some of your first posts to see what a change a year can make
If NeoNero took that advice literally, he'd have to go to THREE site meets in the next year, though!
Ooo, that's a good idea, try going to a thesite meet, NeoNero :yes:
In the end i decided to stay at home.
And i have tried to do stuff, today i asked my boss if i could work from home a few days a week so that i could then live somewhere else during them days and make new friends and have a new life. It ended up with him saying he doesnt think it'd be a good idea cos he'd need me in the office every day and that if that happened he'd probably have to replace me. I then got really upset and then he started asking why i wana move so i said its cos i wanted friends and thats just made things worst and now im crying my eyes out cos nothing goes right for me even when i do try to change things
My head really hurts.
I text someone saying can they please call me as im really sad and its really important. They text back saying 'I thought you said it was important'. No one cares, nothing goes right for me, maybe im not meant to be happy, maybe im just cursed
Kepp trying
Getting to a meet would be good for you, I think
To reiterate, the things I think you could try are getting to a thesite meet, and talking to someone professionally qualified to deal with depression. I think you also need to keep trying for that new job. The job market is tough, there are many rejections, but you need to not take the rejections personally. How about going back to college/university? Or just an evening class set up by your local council? I'm not sure where you live, but Birmingham has many many adult education classes at many different venues. Even if this doesn't help you to make friends, it will give you something else to focus on and work to achieve.
Keep going, good luck
I asked someone to call me cos im v.sad and its important. their reply was 'i thought you said it was important.
I told someone else on msn just now what happened and that i want to die and they replied 'just die then' so i said thanks for being my friend and for being there for me and i blocked them and then they text me saying 'just kill yourself, i have no patience for you, get a life or lose it'
You probably all think im making it up, i only wish i was
Working from home, though seems a good idea, would break down your social interactions hugely...and that wouldn't be benificial.
People here are full of a lot of good advice, they are wise. We've spoken and I'm limited as to what I can say now, as I've said everything.
I don't block you. I sometimes leave the computer running but just cause I'm not there doesn't mean an email from you wouldn't get my full attention. From the perspective of your friend, it's hard hearing you so sad. How you find girls all the same as, being one, I can't win with any retalliation because "you would say that" or "yeah but girls are different round here".
I hate hearing it when you say you want to die, or you're going to kill yourself that night because I'm helpless, and I can only recommend how to help yourself. I want to help you but it's hard when you won't help yourself, and you threaten me/your friends/people you know with suicide threats and the such. It's frightening and I fear for you sometimes.
Please, just listen to what people say...do things that people suggest - I'm hopefully coming to the meet, and I'll natter away to you no end
I also talk to you outside of this site, and Malteser is completely right, it could be me saying all this too. Please listen to the advice here.
Or wallow in self-pity?
If I were you, I'd ignore these people who are horrible to you. Or beat them down. It's the way of the fist. :yes:
NeoNero - come to the next meet. I know you were wanting to come to the last one, and backed out, but I think you should come. The people that go are really friendly. Sg went to the January one despite everyone hating him back then, so I really think you should give it a go. Nobody's gonna think you're weird when stargalaxy's there ;p. And sg is a good example of how things can change if you just think more positively. Come to the meet, talk to people. We're nice, honest.
There are so many examples on here of people who have managed to turn their lives around from depression. Maybe not completely, but nearly. Stargalaxy, littlemissy, Kermit, me even. Not two weeks ago I was wallowing in my own self pity, now I'm happier than I've been in ages cause I started thinking "fuck this, I don't wanna feel like this anymore" and it worked, and I'm more motivated, I have a wonderful boyfriend, and I'm actually getting on with my life. It may have something to do with the AD's, but not totally.
If you want to talk, PM me, PM sg, PM anyone. Everyone on this site (apart from a certain troll named monotwat) will be happy to help you.
subtle
So in short, no i just tell people how i feel on msn and never in public. And only reason i talk about sad stuff is nothing good happens to me. Like today first time in ages someone has txt me and it was my ex telling me NOT to buy her and xmas present and all sorts of other stuff i dont wana go into cos it'd be wrong and she reads here too i think. Every day something bad happens, never anything good.
And id like to go to the meet but i dont know anyone, and wouldnt know where to meet people or who im looking for and would have nothing to say there anyways so no one will chat to me and you'll think im werid cos all i'll do is listen to everyone else and not say a word and i dont drink anyways. I just want someone to go with me really, but who'd honestly wana do that. Thats why i didnt go last time too
bullshit.
if someone smiles at you, if a song you like comes on the radio, if you eat something yummy, if you get a nice reply on thesite, if the sun comes out, if you buy something new, if you win solitaire, if there's a happy story in the paper, then something good happens.
you can't tell me none of those things ever happen, because quite frankly i don't believe you. it doesn't have to be a miracle to be something good.
A reply here doesnt make me happy as such, when i say good things, i mean really good things, maybe someone texting me to invite me out or someone asking how i am or i duno, just something nice happening to me thats unexpected. Instead its just stuff that makes me cry.
That's life, no one smiles at me when I walk down the street. Do you smile at them?
I feel exactly the same, I have NeoNero on my list too and I try to talk to him, but he has threatened to kill himself and every suggestion I have given in ways that might help him are completely thrown aside with an excuse as to why it will never work. NeoNero you need proper help and I have told you this. The responses on here should show you that people are thinking of you and care enough to take the time to give you some advice. You need to stop being negative though and try to be positive about things
You need to start seeing the good in small things seriously, these are the things that will begin to change your attitude to life.
Again, neither did I. I didn't even know the way to Baker St and had to try and figure out the tubes by myself. I'll meet you, like I said in my PM.
Again, see your PMs.
That's pretty much what I did at the first one, and nobody thought I was weird.
Neither do I.
I told you I would meet you last time. I had to get a train on my own and figure out the tubes on my own at the first one to go and meet a whole load of people I'd never met before, so I know where you're coming from. But seriously, I will meet you somewhere this time. I know coming to the meet will help you a lot, so I'm willing to help in any way I can.
Franki x