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Dont listen to her, she's talking rubbish, people move to London all the time, its expensive though.
You're scaring the little fella, he's too young for that sort of responsibility.
I dont really think its a big deal because by age 18 you should be able to cook and look after yourself anyway whether your parents are there or not.
Lol why are you scared? You're planning on moving out so if you're scared by what im saying, then maybe you've not thought through moving out properly?! i do hope you're joking.
Being able to look after yourself is one thing, actually getting out and doing it on your own without the backup is slightly different.
It's not a Big Big Thing. but if moving out isn't a big deal? what is? it's only a big deal in a certain way.
Yes, I couldnt iron very well, but I could cook (enough to get by and be healthy). I went traveling for 4 months with no problems and then off to uni living by myself.
Some people are closer to their parents though I guess.
What the fuck did you expect then? For-Hire parents who will do that shit for you while you sit on your arse?
With being on your own comes a fuck load of responsibilty. Deal with it, or grow up more, then think about moving out.
It isn't. It's a terrible idea.
You'll probably get on better with them when you live miles away.
You were only thinking about the pros, if you'd have thought about the cons yourself, you wouldn't have needed other people to tell you them.
As much as I like doing it, I'm not having a go at you here. I'm trying to make you realise you can't rush into life-changing decisions without thinking about every aspect of it.
yes you might've changed your mind but the fact that you even considered it is beyond me.
there are places in the UK other than london, you know.
if you are going to live on your own, it'll be weird and it'll be lonely (i lived in a shared house less than 10 miles from my parents and i still got a bit homesick). you are going to need that support network.
Where? Are they civilised?
yes, we got the wheel recently!
(my brother in law who is a londoner jokes that the north only just heard about the wheel, pah).
But I don't think you have any idea how hard moving out of home and becoming independent can be. I think you seriously need to think about it, I have spent years getting in debt to pay for food, to pay for bills to keep a roof over my head and I have spent years getting out of debt so I can live happily without the constant stress of debt over my head. Thousands of people live life like this so make sure you have a job before you move to London so it doesn't happen to you, and if it does happen to you, you will really need the support of your family so at least you haven't disowned them, because then that would be a very lonely route. Are you prepared for that!
Have you found somewhere to live, have you saved for a deposit, what about furniture, do you have any idea how to go about renting a property, if you have friends to stay with then great as this is quite a challenging task. Have you thought about where abouts in London you should be moving to, if you don't do your research you could end up in a bad area, or a really high council tax area. Make sure you are prepared! Do you know how to budget, do you know how to set up gas, electric, tv liscence, telephone line. Have you thought about these things as your family will probably be able to advise you and help you, perhaps you should start looking out for the best rates.
I seriously don't think you should be thinking about relocating without some help from someone and usually family is best for this. I can't understand why you haven't sat down with them and told them your plans, you are acting really selfishly and you need to get out of your bubble and really think about how your actions can effect others.
Yorkshire has running water
London water is horrible, by the way :yuck:
Like I said, some people are closer to their parents than others. It wouldnt really cross my mind to phone my parents if a cooker appeared in my front garden.
I found moving away and renting privately helped me a lot. I was still in London, but detached and I found my relationship with my parents was so much easier. I had the freedom to do what I wanted, when I wanted and my family also had time to appriciate and value my non-existance in their home. Coming home for weekends was a joy, because I no longer lived there. But I couldn't imagine never seeing my family again, for whatever reason. Even tho they have been difficult at times they have also helped me with a lot of my probems in the past/present.
Asnwering everything in order - no, haven't found anywhere just yet, yes I've been saving up. I've been speaking to a letting agency recently who explained to me how the system works, they were very helpful. I don't have friends in London, (none I can move in with at least) and I can't bring anyone with me. Reason is that my family and me don't get on. As a family, we never talk about anything. Things like subjects for GCSEs, A Levels, careers and the like... I haven't had one discussion with my parents about this. I really don't want to tell them. But I suppose I'll have to.
people always bang on about blood being thicker than water but sometimes I think it is silly to assume that just because you are related you HAVE to get on. I've been having a hard time recently with a member of my family and it's got to the point that I just don't know what else to say to him. Luckily for me I am old enough to have my own mortgage, career and friends so if I don't want to mix with him I don't have to (Apart from family occassions like Xmas).
It's his birthday next week and I will be sending him a card, but I don't think I'll be making special efforts to socialise with him.
The thing you probably have to remember is that if you do deliberately cut ties, then you will have to miss occassions like death or birth or marriage, and if something does go seriously wrong you won't have your family to fall back on.
Perhaps your family are just very worried about you - maybe you need to open up a bit more about your experiences and feelings. Is it likely you will try to kill yourself again, can you be honest with them about the help you need?