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I'm taking one step at a time on all this.
if it was a young girl saying her uncle was trying it on with her, people wouldnt be going "well, you never said no".
I can imagine this being quite a headfuck and im not surprised you didnt know how to react tbh.
Why should he of told her? Just because you have a partner doesn't automatically mean you have to tell them absolutely everything, people deal with things differently.
That is ridiculous, you must be a very petty person?
No. I simply value honesty and trust above everything else. If it was your girlfriend and she had let her uncle fondle her breasts and play with her puss, and been tempted in the same way, but decided not to tell you for a while, how would you feel?
That doesn't make me a petty person, that's just the way I handle relationships. And it was MY opinion as I already stated.
good luck with your gf
I would feel a compulsion to be supportive because that's got to be one of the most head-fucking things out there, and any one who has to deal with a member of their family coming onto them (and it's not as easy to say no, because there's the rest of the emotional baggage - a bit like with a best friend but 10x worse) really needs support.
Perhaps, perhaps not, though if your boyfriend was confused to fuck about such a mindblowingly confusing situation, you wouldn't brave the storm with him? I don't think you can prove someone doesn't love you because they were confused when their aunt came onto them, that just doesn't work for me. We are defined by our actions, after all. Heck, I get confused all the time about all sorts, but at the end of the day I know it's my girlfriend I want to be with - and this is what this guy has realised too, you've got to give him some credit for that.
My mum is still cut up bad about her sister who is ok and coming out of hospital today.
and alf was a great thing on tv, who's memory should not be tarnished with such talk of this
Sorry mate but your a mug if you go round there. At least get her to meet you round yours with your ma there or meet her in a public place like a coffie shop.
seriously.
Dont say we didnt warn you.
I don't want to meet her with my mum it'd just explode again between them, they can sort themselves out.
Id leave it a few months at least.
best to leave things to calm down. Its far too soon. It would just confuse you both even further.
yeh meet her in public not near toilets tho :thumb: