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and you have a girlfriend so stay faithfull to her init?
When my mum eventually calmed down a bit she told me that her sister had been abused for several years by their stepfather, after their mother had divorced and remarried. The man went to prison where he died. My mum blames her sisters behaviour on that episode in her life but still feels it was very wrong for what she tried to do with me.
Even after all this my aunt texted me late last night saying she wanted to see me tomorrow to sort things out with me, she was crying and pleading, saying she was sorry for the way things turned out.
I'm not going to say anything more to my mum, she's like a bomb ready to explode. Tried to phone my g/f but she doesn't want to know.
Christ what a fucking mess, can it get any worse??
Feels shitty now, but it's the right thing to do.
Tell you're aunt that you're not going to see her because it's a complicated situation that now is exposed, you feel best is left alone. Your gf needs time to relax. If you get the chance to speak to her, explain the delicacy of the situation - you're aunt is coming on to you - is sorta sick and difficult to comprehend.
Quarfly, you treat the post as if it were real. Find something relevant to say or just stfu because surreal situations do come about - things like this DO happen and regardless of whether its a hoax, you treat it as if it were real.
nothing you can do, say that you read the messages and just thought it was strange, just didn't do anything about it
I didn't say that - situations alike this have happened - look up threads about cousins and other relationships that are a bit taboo - these are some peoples realities and are not that far-fetched as to be completely unlogical and unrealistic, you just have to open your mind as anything is essentially possible with such situations.
say something helpful , or don't say anything. like malt says it could be real and even if it isn't , someone else could be looking for advice on the same subject, it happens.
hidrick, you did the right thing. it will calm down and get sorted out - its obviously made you realise how much your gf means to you, and she'll see things a bit clearer after some time - it wasn't your fault and you did the right thing in the end...even if you were initially tempted.
Phoenix
Your mum says your Auntie has issues, I think your the one with issues! Forget your Auntie, and IF you truly Love your girlfriend / ex-girlfriend then make things up with her, buy her flowers, chocolates etc etc... (although, if you were 'thinking about seeing you auntie) - if there was any though of this in your head then forget about your the girl! She deserves better to speak in all honesty! (the fact that you were thinknig about your Auntie in that matter is one thing) - but there is also the fact that you were thinking of cheating on your gf!
I dont think there is anything left for me to say on this matter, I think alot of the advise given has been really good and I hope that everything sorts its self out.
I think you should carry on talking to your mum to be honest, Are you really surprised she exploded? She will calm down if you keep the communication open.
As for your girlfriend, just text her and say you are sorry that you didnt feel able to talk to anyone about it including her, because you were so freaked out, but youd like to keep in contact because this is your aunts fault, not yours.
You then have to let her decide what to do, shes obviously freaked by it and will need time, which you have to give her - not bombard her with pleas to come back to you so soon. Dont forget, a few days ago you were seriously considering cheating on her, but now the worlds crashed, you want her back. I think you really need to think about whether you do actually want her at all.
My mum went round my aunts place last night and caused a fucking fuss at her front door, screaming and shouting. She broke a window and the neighbours called the Police who cautioned her, telling her to go home or she'd be arrested. I didn't know she was going to go so fucking mad. She's really cut up about it and says my aunt has always been a fucking whore.
So I've ended up with possibly losing my g/f and its upset my mum real bad. I need to see my aunt and tell her what trouble she's caused and bring an end to to all this shit.
Well if your g/f has any sense she wont get back with you - rightly so and all. You was gonna cheat on her, with your AUNTY, saddo.
I wouldn't put it quite like that but I agree. The fact that you were tempted and you didn't tell your girlfriend just proves that you don't love her. You didn't have to mention it was your evil aunt doing it, you could have just said "I'm feeling confused because another woman made a pass at me, and I was tempted." and then worked it out from there if you really love her or not.
To be honest if you were my boyfriend I would finish it.
But that's my opinion.
It doesnt matter (well it does) that you was thinking about doing stuff with your aunty, its the fact that you thought of doing things with another woman that will hurt her. I bet you wouldnt like it if she was gonna do stuff with her uncle behind your back :no:
OK for a short while I thought it was flattering but hey after those texts I started getting worried and did nothing to encourage her and I didn't say anything to anyone because I was ashamed about it all and thought it would just die and no-one would know or be hurt.
Telling my mum seems to have caused more problems than if I had just kept quiet. Everyone in our family now knows whats been going on so we've had visits from other relatives who all add their views and opinions which just makes the situation worse. My older brother reckons she tried it on with one of his mates at work, they work at the same place, for Christs sake where does it end??
I just don't know what to do to get my g/f back.
I know it was your aunt coming on to you..... but you didnt say 'no' or try and discourage her. You should of been honest with your g/f right from the start of all this.
To be honest, I dunno if you'll ever get your g/f back, I know if it was me and alot of other girls I/we wouldnt come back to you. Just try and leave her for a while..... to cool off and think about this situation.
If you Love your girlfriend then you'll find a way of letting her know, if not, then let her go, take a break (and think about recent events, ask yourself what you want - hopefully your conclusion wont be your Auntie) - then go out there and get with another girl (or if lucky, the one you were with)!
Good luck, and it may be wise to remember what has happened (not that i can see this being easy to forget)!
Yup!!