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Was your first time painful?

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  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
    My first time was painful but i just grinned and bared it and tryed to focus on some of the good feelings than the bad. After that I was sore for the first few times but once he had fully entered me i was fine. Key is to relax no matter how much it hurts which is hard I know.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
    It hurt SO much! :( I only bled a tiny bit though thankfully.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
    I bled quite a bit, and i had pain for about the first 7 times, unbearable pain. I've had a lot of problem with urinary tract infections and things though
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
    it didnt hurt me at all, infact i didnt really feel anything which was strange because it wasnt like there was erm nothing to feel.

    the day after i felt a bit achey but i wouldnt describe it as sore
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
    So... I'm a bit nervous. It's something I've never done but reading this has just made me wonder...

    QUESTION!

    With my previous boyfriend, we did a lot of everything that wasn't sex, basically. And I was wondering if the blood that there was when he used his fingers (to put it nicely) was maybe due to being broken a little?
    Or something? Cause that sometimes hurt a little too. Or was it just that I was becoming a little less tight?

    Yeah...
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
    That would be it so therefore sex will prob hurt less. That was the hymen being broken probably
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
    That would be it so therefore sex will prob hurt less. That was the hymen being broken probably

    Hmm...

    I guess I just gotta wait and see, huh?
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
    IWishIWas wrote:
    Hmm...

    I guess I just gotta wait and see, huh?

    Pretty much hun. But if you've had experience of something "being there", that's likely to help a little. But everyone's different. :)
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Erm didnt hurt me at all....and no blood eithe - i was lucky :) but mysister said it hurt her so much he couldnt sit down afterwards!!

    my friend JUST lost hers - they had sum probs gettin there (dont do too much foreplay - based on her exeriance it can go drastically wrong after too much!!!) in the end she used lube, but it still hurt her quite a bit and yesterday in class (the day after) she said she was still tender "down there".

    go for it and after a few gos the pain (if you get it) will go and ull love it ;)
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
    and another tip ive heard....if you go on top then it hurts less - and u also have more control
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
    I always kinda had the opinion that you need to get used to the act of sex before experimenting, so missionary first time is best. Bust just my opinion.

    I didnt bleed, pain and discomfort. and I felt really ill a few hours after. Major headache and nausea. Was gonna pass out as he held me on the way to the station :S

    could have nothing to do with it, could have. I dunno
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
    weird for me, cos i was thinking i'd be in so much pain with it and bleeding all over etc - but in the end, i didn't bleed at all, and although it hurt a bit - it didn;t cause nearly as much pain as i thought it would.

    we took it nice and slowly - didn't use lube or anything, just took it slowly - it actually hurt me more the first inch or so inside me - one he was all the way in, it felt really comfy and natural - in fact i did actually manage to cum as well, which i didn't think i would.

    if you're worried - use some lube, take your time and don't rush anything, it will def take a few goes to get it just right...

    take care
    love cavey
    xxx
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
    to be honest (this is good.. i'm a total noobie and already throwing my sexual experiences about.. haha) i am a small person - 5 foot tall - therefore i am small down there. my boyfriend, on the other hand, is 6 foot 2 inches and is.. well.. big in his region.. i thought it was going to hurt like hell, but it didn't at all. he thought i was going to bleed everywhere like his brothers girlfriend did (don't ask how he knows that.. ha), but i didn't bleed, it didn't hurt, and we went very slow and gentle.. probably because neither of us knew what we were doing. i wouldn't worry about it. ust go slow, and make sure it's with someone you love :)

    good luck.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
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