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Some people have a better relationship with their parents when they move away, living with the same people for about 2 decades can leave you wanting space, and when you get it you realise they're not all that bad after all.
As has already been said if you want to get a loan they will want to know stuff about your parents, even if you decide to go for the unassessed loan (75% of the full loan). In my first year, my loan was £3050 and my accommodation was £3200, then on top of that I had to pay tuition fees. So you may need financial suport from your parents at some point unless you have a lot of savings.
Good luck anyway.
I told my friends and grandparents as well as some random people when I was applying for uni, people who have no say in the matter. At least not any more than my parents. It's not a huge secret, now is it?
Stop assuming things. Being a drama queen is totally not cool.
then don't mention it.
i meant for the initial conversation
Me going to university didn't cost my mum a penny. I got the big loan as shes single and my fees paid, i worked before i went and whilst there and was sensible with my money. I never asked for nor recieved a penny from her.
you should have a more grown-up relationship with them.
just what i was going to say but you beat me to it!
:rolleyes:
For most of this thread you were assuming your parents would meddle in and now that they aren't you seem to be just as displeased with them. If you want to know what they think of it, why don't you just ask them in a non-confrontational manner? Communication usually only requires somebody to say something.
My parents weren't that outspoken when I was deciding on unis. They'd have their say if I brought it up, but otherwise it was mainly my own headache to figure out where I wanted to go. That helped me make a decision based on my desires, not anybody elses. My brother was applying at the same time and it was the same with him.
im guessing he was kind of looking for " well done, we are pleased for you, make us proud " type of thing rather than no interest at all.
You can't just hide it from them, it's better they find out sooner rather than later. They should be proud of their son.