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That all depends whether you have money, are going to work part-time, what kind of loan you're entitled to, and of course whether you're living on campus.
Some parents manipulate teenagers via finance. "Oh you'll do this and this or you won't get blah blah blah"...i've seen that a few times before.
If you can afford it yourself, you're sorted.
Yet, when I asked about my sister, who has ambitions to work in the legal profession, they were a lot more upbeat. So, my sister is getting the support of her parents, but I'm not. I just can't believe they'd stoop this low. :crying: Yeah... if I can afford it, precisely.
It's also given me more fuel for the estrangement debate from recently.
Of course you can afford it. They give you a loan, as long as you don't overspend and end up running off to mummy and daddy for help you'll be sorted on your own.
I presume you're not going till nearly a year's time anyway, thats loads of time to get some money together.
I finally let it go, and it stopped hurting so much when I realised that I wasn't responsible for their parenting and that much of what they put me through was emotional bullying. It really helped me to have a trusted reliable adult confirm this, it's difficult to explain why but I think a lot of people assume that you're being difficult/spoilt/demanding/attention seeking if you don't get along with your parents. Sometimes though- it really isn't your fault and there's nothing you can do about it.
and i guess going to uni or indeed just moving away, realistically affects how often you will see them - other than that, how it affects your relationship with them is down to you and them.
Been a long time since I applied for Uni and parents were pretty unsupportive too...I remember being up in my room and I could hear them whispering about how they thought I wasn't cut out for it etc. I got quite upset about it and ended up leaving home, deferred my Uni place for a year and ended up pregnant...so never actually got to Uni!!
I'm now 26,a single mum with a 6yr old son LOL I've got a pretty good job considering, and I've returned to college part time and might even do Uni in the future. Would like to become a chartered accountant (for the money!!) eventually.
So yeah, just grit your teeth and if you want to do it...go for it. Don't let your parents opinions cloud your dreams or you could really regret it (like I do)
You will probably benefit from the new tuition fees thing being introduced, previously studying in England you would have had to pay your tuition fees up front, and if your parents earned over the threshold then you would get a smaller loan meaning they would be expected to pay your fees. But I don't think you'll have to pay them up front anymore, which is a plus. Not 100% sure about all that stuff though so it is definitely worth looking up.
Personally I got a £3000 loan in my first year of uni and my accommodation cost £3200 for 30 weeks, so getting a part-time job and saving up while you can is really important.
At the end of the day if your parents aren't willing to support you then that is up to them, I don't really understand where they got the idea that you won't be able to get a reasonable job afterwards, but there you go. At least you will know that you have done it off your own back and it will make the whole experience feel more worthwhile etc.
You can get unassessed loans where they don't take your parents income into consideration.
:yes: I'm in Edinburgh but my parents live in London, and I have an unassessed loan which is about £1000 a term. But I don't get any help with fees obviously as my dad pays those. Lucky me I know!
StarGalaxy, I don't think you've really explained the situation fully - we're getting dribs and drabs of information, and I can't quite figure it all out. But if you've been having problems with them for a while, maybe your mum didn't know what reaction you wanted. Have you been telling them to stop meddling etc? Maybe telling you 'ok well I'll let you get on with it' was her way of trying to give you what you want?
Why don't you just apply and see where it goes from there - you don't have to take a place even if you get one. In the meantime, gather some information about the degree you want to do, hunt around and find out about the job prospects you'll have if you do it, and then present it to them as one adult to another. If you go in looking for a fight then that's what you'll get.