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I think with my prolonged ecstacy use I've done something fucked up with my seritonin levels, usually quite lethargic and not my usual happy self, though I don't want to kill myself or want to self harm or nothing like that.
Being clinically depressed and feeling depressed are two different things, I just don't think young people are in the right stage of mind to be clinically depressed.
Well being really sad and feeling no one understands you is not clinical depression. There's plenty of info on the internet about the thing. Do a search, i'm just saying the typical teenager going through puberty who's having a tough time aint depressed.
That is indeed very true. I remember in Year 9, I was being bullied for no reason at all. Even when someone was bullying me right front of the teacher, she just turned a blind eye and did nothing. And for the past two years, she's being having digs at me for various things. (Being kicked off one of my lessons, taking loads of time off school [not my fault though] and needing to go home for various reasons)
Turlough is meaning the difference between depression and dysphoria. People who are a bit dysphoric will say they are "depressed" when they aren't strictly so; the term "depressed" has come to mean feeling low. It's not strictly accurate, but its what it means colloquially.
The defintion of depression is prolonged feelings of sadness, emptiness, lethargy, and so on. The key is prolonged. Teen angst can often actually be classified as depression it is so severe. People tend to ignore the feelings of teenagers because of the whole "teen angst" thing. Just because it can be attributed to hormones does not make the feelings less real, and it is dealing with the feelings that is so important.
Youths can get depressed, it is often more likely in them. I find it disturbing how people denigrate what can be very severe feelings just because the person feeling them is 14.
I was bullied by those who were stronger than me. I insulted and attacked those who were lower down the pecking order.
The strong bully the weak. That's life. School is the worst time for it, because children are the most feral.
I expect that if several people from my school knew what they did to me, they would be ashamed of themselves. Some would be delighted, but you always get cunts.
In regards to pressure on teenagers etc - there is SO much pressure on us. In year 7 at my school they had CAT tests. I didn't take them til year 8, which meant I got 123 (the highest in the year was 127 - I was second), which meant that EVERYONE in my school expected me to do stupidly well. My baseline grades at the beginning of year 10 were 1 A*, 9 A's and a C. What I actually got was 4 A's, 4 B's and 3 C's. I know I'm not stupid, but I was never that smart to get those grades. But I could have got better than I did. The pressure put on me because of my high CAT mark just scared me. My mum put pressure on my, my teachers put pressure on me, and I had pressure put on me by my peers to look good (the popular group were BRUTAL at my school), and pressure on myself to stop being so weak and letting people walk all over me. I have pressure put on me still at college.
In regards to teenage depression - I'm aware of a lot of girls at my old school that used to put smileys on their arms and cut names and things into them for attention. I self-harm, but although I tell my friends (only my very best friends nowadays, because my friends starting calling me attention seeking), I do not want attention. I just want them to be aware. There was an incident at my school when I had just scratched up my stomach (it looked like I'd been in a very nasty fight with a thorn bush) and we had PE and I forgot to wear a top under my shirt. Someone asked me what it was and I told them my cat scratched me. I didn't want anyone that I wasn't really friends with knowing. There has only been two occasions when I have been so upset that I have been self-harming at school. Once was when I was very angry, and I was biting my lip and scratching my hands, and once when I was really upset and I scared a lot of people because I was crying and scratching at my hand til it looked like I had a rash. I had a shit time at school. I was mentally bullied by people that didn't realise they were doing it from the time I moved there (physically at one point, there was a boy who used to repeatedly kick me in the legs all lunchtime and I'd go home with bruises all over my bum and my legs and filthy trousers), because they wanted a reaction and I gave it to them. My friends used to walk all over me, use me to buy them cigarettes and carry their stuff when we went into town after school. They were bossy, they knew I would do what they wanted because I had no other proper friends. At the moment, I have a lot of friends, but because of things that happened in the recent past, I can't trust almost all of them. I have paranoias and insecurities that are embedded into my brain. I often feel like none of my friends actually like me, and they are just trying to make me feel better. When I get upset, nobody can convince me otherwise. These days, me feeling good is rare. On an average day I will feel shit for at least half the day. Tiny insignificant comments will upset me more than they should, and I dwell on everything. My best friend gets scared to say anything to me when I'm feeling crap, in case he makes it worse. I am aware that I'm not the most unhappy person in the world, I'm aware that I don't have a bad life, I'm aware that everything could be a lot worse, but that doesn't mean that I don't have a problem, it doesn't mean that when I feel shit, it isn't affecting me. My mum has said before now (she said it to the doctor that was helping me, and he started saying it too and I haven't seen him since) that I just need to deal with my problems like a "regular teenager". I know I have the same issues as all teenagers, but that doesn't mean I can deal with them better.
I'm going off on a tangent which would be better off in the D&SH thread, so I'm gonna stop. That's just my piece, is all. I'm going to bed now...very tired.
Did you actually listen to them tests? They're never reliable
Thankfully, I am reasonably better now. It is so much easier to just not give a fuck about anything, don't let shit get to you.
Stupid school.
There is also evidence of it being hereditary. Looks like it is in my family, at least.
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That makes me angry, my school actually told us it was only procedure and not to listen to them. See in future, and someone tells you what you should do or what you should be or what they expect from you, tell them to fuck away off and you're going to be what you expect yourself to be and nothing more or less.
Yea, it's another one of the reasons why I don't like too much the education system, but that's for another thread