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dose anyone else feel strongly about how older people look down on teen parents .im a teen mum and i love haveing a baby but i hate the way some people look at ame like im dirty .i might only be 17 but im just as good a mum as anyone else.
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i know what you mean but im with my boyfriend and hes alot older than me we have been together for five years and were getting married . i act and look older than 17 but just cos im young older people think im some sort of slag to have a child.
The only advice I can give you is to try and ignore it as much as possible and learn to stand up for yourself and be assertive when you really need to, i.e. against Health Visitors and the like! You have to remember that going back a few decades into the last century, having babies young was the norm, nobody thought anything of it.
You know you're not some kind of slag. That's all that really matters.
I agree as long as your a good mum then nobody can judge you.
i would never never give up my education and my youth and my freedom to become a mother. i'm 18 now. i shant have kids until i've done my degree and then a post grad degree, got a stable job and partner etc.
I just stared back at them or ignored them.
At the end of the day they don't know you & they don't matter.
You hold your head up high, youve got nothing to be ashamed of.
Yeah, that's the best thing to do if they're openly staring, stare back until they get uncomfortable and look away.
Yep i got so mad i asked one woman what she wanted & she got all embarrased & walked away.
No i have brought a lovely little boy into the world with lots of love & hes very happy. He makes us happy too.
My son was born a month after my 20th birthday. I had a few disapproving looks and a few people asked if I was throwing my life away. I don't think I threw my life away, it just took a slightly different path! My son makes me really happy and I feel complete. As long as you are a good parent then I don't think it matters what age you decide to have kids.
:no: i wouldnt.
What would they do instead that would be of more worth?
get an education
Are you taking the piss?
no i'm 100% serious. why get pregnant as a teen when you should be getting an education. we're a nation of idiots
Or we could be a nation of unsupportable old people. Whoops, looks like we did that.
FFS, there is NOTHING more worthwhile than a good mother bringing up a child. That is NOT to say that teenage pregnancy is always a good thing. But there are women who want children young, and should NOT be looked down on because they didn't have a career, or a degree, they shaped a life, which is something that can NOT be topped by any first class fucking honours degree or being managing director of any fucking multi-national company.
I love my course, I love university, and I want a job, but I am NOT better than any young mother.
Money does not =happy child
Money does not =well brought up child
You'd have to ask the ladies whether their children are happy. but I tell you, I've never met a child that was happen because of how much money their parents had in the bank.
i disagree. money SHOULDNT be necessary for happiness, but it is a huge factor. it also greatly effects life chances. if you want i'll dig out some statistics to back me up on that. without money life can be miserable. you need money to sustain even the most basic human prerequisites.
money definately = quality of life
Sell your womb on Ebay, if you think money means more. Perhaps you could give some of the money to the ladies here, seeing as they decided to start a family before they hit their thirties.
love means more to me than everything
but in the case of dependant children, simply to love them is not enough.
from another perspective then; what about an alcoholic mother who loves her children more than anything (apart from drink)? she loves her children with all her heart but she cant look after them properly and give them all the resources they need. is that enough for the kids?
edited to say: and also, my point about education you all assume is just about the financial outcomes of spending longer in learning. but what about the fulfillment and the quality of life that WE want? forget our children for a minute. why should we give up the chance to be knowledgeable, to understand, to build our intelligence? nothing is worth giving that up. we can be well educated AND have children. why choose one over the other when there is no choice to be made in the first place
There's nothing to stop you getting an education when you've got kids. I had two when I did my degree.