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Fuck Buddies
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who here has got a fuck buddie, or use to have one or wants one?
me and my mate was talking the other day about this and we both dont really want a relationship at the moment with anyone so we were talkin about why dont we be fuck buddies at first i thought yea ok, but now sinces i kinda mention it to my best mate and she said people like that are sluts i dunno if i'm so sure on the idea cos i dont wanna be called that.
whats others opinions about this
me and my mate was talking the other day about this and we both dont really want a relationship at the moment with anyone so we were talkin about why dont we be fuck buddies at first i thought yea ok, but now sinces i kinda mention it to my best mate and she said people like that are sluts i dunno if i'm so sure on the idea cos i dont wanna be called that.
whats others opinions about this
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If she does then that's her opinion. As far as I am concerned fuck buddies don't harm anybody else, even though there is the danger that one (or even both!!) parties could fall for the other!!
try doing a search. the topic has come up loads so there may be something of interest to you somewhere
I've got 2 people wanting that kinda thing with me at the mo', but I just can't do it. It's not for me. However, it is for some people and it doesn't make you a slag.
But if it's what you want then fine.
i had an ermm fuck buddy for abt 6 months but do reckon it all ends in tears, as soon as there was an emotional attachment there youve gotta say stop...
i think the worse bit is one of the partners finds someone who they actually want to be with ie: a new gf, bf... this leaves the other person either on there own and jealous or still sticking around and jealous either way it gets messy..
example of that would be with mine i had been chatting to girl who had been around for a while and that really liked as soon as things starting getting abit more serious between us i didnt really want the 'fuck' buddy and she just got annoyed all the time because i 'wouldnt' when she wanted to becuase i was always thinking abt this other girl and it no longer felt like the right thing to do..
conclusion: fuck buddys are great if thats what you want but if its a short term fix while you wait for the love of your life then forget it... have a wank! will save heartache in the end....
Two were with Ex b/f's. One ended in tears the other just ended cos we both just stoped calling each other.
My last fuck buddie turned into my current bf:D
Ie: what happens if U kiss someone else is it just for sex and how close is the current rel and is it worth changing/ ruining etc:
Ive had two, one for about 2 years an ex. Good stuff and worth trying
Ended coz I knew his girlfriend, and me and her had a row and I told her what me and him were doing behind her back. She didn't believe me and so... I aint seen him since.
Tip: Make sure he/she is actually single and is not planning in seeing anyone serious whilst you have planned this little arrangement.
and as for the slut thing. I have a theory.......
People have urges which sometimes need to be taken care of. Fair enough people will say 'do it yourself' BUT I know a lot of people who go out and get really drunk and suddenly think its a wonderful idea to go home with a complete random..... and its a different one every weekend. SOOOO would it not make sense that it would be a lot less slutty to just call ur FB when ur drunk and horny and say 'oi you im comin over' !?!
Sigh i dont think i explain properly.... I tried
Nah I get what you mean... basically it's easier to have sex regularly with that one person -no strings attached- with someone you can trust, rather than just some random guy/girl you meet of the street when you've had one too many. You're actually being more sensible so long as you got your priorites straight with that person and know when it's gone too far.
It's cheaper then a Gym membership and good excercise
So we're sort of unofficial fuck buddies i suppose! Ive got more feelings for him though so its really hard when i find out hes been seeing other girls but i know hes alowed so i have to tel myself not to get upset!!
It certainly aint sluttish though so dont worry go for it aslong as you dont let yourself get too involved!
Any offers anyone?
Which is the point to having a FuckBuddy :yes:
Sluttish? Just coz someone craves for sex rather than romance....
No-no-nooo... a slut is someone who sleeps around with anyone and everyone. When you have a FuckBuddy you rely on them to have safe, uncomplcaited sex.
Nought wrong with that...
after thinking bout it i might just go for it, i know it could all go bad in the end but that way i will have learned my lesson, at the moment i dont think i would end up with strong feelings for him but dunno what might happen.
we both want the same thing basically no strings attacted sex but i told him if he sleeps with someone else while we're fuckbuddies i would like to know that way if i feel hurt or anything i'll stop and his agree to do so which is fair enough to me,
if people wanna call me a slut then oh well aint like i'm sleeping with someone ive just met its someone i'm good friends with and trust
Good idea for him to inform ya if he does sleep with anyone else, to help keep yourself aware of your feelings you could possibly gain for him.
Seem like you got your head screwed on right... all I can say is, hmmm.... have fun
You just decide to start having sex whenever and then afterwards you play some video games.
Seems a bit akward to me, but each to his own.
Sex without emotion is alien to me...
I saw him with his new g/f the other week, prepared myself to be a bit upset but low and behold there was nothing. Was actually pretty happy that he's found someone.
only because I haven't got one