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second chances
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if someone has cheated in the past, do you think they are more likely to cheat than someone who never has?
and do you think people deserve the chance to regain trust and make amends?
and do you think people deserve the chance to regain trust and make amends?
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I've never given anyone a second chance when it comes to cheating.
i can't say it enough. no no no no no no no no no.
god no
and i've cheated before, but i'd not do it again. i learnt from my mistake
thats how i feel too.
i think i deserve chances to prove i'd not do it again, so surely others deserve the same?
No one deserves the chance to prove they wouldn't do it again. It just depends if you're lucky enough to find someone you will give you a second chance.
so if someone makes a mistake years ago when they were 14 or 15, for the rest of their live they shouldnt be trusted because they cheated once a LONG time ago?
If they have cheated on you before then chances are they will do it again over and over. Well that's from my experience anyways and no I've never cheated.
I mean, when are people supposed to try & understand what it means to be in a relationship, to have sex (not intercourse specificly), etc. ?
so imo cheating back in highschool ain't a big deal unless you haven't changed of course.
on the other hand, if one is willing to cheat then one should maybe quit the current relationship first or at least talk to the partner about spicing it up somehow (don't mention cheating though ) and then try NOT to hit the sheets with someone else till things are settled.
If you just want to be with someone non serious then go for it but if you want more and you get together then it'll more than likely end in tears and it won't be him crying.
when i used to cheat it was from the ages of 15-17. i didn't particularly want relationships but ended up in them anyway. as a result i wouldn't really care about the guy i was with and so would go out clubbing and pull other guys. i knew he wouldn't find out and i didn't even feel guilty!
but i've grown up, i've matured, i want different things and i know that it was an awful thing to do. personally i believe in giving people second chances.
but that was nearly three years ago now. im not sayin i will get with him or anything, just that if the time came and we wanted to get back together, i think he deserves a second chance
I never told him. I suppose if he had found out he would have given me a second chance, only because I knew he was mad about me. The relationship was new, and I was in a huff with him because he blew me off to come out for babysitting his DOG
However, I know I sound really like a hypocrite, but I wouldn't take anyone back if they cheated on me at all. They've broken that trust and shared feelings and emotions that they were meant to do with me.
I wouldn't cheat on anyone now, not even for cheap thrills. I'd be crushed if someone cheated on me ;(
That did happen, pet. I cheated on James and I fancied him again, and that was a good few years that passed between us before we both began to feel anything at all. We'd both matured and wanted to be together. But, he'd went from good to bad - he cheats ALL the time. He ended up going out with some mad shiney faced cow who looks like a man and I'm sure he'll cheat on her soon enough once the honeymoon period's over.
I suppose I CAN'T guarantee I won't cheat on the bloke I'm with now. I don't think anyone can, there's just that one moment in time where your judgment goes out the window and you sieze a stupid chance you wouldn't normally get.
It's not the nicest thing to do to someone and I'd be honestly hurt if Scott cheated on me. I mean, he got with me because he cheated on his ex. I can't say I am positive he won't cheat, and I don't think anyone can. I'm sure one way or another once they 'honeymoon' period of being with someone fades and you get into a boring routine you'll want a change and you may or may not cheat.
Anyways, this was a long, pointless spiel. lmao. If you both feel you've matured and want to give it a go, then by all means. Just remember how it ended the last time - but keep that at the back of your mind and enjoy the time just now.
If you trust him and want to go out with him then do it, if you have doubts then why bother? Find someone else. It's not like you couldn't attract another bloke is it?
I was given a second chance and now we've been 2gether for almost 4years and ive loved everyday and we're getting married in August, cant wait!
love kandy xx
if she was deeply sorry and beeged you you would lol!
ill shut up now
love kandy xx
Remember this is only my opinion U no wot i think of ur "situations" lol
hehehe!
love kandy x
I suppose i am a wee bit nasty..... go on then, bad smacks 4 me!!!!
love kandy xx
Y dont i bend u over and *** my **** into your *****????
Does that sound appealling????