Feeling a bit insecure after a [rude] comment.

PetiteQuark

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lunarcat522

@PetiteQuark I'm very sorry to hear your mum isn't being as supportive as you would like, it's definitely not nice to have things pointed out by others that you can't (and shouldn't feel the need to) change. I'm also on the thinner side (but not massively underweight), but my arms for whatever reason are particularly slim, despite eating a consistent diet. I've had it pointed out to me by someone at school before and I still remember the shameful feeling even though none of it was my fault.

Unfortunately there's a tendency for older generations to be very fixated on weight and it's very normalised in today's culture and society, even though it shouldn't be, so it would definitely be worth bringing up that it's making you uncomfortable so it opens up a conversation.

There's lots of reasons people may be a certain weight or have weight fluctuations - ill mental/physical health, side effects of certain medications, genetics etc. Stress could definitely play a role. I also got very stressed around exam time 2 years ago and after I had finished them all and the adrenaline wore off, I lost my appetite completely for 2 weeks, and as a result experienced weight loss.

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It's frustrating when people invalidate your feelings and put it all down to hormones, as they only seem to make this comment towards teenagers - teens do have heightened hormones and various changes/fluctuations, but at the end of the day we all have hormones, whether you're 16 or 60!

I hope you manage to work things out with your mum and don't let her comments get you down

Former Member

hi @PetiteQuark , @lunarcat522 is so right- there are many reasons why someone's weight fluctuates, so as long as you know your eating and exercise habits are fine then please don't worry about your weight. Your body is your home and does so much more for you than fit beauty standards (which are constantly changing anyway so don't even think about changing yourself or your habits to try and fit them!)

It's never nice having your appearance pointed out, but I usually try and remind myself that it's a reflection of the other person's insecurities that they are unhappy with their own bodies. Of course, it's never ok for them to take it out on you, but it can help to rationalise things a bit.

hope this helps! sending hugs

Azziman

Hey @PetiteQuark, your feelings are valid. I can understand how receiving comments like that have made you feel insecure. It's not nice to hear, especially from someone who doesn't know you. Some people are simply comfortable to make those sorts of comments at others unfortunately.

What I would say is, it's more important to be healthy than to look it! So if you're eating and exercising well and treating your body right, then that's the important thing. People come in all shapes and sizes after all! And you're right, human bodies are capable of fantastic things, much more than something to simply look at and critique. You're worth much more than just what you look like