the mind

ellie2000

how do u get out the frame of mind of asking ppl to do stuff to u. wats tht behaviour linked to?
ie. ptsd....??????????????????????????????????????????????

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Good morning Ellie Would you feel comfortable explaining a bit more about what 'stuff' you're asking people to do to you? Just so I have a better understanding of what you're referring to? Only whatever you're happy to share

When trying to work out what that behaviour is linked to, I believe it can sometimes depend on the person and their own experiences, rather than one link for everyone, if that makes sense It isn't easy trying to work out where behaviours come from for you, but it can be an interesting piece of self reflection.

ellie2000

wanting to get hurt? ppl to leave me on the floor naked internal hurting again. can trauma do tht to u? i thought of tht wen a stranger bought me dinner at the cafe
wat is self reflection

ellie2000

nd i talked about how p*ss*d off i was at russia

ellie2000

why do ppl approach u with 'wtf is wrong with u?' instead of finding out ur issues?

ellie2000

im not complaining tht someone bought me dinner, its ok, im ok, modern world is Sh*t but its all ok

Ed_

Hey @ellie2000 appreciate you sharing this with us as I know how it can be quite confusing to be experiencing these feelings. On your question around trauma, I am certainly no expert, however it does sound like having feelings of wanting harm could be a part of that. Mind have quite a good article that talks through some of the effects of trauma which may be useful to have a look through: https://www.mind.org.uk/information-support/types-of-mental-health-problems/trauma/effects-of-trauma/

In terms of how others act, it's a really hard one to answer as ultimately that's on them. What I would say though is to ignore the people that don't get it, and focus on people who do listen and show care and interest into how things are for you. The Mix is a safe place and we are all here to listen and talk things through with you. How are you feeling right now about all this?