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I need some advice
Starlight
Posts: 1,436 Wise Owl
I wouldn’t usually ask for advice on this sort of stuff because it’s something I like to hide away because I don’t usually like the answer myself but... there’s this lad I’ve met through a show I’m in this week, he’s part of the stage crew and he has a crush on me. It all feels a little primary school to me but yesterday during our two show day someone told me about how attractive he finds me etc. and then the other lads in the stage crew were teasing me about it from there on. And then on my way home he messaged me on Instagram, I let him know about wasn’t interested in a relationship at the moment but he still wants to “get to know me” and he seems like a lovely lad (just not my type and as I said I’m not looking for a relationship right now) and I wouldn’t mind having a chat with him. BUT!! I don’t want to lead him on or give him false hope and hurt him anymore than I have to. So would it be best to just not message him back? The last show is tomorrow so I probably won’t see him again after tomorrow. That’s my dilemma, either message him back and hopefully not lead him on or just not reply again? I really don’t know what to do anyone got any advice?
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Hope that helps!
Hope this all works out for you though it's understandable that these situations can be pretty stressful, feel free to keep us all updated with how things are going and if you need any more advice.
1st of all, he didnt take no for an answer which to me isnt ok. He thinks that if he keeps talking to you even "as a friend" he can change your mind and more than likely if you agree to this you would be leading him on even if it was his idea and under the guise of friendship, someone is bound to get hurt or guilted into being in.a relationshipyou arent ready for...you set a boundary and said you arent interested and its wrong of him to not accept your answer, in this way heis manipulating you. I either wouldnt answer him back or id tell him that when i said i wasnt interested in a relatiknship right now, i meant any kind of a relationship, and if he cant accept that then you probably wouldnt want a relationship or friendship with this type of pushy person...i think men do not know how to take no for an answer and many times find when they push it they het thier way...that women just play hard to get...but its a respect thing...if he isnt respecting your boundaries now what makes you think he ever will respect them?