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Should I see a doctor? (PTW)

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  • Kathleen07Kathleen07 Posts: 1,769 Postholic
    I'm not going. There's no hope. 

    I'm in such a horribly dark place. I really, honestly just want to end my life. 

    I'm fucking safe with family though. 

    I think I'll ask The Mix to delete this. 
    Shaunie
  • Kathleen07Kathleen07 Posts: 1,769 Postholic
    How do I keep myself alive? Everyday I want to kill myself. Even in the moments where I don't feel quite so bad, I imagine hurting myself and I get the urge to do it for real. It's not fair. It's my life and I want to end it, I just want to be able to.

    Everything I want to say will just be too triggering so I'll shut my mouth I suppose :smile: But I'm feeling horrible and all the time. It would've been great if I'd died in my sleep earlier.

    I'm not going to the doctors today as is evident. I told my dad to cancel because there's just no point and I'm too sad. Sorry, hopefully that's not too annoying to read... I don't know what I'm doing instead, but it's probably gotta be something because I'd rather not be unoccupied with my thoughts.

    Shauniechubbydumpling
  • ShaunieShaunie England 🏠Posts: 6,713 The Mix Elder
    edited August 16
    @Kathleen07  <3 sounds so awful to be feeling that way :( I can really relate to how you feel. People used to tell me "there's some strength and determination for you to want to be alive because you are still alive when hearing thoughts of wanting to die" people find that the most invalidating thing going (I sometimes still do lol) since they think it means "you don't feel suicidal" it doesn't mean that at all and I'm sorry if read it like that.  I feel like there's some truth in there. Cause we all have a part of us that has a survival instinct and some part of us trying to survive and you can hear the thoughts of wanting to kill yourself and you carry on because maybe there was a tiny bit of hope that your gp could of helped and that it's not completly impossible to have a better life after this awful pain. And sometimes I know that even if possible to get better - can feel so bad that still cant live another day feeling so bad & I hear that too and it's awful :( things could get easier slowly <3 with taking one day at a time

    What i I read the other day was "depression is like being in a mind thats trying to die but a body that's trying to survive" dunno If relate to that but I did just thought I'd put that there. 

    Yesteday you seem to be wanting to go. Did any thing change from yesterday or just feeling worse? 

    We are here for you either way. I just really think you're worthy of more support <3
    “If we could look into each other’s hearts and understand the unique challenges each of us faces, I think we would treat each other much more gently, with more love, patience, tolerance, and care” Marvin J. Ashton
    Kathleen07
  • Kathleen07Kathleen07 Posts: 1,769 Postholic
    @Shaunie that really means a lot, thank you :heart:

    There is some truth in that saying I guess. But yeah, it doesn't do anything for me because I want to die. It's not even like I want to end the pain, not quite, so I don't need motivation to go on. If that makes sense hah.

    I don't think I wanted to go yesterday but I didn't know what the fuck else to do. How can I kill myself when I'd leave Ruby without an owner? How can I kill myself when my dad's said he'd probably do it himself if I did? How can I kill myself when I'll leave all of my close family devastated? I just can't put everyone through that amount of pain.

    So I've been thinking of going to CAMHS for potential treatment because I don't think there's anything else I can do. I need to feel better - to be less sad, to have enjoyment, to see a point in life, and so on - or I need to kill myself. I guess last night I just got even more doubtful about professional help actually working or if it was the right route to go down.

    Then I just couldn't stop crying last night because I feel so bad and depressed.
    Shaunie
  • Millie2787Millie2787 Carer/Craft Lover Posts: 2,340 Mega Poster
    Hey buddy :( 

    did you cancel your doctors appointment or do you think your going to go ? Sometimes taking the first step and saying to someone that attucally something wrong is often the scariest and hardest step to take xx 

    Dont sorry if you don’t go to the doctors you till made that appointment and that’s one step further towards going becuase I remember when you use to be like Nope no not going not making the appointment. So you should be proud of yourself becuase I certainly am xx

    were always here to support you 
    “ I believe that you have the power to achieve whatever you put your mind too, You are living a life’s most people won’t  ever understand but that’s what will Be the root of all your determination and success. You have a soul full of love and kindness and I just know that despite all the hardship, a life’s of happiness awaits you and I’m very proud of you, just keep holding on” 
    Kathleen07
  • Kathleen07Kathleen07 Posts: 1,769 Postholic
    Thank you @Millie2787 :heart: I didn't go.
    Shaunie
  • Millie2787Millie2787 Carer/Craft Lover Posts: 2,340 Mega Poster
    That’s okay xx You will get there slowly ❤️ You got your dad to make an appointment which was next big step , It’s nice to think of it like a ladder and that was the next rung (are they even called that 😂) up . 

    Do you think maybe you could try talking to your dad about things ? Even if it’s just once a week or once every few weeks you could
    both make dinner together and just have a rant about things or a chat about how things are going ?
    “ I believe that you have the power to achieve whatever you put your mind too, You are living a life’s most people won’t  ever understand but that’s what will Be the root of all your determination and success. You have a soul full of love and kindness and I just know that despite all the hardship, a life’s of happiness awaits you and I’m very proud of you, just keep holding on” 
    Kathleen07
  • Kathleen07Kathleen07 Posts: 1,769 Postholic
    @Millie2787 Thanks so much, but I'm not sure if I'll ever see a doctor. I just don't feel there's a point. I don't know anymore tbh.

    I moan at him too much really haha. I feel really guilty. I constantly go on at him about how sad I am and how I don't know what to do. Yet I refuse to get "help". Especially when he's dealing with his own problems and stress I feel like I should probably shut up.
    Shaunie
  • Millie2787Millie2787 Carer/Craft Lover Posts: 2,340 Mega Poster
    Don’t beat yourself up about not going , it’s taken me months and months to finally go to the doctors yesterday . You will get there with time honestly ❤️ 

    Also dont worry about moaning to your dad I’m sure he would much rather you ranted and spoke to him about everything that’s going on rather than you bottleing it up xx

    You need to give yourself credit on how far you’ve come , maybe try and have a Almost self care kind of day today - play some guitar maybe see if you can write some music if you can do that and if you can have a little play time with ruby 
    “ I believe that you have the power to achieve whatever you put your mind too, You are living a life’s most people won’t  ever understand but that’s what will Be the root of all your determination and success. You have a soul full of love and kindness and I just know that despite all the hardship, a life’s of happiness awaits you and I’m very proud of you, just keep holding on” 
    Kathleen07
  • Kathleen07Kathleen07 Posts: 1,769 Postholic
    I'd rather die and I think that's the right option. I haven't come far at all, if anything I've declined.

    Sorry hahah, I hope I don't sound like a grump or like I don't appreciate your loveliness. Just suffering so much. I think I'd rather close/delete this thread now if that's okay, I'm gonna flag it to the mods.
    Shaunie
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