Post of the month - April (Part 2 of 2)
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Welcome to post of the month part 2 for april, if you haven't seen part 1 then, go an check it out, It should be next to this one
Number 11 is Past User said:
Hi there @davcr0ck
It's great to see you reaching out for advice like this. I remember being similarly anxious about my first relationship with another girl. Since this is also your first ever relationship, it's totally understandable that you're feeling a little bit unsure about how to act.
I think it's wonderful that you can confide in your boyfriend about things like your mental health and past sexual activity. It's so important, especially at the beginning of a relationship, to communicate openly and honestly about your expectations. Don't put any pressure on yourself to have things worked out right away- relationships are always a learning curve!
Being with someone who isn't completely out can be challenging. Sometimes it's hard to strike the right balance between their privacy and your needs and desires for the relationship. Just remember to keep checking in with him about his comfort level.
Good luck!
Number 14 is kathleen0172's post in 'how to support my friend who is self harming' by HazzyA
Hey @HazzyA
I think it's so nice that you want to be there for her
And it's positive that she's going to counselling - really hope she finds that helpful.I think one of the best things you can do for someone when they're struggling, is to well, be there for them:
· Tell them that they can always talk to you when they're struggling or need to vent.
· Be sympathetic and non-judgmental about the subject.
· Constantly bringing up the subject or doing so in inappropriate places (such as in front of a group) can be overwhelming, but ignoring it can make people feel you don't care - so I think being somewhere in between by checking in and asking how they are, calmly and without pressure, is a great way to show support. And of course, if they start talking about it, listen and talk willingly.
· Sometimes, they may want to just loosen up and have some fun for a little while. You could offer to just hang out and do some fun things (such as going to a park). But of course, you don't want to pressure them, so just casually suggest it and don't ask repeatedly, and don't do it when it feels like a bad time (like when they're upset).
Those are just some rough tips. Tbh, you sound like a good friend, and you're probably already doing all the right things.
How are you feeling about all this?
And finally, Number 15 is kathleen0172's post in 'Trigger warning - half rant and half about pressure and body image' by Kasa2013
Hey Kasa
I'm sorry you're feeling like this, and are insecure about your appearance
It's totally understandable that what your friend was saying is offensive and triggering to you. It sounds like she does have good intentions, and probably thinks it's a compliment. But I can totally get why it would upset you.
You and the Sexplain volunteer are right in that there's too much pressure. And you got me thinking: we sadly live in a society where being fat is frowned upon and insulted, and being thin is the beauty standard. In my opinion anyway, what's wrong with either? The only bad thing about really fat, is that it can lead to poor health (that risk's also there if you're really thin). Beauty-wise, though different people may have different personal preferences, all bodies are acceptable and beautiful - and I think all the unnecessary pressure and judgment is wrong, and needs to change.
I hope you got a bit of sleep in the end and that you're okay
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Love and hugs to your all and keep posting
davcr0ck
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Well done everyone for all of your lovely support on the boards too. Your support really does make a difference
- Aife