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Uni on crutches
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Hey, i really need some reassurance here.
Last week i injured my foot but didn't quite know how bad it was. Yesterday i was in hospital and after many x rays and CT scans the surgeon told me i have broken my foot in 2 places. I am in a air-cast boot and on crutches which i have to be non weight bearing for 6 weeks and then go back to a hospital to see how i have healed and whether i need surgery or go straight into physio and start walking on it again.
I was scared for uni before this and now i am going to be on crutches and im really scared that i will be judged and not make friends easily because i wont be able to go out with people or do many activities. Also scared for doing shopping, laundry etc,
Does anyone have any advice or tips that could make things easier for me?
Last week i injured my foot but didn't quite know how bad it was. Yesterday i was in hospital and after many x rays and CT scans the surgeon told me i have broken my foot in 2 places. I am in a air-cast boot and on crutches which i have to be non weight bearing for 6 weeks and then go back to a hospital to see how i have healed and whether i need surgery or go straight into physio and start walking on it again.
I was scared for uni before this and now i am going to be on crutches and im really scared that i will be judged and not make friends easily because i wont be able to go out with people or do many activities. Also scared for doing shopping, laundry etc,
Does anyone have any advice or tips that could make things easier for me?
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Trust me when I say you'll be fine. If people are going to judge you for something you have NO control over, then they don't deserve to have you in their life anyway. Someone who judges you for that won't ever be the kind of friend that's important.
You will find a friend. I'm sure of it. I felt exactly the same as you did when I went into college last year. Most of the students had been there for a long time, coming from level 1 and 2, so I was one of the least experienced. I thought I'd be left out because of my being one of the youngest, because of my being overweight and extremely unfit, because I was quiet and different and didn't really like to talk to anyone.
And now, a year later, I have the respect of everyone in my class. One person noticed me, even while I was standing in the shadows, and started encouraging me to smile, to cheer up. Started talking to me, being around me, etc etc. I was accepted into his friend group (even though I don't speak their first language) and I'm now close friends with him. I'm growing feelings for him as more than just a friend, and I'm 90% sure he feels the same.
It's inevitable that you'll find at least one person to respect you. Particularly since you're in uni. You're going to be in lectures and classes (Do classes even exist in uni?) with other people, all of whom have CHOSEN to be there. You already have one thing in common with all of them.
You'll be alright, I believe in you. And even if by some rare chance you don't end up making a friend, well, you at least have your friends right here!
Besides that, regarding shopping:
Maybe it's a good idea to bring one of those "granny bags" with you? the ones that you can pull on wheels? At least then you would struggle a little less with holding items as well as moving. Alternatively you could shop online, and get things delivered to you. That way you don't have to worry about getting to the shop and back, and getting all the items. Plus I believe the people who deliver can bring it into the house for you if you can't get it there yourself.
So sorry to hear about what's happened! People at uni will understand if you can't come out with them, given that you're carrying an injury. Ask your hallmates for help with things, or you could even ask the uni to have someone help you out while you recover. You're not alone in this - ask for help, and you shall receive
Much love
For shopping you can order online and ask the delivery person if they can carry it inside, they are eager to do a good job and get good reviews so usually don't mind helping. As for activities, you could always look at clubs that watch movies, do crafts or play games, as you wouldn't have to move around a lot. If you can stand without crutches for a while then archery might be possible, darts or maybe table tennis or pool.
If you can, how about asking some people in your class to decorate your cast with you? You could cover it with stickers together. Someone I knew had a brace, air-cast boot and crutches yet still managed to perform amazedly as Lady Macbeth in my drama class. Im sure you can still make friends
Let us know how it goes
P.s- Ive been told air cast boots can feel cold, so you might want to buy a thick pair of socks to keep your foot warm
The amount of times i have been asked what happened and how my foot is already is a joke and i have only been at the uni about 15 hours and 10 of that i was asleep! My dad did a massive shop for me yesterday before he left and so i have a big box under my desk with tins etc in so that should last me quite a while and then a girl i have met has said she will get any fresh stuff i need when she goes shopping.
Dont worry. I have lots of thick socks haha. Thanks for taking the time to write to me!
It's great to hear things are going okay so far. Starting uni for the first time can be so scary and I can't imagine how you must have felt having found out your foot was broken. It's really nice that the girl you met has offered to get you some stuff from the shop when she goes. Maybe she can help you with your laundry too.
You mentioned you were feeling scared about being judged for not being able to go out or join in many activities. How are you feeling about that now?
Hope things went well today too
Im not feeling too bad about being judged anymore but i still dont like going out anymore than i need to just in case. We had a practical to get to know people yesterday which i couldnt do but the group i was in helped and made me feel included which was nice!
Things are going good so far at uni thanks! It feels quite strange being away from home and when i dont have anything on i do miss home alot but apart from that im good!
My foot is okay. A little bit sore but not too bad. I have an appointment around the 17th to find out if i need to stay on crutches or if im all good.
Im off the crutches and out of the boot now which is so so good cause it means I can walk around and actually do things! Uni is so much easier without the crutches so it’s going good. I am really missing home though and can’t wait to go back at Christmas which seems like ages away.