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Friend in abusive relationship

My friend is in an abusive relationship at the moment and she is trying to get out. Shes really struggling and wants ways to try and get out, she tried avoiding him and that ended up in him climbing the building she stays in to get to her. I'm really worried about her but also myself as I am battling overeating, ive not overeaten in four weeks but my personal stress and my constant worry for my friend is really making me struggle. Any suggestions on to how to help me or my friend? 


  • GretaGreta London, UK Posts: 29 Cool Newbie
    edited June 2018

    Hi @Bryi,

    I’m so sorry to hear about your friend’s situation and how it is affecting you.

    Women’s Aid is a site that helps women experiencing domestic abuse, and they have a free helpline that can be called at any time. There is also an article on their site on how to support a friend going through domestic abuse that you might find helpful. The Mix also has an article that touches on how to leave an abusive partner that you may want to send to your friend.

    It’s really great that you’re reaching out for help for your friend. Would you feel comfortable passing on these resources to her? The best thing you can do right now is to just let her know that you’re there for her and that there are resources that might be able to help her get out of the situation she is in.  It can be really difficult when a friend is going through a tough situation, but it’s important to remember to look after yourself too. Do you feel like you can reach out for support yourself about everything that’s been going on if you need it?

    Best of luck to the both of you <3


  • Russell ToresRussell Tores Posts: 6 Newbie
    she needs to lock her windows
  • ShaunieShaunie England 🏠Posts: 7,369 The Mix Elder

    Like greta said i think is important to encorage her to seek help and support. Understand you must feel helpless, but im sure youre helping her just by being there for her. Maybe you could also encoarge her to spend more time with people who care about her like friends and family could also help?

    I think its important to look after yourself. Finding other ways to self sooth instead of binge eating as other ways to relieve emotions and hope you seek more support for yourself

    take care

    “If we could look into each other’s hearts and understand the unique challenges each of us faces, I think we would treat each other much more gently, with more love, patience, tolerance, and care” Marvin J. Ashton
  • AzzimanAzziman The Mix convert Posts: 591 Extreme Poster
    Hi Bryi,

    She needs to go to the police and apply for a restraining order on him. It doesn't look like he will simply leave her alone, so she needs to get the law on her side. As for you, the best thing you can do for her is to be there for her and support her!x

    Much love <3
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