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Evil to abort?
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I just found out last night that im pregnant, by my last period and cycle im about 3 weeks pregnant, due on september 1st 2003. Well i suspected i was pregnant and teh test just confirmed it, but i still started shaking and crying when i found out. My boyfriend was pleased. He said its upto me if i keep it or not and that he'll support me either way so now i just think if i do get rid of it im eveil coz its selfish, im 17 so not too young if you ask me, i think abortions using that excuse should me 16 and under. I dunno, im 60% on keeping it...just want opinions i suppose
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If you and your bf can support the kid and youre ready, then have it...
If you and your bf cant support the kid, dont have it.
Nothing evil about it.
Personally, I think it's up to the individual. There are so many different circumstances then it's hard to say whether it's right or wrong.
Good luck with whatever you decide
the other thing is if u want to abort the child then talk about it its a big step but dont feel pressured into it/out of it its ur body and ur choice
i hope i helpped in some way hun good luck either way
If you want this baby, and can support it, then have it.
If you don't want this baby as much as you could, then don't have it. it is your choice, only you can make it.
(congrats tho if you keep it! hope its a girl, so muhc easier to nappy change, cos with boys you have to dodge!)
If you wanted the baby before, then its just a case of coming to terms with the pregnancy and getting used to the idea. its bound to be scarey when you first find out. I personally think that 17 is very young to have a child, especially since youre in full time education. Having a baby will change your life, but not necessarily for the worst. If you really dont think you can look after a baby then have an abortion before its too late, youll have to make the decision soon though. If its a case of you do kind of want the baby and are just frightened now its become reality, then thats understandable. You just have to do what you think is right for YOU, and it doesnt matter what I or anyone else thinks. Its your body.
harshness is ok when its put politely like that
Good luck, I hope you make the right choice for yourself and the baby.
I think it's evil to keep a child, when you're uncertain about the future.
About how you will provide for it.
How you'll have time for it.
Under which circumstances it will grow up (from babysitter to babysitter etc.).
Abortion is a hard thing to go through, even though you wish so yourself, but I think it'll be even harder for both the parents and the child to try to bring it up, when just not having the tools to do so properly.
it was november last year when i wanted one. we had been thinking about it lately and when i found out i was pregnant i was in my 'cold feet' stage of it, thats partly why an abortion is evil coz i kind of brought it on my self, i stayed on the pill but we were thinking about stopping it. Im only 3 weeks pregnant MAXIMUM so im givin myself til after new year to decide, i would like to keep it, its just, im havin itchy feet but i ahve plenty of tiem to think about it, im kinda helpin myself by calling the baby 'potato' so that it seems realer(no such word i know) lol
Think of the emtions involved its easy for you to say because you have not been in this postion but carrying the baby going through the burth and then giving it away could be so much more harder than stoping a life before it has even begun...
Most women who put their child up for adoption feel some kind of closeness to the child, and it's heartaching getting a living creature which you have been connected to for 9 months, taken away fom oneself. Even if it is by own choice.
Now, I am nowhere near your situation myself.
But will you be able to nurture a child for that long, and then give it up?
That is not going to help you, you have to come to terms with it, and calling it potato is not a good idea. If you don't come to terms with it soon, you will get complacent and think it is not real. Then when the time comes it will be so much harder to accept it.
thats what makes me think she really wants it.
when i was pregnant with my son, we called him broad bean!
I stand corrected but she'd still be on her own.
Im all for giving women support if they want a termination, but I think having an abortion when its not what they really want, is what fucks a lot of womens heads up. Having an abortion when you really dont want the pregnancy and had no intention of getting pregnant is completely different.
OK, well that's quite good that you know you could get over it like that. Anyway it's completely up to you.
lmao thats the kinda thing i'd do!!!!!!!!!
hehheh!