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Must I always refrain from complaining and talking shit about ppl at work?
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Everything pisses me off and I mostly talk shyt about other ppl. They constantly give me something to complain about. Like a few days ago, there was a confusion over break time for me and another coworker. That girl came in later than I did and was supposed to get later break. The team lead told her to go to break first, so I spent all afternoon talking shyt about that lead behind her back. Said she suck as a lead and who the hell is she. Accused her of purposely sabotaging me. On and on.
Then the following day, a customer accidentally was in my way when I stepped into the store. I said in Spanish to a coworker in the back room that he's stupid and ugly and need to get his *** kicked. That pissed off my supervisor but I didn't give it a 2nd thought. Then later, someone complained to my supervisor that I'm always talking negatively about other ppl. They also mentioned the incident with the team lead to her. Always? I just occasionally do that and only when they piss me off! Also, they said I talk Spanish to coworkers a lot. Is that a big deal?
Anyway, they said if I cause anymore problems, I don't have a job. But what did I really do wrong? And those are just 2 of the many times I talk negative about stuff.
Then the following day, a customer accidentally was in my way when I stepped into the store. I said in Spanish to a coworker in the back room that he's stupid and ugly and need to get his *** kicked. That pissed off my supervisor but I didn't give it a 2nd thought. Then later, someone complained to my supervisor that I'm always talking negatively about other ppl. They also mentioned the incident with the team lead to her. Always? I just occasionally do that and only when they piss me off! Also, they said I talk Spanish to coworkers a lot. Is that a big deal?
Anyway, they said if I cause anymore problems, I don't have a job. But what did I really do wrong? And those are just 2 of the many times I talk negative about stuff.
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I didn't think it was 100% ok. I just didn't think it was a big deal.
Well, it obvusly is. Maybe if you had a bad day one day and let something slip by accident then it wouldn't be a big deal, but, even by your own admission, this is just 2 of the incidents that have happened. You are lucky you have a job in this current climate but at the rate you are going it won't last long.
Your attitude is shocking and I hope that I am never one of your customers.
You don't think it's a big deal that when a customer accidentally gets in your way you say that he's "stupid and ugly and need to get his *** kicked."? In the service industry, that's outrageous. At least you said it in the back room, Spanish is no "defence" against getting caught.
And they also had it against me that I spoke Spanish to coworkers a lot. Tf?
It puts people on edge to speak in another language around people. It's like they are not allowed in the conversation or maybe they will feel that you are saying something about them. I can understand that you have good intentions, but it may make some people feel uncomfortable. Using another language excludes people, and compromises co-operation between your colleagues.
Probably because they know that you're using another language to attempt to disguise the crappy way you talk about people.
They know what I was sayin.
You're speaking badly of other people, thinking you can do it freely because you're speaking Spanish instead of English you're mistaken. Great example, Piccolo put on a show once, and two of her cast were slating her in Spanish. Piccolo speaks extremely good Spanish, when they missed a cue because they were slagging her off instead of paying attention, she ripped them to shreds. Lots of people speak Spanish, it's in the 4th most spoken language in the world, and 2nd most spoken in the US.. It's a terrible disguise for bad-mouthing people. Try welsh next time.
So, knowing that, your employers want you to stop speaking Spanish because you use it to slag people off, even when they probably know what you're saying. If you had called a customer ugly, stupid and in need of an arse kicking, and they'd heard, you would have been fired on the spot.
Also, I joked that a female team lead looks like a man. She pissed me off but I forgot how.
I don't like their attitude towards me. Like bitching at me to get to work. Threatening my job. Telling me I'm causing problems among coworkers. Will they ever forgive me?
Seriously? You don't like their attitude towards you? Perhaps you should address the way you behave at work and conduct yourself properly with a formal apology to your coworkers, then they maybe willing to put the past behind them.
Just hope my supervisor is willing to let bygones be bygones. She said she could forgive me. Well, I'll just have to see!
You seem to take some little things too seriously. Someone gets your order wrong, they misheard most likely - they're not 'sabotaging' you.
I just wanna keep this job. I wish I knew other ways to deal with ppl pissing me off.
Keep your head down, complete the tasks that you are responsible for, speak to your colleagues/customers with respect and if your in a situation where you feel pissed off then count to 10 in your head and breathe or walk away...if you stopped complaining and talking about others in the way you have been, I would suggest they would stop pissing you off. As I said before respect works both ways.
What if the two incidents described was ALL that happened? Would they have reacted so badly?
I kno, just asking
Every has their bad days where they're greeted by a rude customer and have their 5 minutes rant in the kitchen then they get on with their job professionally, end of. If i heard one of the staff talking about the customers the way you have (even if they couldnt hear) there would be severe words.
It does seem to me though that you dont know how to deal with people, or at least deal with anger.
I hate using this word but the 'normal' reaction to the things you've described isnt to throw a tantrum, bitch about people, threaten violence towards them, accuse them of 'sabotaging' you. Nobody purposely sets out in their day to sabotage someone. Im not surprised your colleagues dont like you
You seem to think you have some kind of right to treat people this way and you dont. There's one rule i like to live by: treat people the way you would like to be treated.
Do you think YOU have the problem, or do you think OTHER PEOPLE have a problem with you?
I work in HR for a retailer and I have shop floor experience in the same company...both jobs were/are extremely demanding and the colleagues in our store are effectively my customers. If I find I am having quite a stressful day, and I am in the office with only other HR colleagues I will have a 5 minute rant about what has annoyed me, etc to get it off my chest. In that rant - I would never be derogatory or disrespectful about the other person because it is common for people to have their differences or personality clashes. I also wouldn't because I would hope that they wouldn't be disrespectful about me behind my back.
If you had a particularly difficult customer and on ONE occasion you were caught ranting about how frustrating you found them but you weren't being rude/derogatory, etc and you were well out of sight/ear shot of any customers, then I would imagine your employer would possibly have overlooked it. However, having read your previous threads this point is irrelevant because not only do you seem to be disrespectful of customers but also your colleagues and it doesn't seem to have been just the one or two occasions you keep referring to.
If these people "piss you off" then maybe you should reconsider working with customers because unfortunately, they pay your wages.
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Yeah and I intend to change. I just can't stand ppl not liking me.
Next time stop and think about what you're about to before you do it