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It was a single appointment but I was only in there for 2 mins at most.
Yeah I have...I think I have them saved...I will have a look.
Failing that I might just take the whole packet of sleeping pills because that's what I feel like doing
When is the anniversary? Have you got something nice and practical planned to do for yourself? Have you been to the gym?
It's a week on Thursday (7th Feb)...I have decided to work but my team are taking me to the pub for lunch and I don't think they are expecting much from me in terms of productivity! I hope not anyway but they are being flexible and have said I can do whatever I need to.
I have been to the gym. I am training for an overnight charity bike ride that is from London to Brighton. But it's hard because I'm physically exhausted from everything else.
Good to hear you've been to the gym, it might not feel productive but it's definitely worth it.
I can't do this anymore :crying:
I deserve everything to be like this because I never listened to what he was really saying. It was too late. He died thinking I was angry with him and he died thinking that I didn't care...he could never have been more wrong and it's all my fault.
Now I'm just stuck having to learn to deal with the consequences. But I can't do it anymore...I just don't have the strength :crying:
It wasn't your responsibility. There were more people in his life than just you. You cannot blame yourself for this.
What your dad chose to do is no ones fault.
You do have the strength, you've shown it in how far you've come so far. At this minute it might not feel like it, but you are a fantastically talented young lady and you should be really proud of yourself. I wish I could give you a real hug, but there are definitely eHugs coming your way.
Bitesize chunks is all you can aim for, but bite size chunks and baby steps will get you through this. One step at a time.
From my personal experience, the thought of anniversairies is always worse than the actual anniversairy itself. You build it up so much in your mind, but when it happens it's just another day and all the irritations of normal life still happen and you carry on.
I always used to think the build up was worse but Xmas went completely against that for me so now I'm thinking this will be the same
Still didn't sleep very well either and I'm supposed to be going out this evening and I just don't want to...socialising is the last thing I want to do!
There's always the option of setting the alarm on your phone and going for a nap in the car at lunchtime.
I am just looking on TS now, and I have never seen this article. How have I missed it. But you may find it helpful.
This one may help too
Big *hug* your not alone.
I had a heart to heart with my manager today - I told her absolutely everything and it was really helpful. Even she got upset at one point! I really don't deserve such amazing support (that also includes from the people on here!)
I am so glad you talked to your manager and that it helped you. So proud of you for taking that step.
You should be proud of yourself too
Always here for you
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Why is it every one else in this stupid family is allowed to be down, stressed, depressed, tired, etc, etc but when it comes to me and me asking for one bloody little bit of support in the form of "please could you walk to work for ONE morning" so I can take my sleeping tablets and get a decent nights sleep - its like I've asked for her to climb mount everest or something equally as stupid :banghead:
I have put up with being ranted at, being shouted at, being made to feel like crap, etc but I'm not allowed to be tired or feeling low and openly admitting it. Oh no. I have to be the perfect daughter who is all sweet and smiling and supportive of everybody else. I'm the one who has to keep it together for everyone else.
I've had it :banghead: I should have just taken the whole bloody packet of sleeping tablets whilst I had the chance :banghead:
How are you feeling otherwise?