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I'm so confused... How am I supposed to feel?
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Okay, basically. I'm in year 9(13 year old girl) an I've been getting along really well with this boy in my tutor. We have so much gun and laughs when where together and he seems to understand me. I'm not skinny and I'm not pretty, I don't where make up but I'm quite neeky! So yeah. We get along great. But then, my 'ex' friend has liked him for 3 years and he knows about it. She has clef pallet and gets teased a lot and has been bullied for ages so he has like no self confidence. But me and my other friend have been really kind and stuck by here. Helping her.
Now the reason I call her 'ex' friend! Because the other day she had a right go at me telling me that I was selfish and that she hated me. Then she said that I was in love with this boy and was stealing him away from her. So I had a go back( as ya do!) but, as usual, she ran off crying. Usually me and my friend run after her and make her feel better and apologise but this time we didn't s she got even more mad.
He next day she tried to talk to us and we ignored her so yeah where not friends now.
So back to him...(sorry I'm babbling) he's sweet, cute( looks don't matter though), kind, funny and very mean!! But in a sweet way!
I sit next to him in science and we get all of the work done but we still talk and stuff. When he talks to me he faces me completely, stares right into my eyes and just smiles. I get tingles down my Spine every time! When we are t in class then we do this thing called mind battle. I know that it sounds really neeky but he puts his forehead on mind and his nose on mine then pushes me up against the wall and talks to me. This is i front of his friends most of the time or In front of mine. But they all tease him saying that he fancies me. I think that I like him. I'm always thinking about him and I just feel great! I use to self harm but I don't now that we are friends!
What does this mean? Does he like me? Do I like him? Should I say anything because yesterday my 'ex' friend told his friend that she thought I like him and I sit next to that guy in art so he shouted across to the first one that I loved him and I had to explain myself but later on yesterday he asked whether it was true. So I said I didn't know and he said I must do becAuse I was blushing. He said that loved me too! But I'm not sure whether that was true because then we had to go to class
Now the reason I call her 'ex' friend! Because the other day she had a right go at me telling me that I was selfish and that she hated me. Then she said that I was in love with this boy and was stealing him away from her. So I had a go back( as ya do!) but, as usual, she ran off crying. Usually me and my friend run after her and make her feel better and apologise but this time we didn't s she got even more mad.
He next day she tried to talk to us and we ignored her so yeah where not friends now.
So back to him...(sorry I'm babbling) he's sweet, cute( looks don't matter though), kind, funny and very mean!! But in a sweet way!
I sit next to him in science and we get all of the work done but we still talk and stuff. When he talks to me he faces me completely, stares right into my eyes and just smiles. I get tingles down my Spine every time! When we are t in class then we do this thing called mind battle. I know that it sounds really neeky but he puts his forehead on mind and his nose on mine then pushes me up against the wall and talks to me. This is i front of his friends most of the time or In front of mine. But they all tease him saying that he fancies me. I think that I like him. I'm always thinking about him and I just feel great! I use to self harm but I don't now that we are friends!
What does this mean? Does he like me? Do I like him? Should I say anything because yesterday my 'ex' friend told his friend that she thought I like him and I sit next to that guy in art so he shouted across to the first one that I loved him and I had to explain myself but later on yesterday he asked whether it was true. So I said I didn't know and he said I must do becAuse I was blushing. He said that loved me too! But I'm not sure whether that was true because then we had to go to class
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Lol. Ik! I'm sorry it's really long. Any advice??
to him that I do. But I think I convinced him that I don't. But then I was pretty sad after that for some reason. It might be the fact that those friends asked him whether he loved me. He said as a friend.
So there's the answer
Moving from being friends with someone to becoming boyfriend and girlfriend is always a tricky one. First you've got to work out if they feel the same way as you without ruining your friendship, which can be hard! He could be feeling the same as you and also worrying about opening up in case you don't feel the same way too!
I thought I'd post a couple of links to some TheSite articles that might be of help:
I love my best friend
Asking someone out
Is this a date or are we just hanging out
If you do go ahead and start seeing this guy, it might be a good idea to chat it through with your 'ex' friend first. It's understandable that she feels upset if she has liked him for a long time, so I'm sure she'd prefer to hear it from you than someone else if you do make a go of it.
Good luck!