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They're not always going to last long - but eventually you will notice that the good times get better and the bad times fewer and further inbetween. I know it really doesn't seem like that right now, but it will happen.
*hugs* what's your post on the hugs thread about missy? How do you think you've screwed up your life?
I dont know...I'm just feeling really down...almost consumed a whole concoction of prescription medication last night...luckily an email from Samaritans and chat kept me going...
Have you plans to go back to the doctors yet? I really think it would be beneficial for you. It's okay to need some help to get through this low point.
I rang today but couldn't get through and then when I did I couldn't see my GP so will try again tomorrow...I guess I don't really hold out much hope for any practical help though...
Also, Helen said something in chat last night which inadvertantly made me think that if I did things to boost my own self-confidence, I might not be reacting quite as sensitively to everything at the moment as I am, which would also help...I can't even watch TV programmes without bursting into tears at the slightest thing (which for me is really unusual). I can't even remember what she said now but it was helpful.
I also had 8 hours sleep last night without waking up whatsoever and its made a huge difference...
Self-confidence is often something wrapped up in bereavement. The "if i was worthy they wouldn't have left" type of thoughts, so I am sure that that type of thing would help you out for sure. I still find myself in tears at certain tv programs though (mainly adverts, like the cancer research disappearing wellingtons, and for some reason the 'save the best till last' advert that i'm sure is bisto but perhaps someone else used that song for sth a bit more poignant?!) so there will be some things that are just triggering.
I completely understand your reasons for not wanting to go down the medication route, but I don't necessarily agree that it's just masking the feelings. I think if you were to go on a short, temporary course of something, it would give your body the kickstart to right itself and balance out the chemicals etc that are stopping you from processing things. What's the deal with counselling?
Yeah I guess I would be willing to consider it, if it is short-term...I don't want to be on anything long term.
Cruse offered me counselling - first appt is on 8th November...
My friend went on a short term course back in February when he was bullied out of his job and under incredible stress. it helped him to manage. They may even just be willing to give you some sleeping tablets or something - sleep is really important to allow your brain to process things.
Have you tried any of the sleep help things that are available?
I tried Kalms tablets during the day and I've tried some herbal sleeping stuff - it doesnt work but I know a lot of my sleep deprivation has been down to work because thats twice I have managed to sleep when I havent had to go to work the next day!
Hi hun, hope you don't mind me butting in, but I felt the same way about going down the medication route too. One boss I had told me that she had been on antidepressants, and talked it through with me about maybe going on them myself. She said that there was something in our brains, a chemical or something, when we get depressed it's because we are lacking in it and the tablets just give us a boost so we can sort ourselves out.
I took antidepressants while attending counseling, I think it really helped. xx
Thanks
Really struggling again this evening...really can't be bothered/don't care/annoyed/upset/angry....list is endless...sick of it all now.
Here's a big one: *hug* *hug*
I'm not a fan of fb, could never get into it. xx
Congrats on trying the GP, stick with it. They might be able to suggest something to get up out of this slump, techniques/tricks to sleep which in turn make everything else easier to deal with.
How about a weepy film? Perfect excuse to cry, and it can still help.
Are you still near uni? Try the chaplaincy for someone to rant at, odds are pretty good for some tlc in the form of tea & biscuits although generally a bit light in hugs. Top for ears though.
Xx
I just finished reading the book "the help"...that made me cry at the end! I've done so much crying in the last 4 weeks, I'm fed up with myself crying!
I am still near uni...I always forget about the chaplaincy! I should probably give it a go...I also found (by accident) my local samaritans drop-in centre too so that could be useful for future reference
The challenge is always remembering them when you're struggling - but we'll try and help with that.