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I was chatting to my housemate last night who works as a student admin at uni, and we were talking about mitigating circumstances. She says it's a good idea to drop an email to someone in uni even if you only tell them roughly of the circumstances, i.e. "I'm having a rough time right now due to some personal issues so am struggling a bit, I'll be in contact to explain further as soon as possible". This way even though uni don't know everything that's going on, they have at least had contact and are aware.
Chin up love. Get yourself to the doctors and get some looking after.
I have emailed to tell uni that I had lost a parent and a grandparent this year and that I am struggling at the moment and they just told me to fill in some forms and contact them again if I need an extension.
I also had a very honest conversation with my manager and told her I was suicidal so she is aware of just how much I'm struggling...
I might be able to function if the nightmares stopped happening and I could at least get some sleep and it would help if the flashbacks stopped interfering with my job! Not that I've told anyone about either
Good on the uni side, and on the manager side.
You were planning on going to the doctor's today, how's that gone? Even if you get some sleeping tablets or something from them to help you through, that might help, and you can then work on counselling and the flashbacks. What happened with the call from Cruse? Flashbacks are akin to the PTSD stuff I keep mentioning, EMDR and meditation do help!
Cruse called me today with an appointment - in 3 weeks time. Don't know if I can continue like this for that long.
I didnt make it to the doctors because I had to work...I will go tomorrow but not sure what to do if I can't see my Doctor as the rest of them (there are only 3 others) are horrible. I also have no idea what to tell them because I don't know whats linked and what isn't anymore! Guess I'll find out tomorrow morning...
Tell the doctor everything- you wouldn't pick and choose with cancer symptoms, don't pick and choose with your mental health. Write it down- what you need to say, not what you think you should say or what you think other want to hear. The doctor needs to hear the truth.
I have an appt with a locum doctor at 10:20 - currently having a panic attack...don't know what is wrong with me...why can't I just get a grip!!!!!!!
And while he was doing my blood pressure I had a sneaky glance at my record on his screen which quite clearly stated Referal to Hospital Counselling Services to be arranged...the last time I went to the doctors was around May so not sure what happened to that referral but it obviously got lost!
:banghead:
I understand that you wanted more practical help from the doctor, but there are so many options and things they could do that it helps to have more context so that you get given the right help, not just any help. Get another copy of that form, fill it out, and go back again. I'd also consider changing to a doctors that allows you to make appointments in advance.
From my experience referalls to hospital counselling service can take months. I'm sure I have several friends still waiting.
You might be like me, mine was a slow weekly session, then one day I woke up and realized I didn't feel the same, I felt at peace.
Hang in there WhiteLillies, it really is worth it. xx
I hate this and I hate myself.
Remember we are all thinking of you if you want to talk. *hug*
*hug* But you fought it? Have you done anything? *hug*
If you have resisted that's amazing strength. It takes a lot of energy, and you feel drained by the end of it, but keep fighting.
I know it's all words, I know it's hard, but I always thought I was so weak both mentally and physically. I still think I'm quite weak in body, but I feel stronger in my mind. I overcame it and feel stronger for doing so. I only wish I knew how to help. xx
Do you know what I really want? I just want someone to give me a massive hug and let me cry without expecting me to talk/explain or anything else...and for that person not to make me feel guilty for feeling like this.
No-one talks about it anymore. Everyone is "over" it now.
If I was with you now, that's what I would do. Sometimes that was what I wanted but never had the courage to ask. Whenever I have a bad day I always ask my mother for a hug. You have no reason to feel guilty, and if you don't want to talk that's your right. xx *hug*
Are you talking about it? Are you bringing him up? I'd suspect they're Not really over it. They will be burying Their grief and feelings until it rises its ugly head months or years later in a completely unrecognizable form, which they will then struggle to solve as they won't be able to pinpoint the cause.
As I've said before, have you got any friends, perhaps ones who like mothering, who you can go to for some looking after? They don't need to know what you are going through, just that you need some tlc.
No - my friends aren't like that - if anything I am the one who they normally come to when they want TLC or a shoulder, etc...I do have two really good friends that I can rant at relentlessly and they still love me and actually tell me they don't know how to help but understand that if ranting helps then I can do it as much as I want. I love those guys! One of them (when it first happened) made me take breaks at work by dragging me off somewhere nice for lunch and when I used to disappear to one of our meeting rooms to cry she would bring me chocolate...its funny how you really appreciate the little things!
It's the little things that make the biggest difference.
Thought you might like this song:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?feature=player_detailpage&v=q6wZhd8M848
Hope you like, big hug xx.
Are you getting to see these two good friends much?
Some people know how to comfort others in the simplest of ways. I think we underestimate strangers sometimes. xx
Good day didnt last long