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After a one nighter

Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
I had my first night stand and just wondering what happens after event usually? As the guy I went with we stayed in bed watching tv till 2 next day after

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  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Whatever you want, as long as its legal!

    There are no "rules", just go with the flow and see where it takes you!
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Miss_Riot wrote: »
    Whatever you want, as long as its legal!

    There are no "rules", just go with the flow and see where it takes you!

    :yes:
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Miss_Riot wrote: »
    Whatever you want, as long as its legal!

    There are no "rules", just go with the flow and see where it takes you!

    It's not that simple :((

    He told me after he had a gf...

    But now they've split up and as bad as it sounds I like him and think I've blown my chance :(
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    So this isnt just about a one night stand then?
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    I guess not :(
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Then I'd back off a bit and see what happens...

    No one wants to be rebound girl!
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Miss_Riot wrote: »
    Then I'd back off a bit and see what happens...

    No one wants to be rebound girl!

    Don't even think he'd want to with me anyway as I jumped into bed with him
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Don't be so quick to think that! You could just ask him what he wants/thinks about it
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    jacobs_gal wrote: »
    Don't even think he'd want to with me anyway as I jumped into bed with him

    He jumped in to bed with you as well, remember.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Miss_Riot wrote: »
    Don't be so quick to think that! You could just ask him what he wants/thinks about it

    He hasnt spoken to me on fb since event but I haven't bumped into him in work either :( but don't want to make a fool of myself
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Hi jacobs_gal,

    It seems like after this one night stand you would like to see him again, especially now that him and his girlfriend broke up. The morning after is understandably scary especially if you like him :yes:

    If you are interested in dating him, how about asking him out for a drink? It could insinuate this isn't just about sex- and you do work together so it could also be interpreted as a friendly drink as well. His reaction could be an inkling on what he feels too.

    However, as Miss_Riot mentioned, perhaps being "the rebound" may not be ideal - so have a think as to whether his is what you want. Working together is also something to think about in terms of a possible awkward aftermath :banghead:

    Good luck and do let us know how you get on!
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Thing is he hasn't spoken to me at all on fb since it's been a month :(

    Yet he was the one who approached me
    christele wrote: »
    Hi jacobs_gal,

    It seems like after this one night stand you would like to see him again, especially now that him and his girlfriend broke up. The morning after is understandably scary especially if you like him :yes:

    If you are interested in dating him, how about asking him out for a drink? It could insinuate this isn't just about sex- and you do work together so it could also be interpreted as a friendly drink as well. His reaction could be an inkling on what he feels too.

    However, as Miss_Riot mentioned, perhaps being "the rebound" may not be ideal - so have a think as to whether his is what you want. Working together is also something to think about in terms of a possible awkward aftermath :banghead:

    Good luck and do let us know how you get on!
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    You either need to drop it or approach him about it. If he doesn't reply to you, theres your answer...
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Precisely. Try and speak with him. If he ignores you then you have your answer as to whether he's worth wasting any time over.

    Only thing I'd add is that having a one night stand with him generally doesn't change anything; you've not ruined your chances or anything like that.
  • Indrid ColdIndrid Cold Posts: 16,688 Skive's The Limit
    Precisely. Try and speak with him. If he ignores you then you have your answer as to whether he's worth wasting any time over.
    Just to make it clear, that answer would be "No".
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Just to make it clear, that answer would be "No".

    Haven't bumped into him in work but haven't spoke to him on fb either bad sign?!
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    jacobs_gal wrote: »
    Haven't bumped into him in work but haven't spoke to him on fb either bad sign?!

    He had sex with you and now he's not calling a month after the event? It certainly isn't a good sign. If he contacts you after all this time it'll be because he's horny, not because he likes you.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Whowhere wrote: »
    He had sex with you and now he's not calling a month after the event? It certainly isn't a good sign. If he contacts you after all this time it'll be because he's horny, not because he likes you.

    He had a gf when it took place :S
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Just to make it clear, that answer would be "No".

    Sent him a message but he didn't reply guess I had my answer
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    jacobs_gal wrote: »
    He had a gf when it took place :S

    Then he is quite clearly a dickhead. I wouldn't waste your time on him.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Whowhere wrote: »
    Then he is quite clearly a dickhead. I wouldn't waste your time on him.

    Thanks just a shame I bump into him around work :(
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Two life lessons you've had to learn the hard way: don't fuck someone at work and don't fuck someone who you know has a partner.

    I'll bet he even told you she never gives him sex and is just waiting for the right time to chuck her.

    The only consolation is that you've not blown your chances of anything. The guy's a knobhead and was only interested in putting his ding-a-ling in your tra-la-la. Just let your colleagues know he was a bit small ;)
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    ding-a-ling in your tra-la-la. Just let your colleagues know he was a bit small ;)

    Teehee!
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Two life lessons you've had to learn the hard way: don't fuck someone at work and don't fuck someone who you know has a partner.

    I'll bet he even told you she never gives him sex and is just waiting for the right time to chuck her.

    The only consolation is that you've not blown your chances of anything. The guy's a knobhead and was only interested in putting his ding-a-ling in your tra-la-la. Just let your colleagues know he was a bit small ;)

    He didn't tell me till after the event and he doesn't work in my office but next door so that wasn't my fault. He wasn't small but did struggle

    When I do see him do I say hi
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Don't waste your time with him. He cheated his girlfriend, he's not such a good guy...
    Get over him quickly! There are better guys out there!
    Kisses
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    jacobs_gal wrote: »
    He didn't tell me till after the event and he doesn't work in my office but next door so that wasn't my fault. He wasn't small but did struggle

    When I do see him do I say hi

    You'd be best off blanking him. He just wanted to fuck you so ignore him, he's not worth even wasting the oxygen required to say "hi".

    I don't care if he was big or small, good or bad, just remember that if he gossips you can get revenge quite easily.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    You'd be best off blanking him. He just wanted to fuck you so ignore him, he's not worth even wasting the oxygen required to say "hi".

    I don't care if he was big or small, good or bad, just remember that if he gossips you can get revenge quite easily.

    He even said not to post on his wall :(
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    jacobs_gal wrote: »
    He even said not to post on his wall :(

    guilt about cheating?
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