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the reason i am concerned about the new health and wellbeing thread is that i think it has huge potential to become competitive and dangerous. that's not to say that people shouldn't talk about self-harm or eating disorders or anything else, of course that's ok. but i think people need to make their own thread for support.
-Edit - I don't disagree with you guys, I guess my definition of triggering is different.
YSH - the problem with individual threads on H&W is that if there are several threads on the same subject, often people won't bother responding to all of them and so sometimes (not often) the threads can get lost and then ignored. Having one or two 'dedicated' threads that are active and supportive means that people are less likely to be ignored, and if they read through the thread they may find their answer in response to someone else.
:yes: People do need a place to rant.
What about a "Had a bad day - need a hug?" style thread in H&W that someone mentioned further up. Just gets rid of the whole "this is here for you to post something triggering which you can't post in AG" thing.
I don't like starting my own thread because my problems are a bit pathetic, but I still need the help. So what do I do if I can't post in the ranty thread?
Yeah, if I'm feeling like it and I find out someone else has done it, it makes me want to more.
Frankly, the fairly banal content of this thread would be triggering if I were so minded. It depends on person and mindset.
But, regarding the point of the thread, I actually do agree with Scary Monster. I've almost certainly been guilty of posting things in inappropriate threads and it's partly because the pattern has been established that those things are said in those threads and then it gets very difficult to break without having precisely this conversation.
I would use the Depression and S-H thread.
Or I sometimes start my own thread and then use it for a week or two if there is something specific I want to talk or ask about.
Would it be worth starting your own thread in H&W? Your problems aren't pathetic - they're just as valid as anyone elses.
i think you should BA, then you can update it as and when you want without feeling that you need to start a new thread each time. no one thinks your problems aren't important.
Cheers Franki!
xx
But I completely agree with Scary Monster, I don't think it is appropriate to be raising issues about mental ill-health, self-harm, suicide and the like in an anything goes thread that is more jokey than anything else. Anything goes and the waste time boards are for light-hearted stuff and I think questions and statements about SH would be better off in a specific thread.
It is a tough one because I don't think for one second that mental ill health should be hidden away- my scars are as much a part of me as my swearing and my sense of humour- but I think people should have the choice about whether they read it. When I'm in a bad place I'll add to my own thread in health but I won't read other people's threads about SH and EDs because it will tempt me, and I don't want to be tempted. I want to read about shite quizzes and giggle at someone who dropped their spag bol all over the cat and wait for the bad feelings to pass.
:yes: a really good conversation to have.
On contemplation (a bit of a paddy):
We keep tiptoeing around these hypothetical people that this kind of stuff triggers. So fine, I'll say it - it triggers me. I have depression which is flaring up at the moment, and when I needed to talk about it, I put it in the appropriate place. It makes me feel like my feelings are less valid than others because despite a whole thread about this issue and another in the H&W section, people are still posting inappropriate stuff on the ranty thread. It's not fair that I don't get to look at it because of this. It's not fair that the mods aren't enforcing the very reasonable guidelines we decided here. It's not fair that, like yesterday, I come online to unwind after a difficult day, look on the ranty thread and end up feeling worse.
I think this is part of the problem - there are some things that some people find triggering and I personally am not bothered about in the slightest.
but the mods are aware it triggers some of us - and yet they do nothing.
Have you reported the post? Or PM'd the poster and politely asked them to edit their post?
I've reported such posts on a number of times and had no removal, and the mods havent explained why they've just ignored me. As you may have guessed this is really beginning to tick me off.
People should be allowed to post what they like, as long as it breaks none of the rules. I expect fully that some posts in the ranty thread/hug thread etc. might be upsetting, because they are not not a "light hearted thread"
If every single post someone found triggering was deleted, it would defeat the object of the board.
Why don't you just add the user to your ignore list? That way, you can see the posts you want to (maybe in another thread) but the ones in the rant thread can be hidden.
On the other hand, if potentially triggering posts were made in a jokey thread, they would be out of place. If people want to post about that kind of thing, then might be best posting it in a suitable place, I'm not saying people are not allowed to post what they want, but surely their venting / question for help if its a serious matter, would be better placed than in one of the "jokey" threads.