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Walking on egg shells - the long threads
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So, I realise this one may be un popular, and may be insensitive, and make people feel stigmatised etc, but I think it's also one worth throwing out there as a question, even if hardly anyone likes it.
(Hence the walking on eggshells).
We've got the rants thread, the good news thread, and the best thing you've eaten today thread which are all fab and brilliant and are 95% about all kinds of stuff. We've also got the long depression and self harming thread, which I know is really helpful to a lot of people.
What I'm kind of wondering is, am I the only one who would rather not see posts about self harming in the rants thread, and posts about not eating in the best food thread? It might just be me, but if I'm having a ranty/rubbish day, then other people's grumps usually help cheer me up/give some perspective on life. The self harm bits just feel a bit close.
(Hence the walking on eggshells).
We've got the rants thread, the good news thread, and the best thing you've eaten today thread which are all fab and brilliant and are 95% about all kinds of stuff. We've also got the long depression and self harming thread, which I know is really helpful to a lot of people.
What I'm kind of wondering is, am I the only one who would rather not see posts about self harming in the rants thread, and posts about not eating in the best food thread? It might just be me, but if I'm having a ranty/rubbish day, then other people's grumps usually help cheer me up/give some perspective on life. The self harm bits just feel a bit close.
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I see your point about the ranty thread. I know I'm guilty of posting things in there sometimes that may be triggering, but I try to be deliberately vague when I do.
I think the ranty thread shouldn't have stuff like "I wanna die" in it. Sometimes you wanna be like "I spent ages cooking macaroni cheese and then dropped it all in the dirty sink", but it can't quite follow that.
On a serious note, I have found the ranty thread uncomfortable reading at times.
but people are and it does happen if someone posts something potentially *triggering* without issueing it with some sort of warning. personally, if im considering self harming, it may be selfish but the last person i am worrying about is anyone on an internet forum finding my derranged/desperate ravings triggering. but maybe that's another discussion.
if this message board is going to become so stringent on threads for particular posts then for me that is a complete turn off.
im aware that posts can be 'triggering' like the ones about self harm but i think it's unreasonable for the person who has made a post like that to be expected to take everyone else's needs into consideration.
Sorry
I post on another forum and we are expected to mention that it may trigger in the title.
Even then, when those posts are in Anything Goes or Waste Time, they still get quoted over and over so even if you skim over them, chances are you'll see it again. It's just impossible to avoid. I reported one once because I thought other people would be triggered too but it wasn't removed. Now I don't often read the Ranty Thread because I don't want to be triggered, and that makes me a bit :mad:. And if you don't know what to say and just post your own rant after one of the dramatic ones you look like a cow. I think it should be confined to the H&W.
it's good manners though, especially on a forum like this one. and sometimes threads have titles like 'i don't know what to do' or something completely ambiguous like that, and end up giving graphic details about suicide or something. we know vulnerable people are reading, so if the post is likely to cause harm to someone else it should have a trigger warning, simple as.
Sure, some posts might be upsetting / make uncomfortable reading, but I think there is a difference.
What is triggering for one person may not be triggering for another. It's individual and impossible to regulate.
but i think it's a pretty big assumption to make that everyone is going to have this 'netiquette' instilled in them or even have the capacity at that time to make that sort of judgement. i agree if someone reports it as triggering that inevitably a warning will be placed over it but like scc just pretty much pointed out, if a thread has a banner with a 'triggering' warning doesn't it just add to the temptation to read it? so im not even sure how helpful a warning is.
people should be able to post wherever they want and yes it's good in a way that a sort of agreed netiquette has been formed with members that have been here a long time but not everyone is going to have the forsight to post in the 'correct' place (if one even exists on a messageboard designed to support young people) or to issue it with a triggering stamp before hitting the submit button.
It's not that black and white.
The facility to help people with potentially triggering problems shouldn't be removed entirely, because on balance that will do just as much harm as banning it. Users should just have much more choice in reading them.