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Hey, I do not mean to meddle, it's been said before that you have nothing to say sorry to him for, you did nothing wrong, and whilst I agree you do keep saying sorry to him, so I will try a different way, Why do you feel the need to apologise to him? do you feel there is something that was particually your fault in this? if so please explain as the biggest thing here is your happiness, and if you keep feeling sad and wanting to apologise, I feel it make eat at you until he accepts it, unfortunately chances are you may never hear from him again..
*hugs*
Anyway, yeah I hope he is okay. I know he's a cheater and that, but I have liked him for ages you can't just drop emotions like that. I wish I could though..
In some respects I don't care about him.. and then in others I miss him teribally.
Xx
I understand that and empathise 100%. It doesn't matter how bad or horrible they are, there's still that bit of you that loves them like always and misses them when they're not there. I'm going through that right now, only instead of not getting a response from my ex, I've got all too many very emotional responses that are making me feel so terrible for him.
It's tough, but we need to think about our own happiness too.
But I text him today.. and he told me "I can't go on thesite, everything is screwed with everyone. and i lost my one help source. thank you and fuck off. Leave me alone."
That seriously upset me, and I told him I'd tell you all I was lieing. But I don't want to. I haven't lied about anything, so I don't see why I should just so he can come back.
I am going to leave him alone now though, he has shown me how much he can really hurt me. Ooohhh I am really pissed off about it though, it really upset me and made me fucking burst into tears. I just can't seem to get over him :-(
Xx
Haha, sorry but a classic, he is trying to blame you for him leaving, not your fault he was two timing, cheating so and so. honestly I think it is best you leave him alone, I know how you felt B-A a lot of people have been there before. you open your heart, love someone yet they fill it with hurt, I just hope it doesn't close you off to love in the future, I know it almost ruined me, (long story)
Anyway, I really think forgetting, or heading towards forgetting about him is best. I know it hurts, but it is true, it gets easier with time, and I hate to sound so cheesey but it honestly does get better with time,
Best of luck pet..
There are other places for him to go if he really wants... this is not his "one help source."
Try not to worry xxx
Oh I reckon he already has, and Naun, I so believe you in what your saying,
Shyboy, I got your FB msg but at work so cant read it soz,
Sorry to see how upset you are but hopefully that will pass with time. One thing I would say, that's very important, is that you shouldn't ever feel that you need to lie or conceal anything about your life or what you're going through. If something is making you upset or uncomfortable, or asking you to do anything that involves lying then it's really very unlikely to be coming from a good place.
And as has been said, as much as we pride ourselves on providing a good service here on TheSite there are other services out there providing support and advice to young people. I mean, I think this is a great one, but it's not the only one by any measure.
Ahhh, this isn't what I am saying though, even IF everyone knew who it was, if it was serious help needed he would receive it, no one is that horrible and vindictive,
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No yeah definitely. :yes:
Am just saying if he did want to come back... under a different name etc and just wanted to be part of thesite again without being known... he could do it.
Certainly, although I feel most people post in a certain way that you get to know their posting styles, eg you could tell if it was them. but yes, I think it is decided B-A, he can come back if he really likes, but I doubt he will..
Our virtual door never totally shuts on anyone arse.
Yeah I dont mind if they come back, Ive no idea who we are on about in the first place.
lol
BA, you're quite mature for your age. I mean, you're handling it quite well tbh, I'd be fucking livid... and espescially at your age, I definately wouldn't have had the decency to say how they're actually a nice person. I'd be slinging insults left, right and centre! Ha, it's safe to say I'm not as childish as that anymore though.
I've just realised the irony of what I said there, after laughing at Calvin's post. :thumb:
I've spent the last year an a bit on this site, it's kinda hard to get into another community the same. Now if i did make a new account it would take you about 5 posts to understand that it were me. The reason why i don't want to stay on this site is more because, no one used to take me seriously before, why would they now? I'm not anon anymore, and i wouldn't like people i know to read what i've posted.
Naimh, stop being so stupid. You never loved me, you never met me, you should have to feelings, stop being so freaking childish and grow up. You knew from the start i was with stacey. Don't say you didn't because you did.
You've made me seem like the worst person in the world on this website, for everyone to see. Yeah i might be horrible and stupid. But is there really a need for a 75 message long bitch about me? Not really.
I can't justify anything i've done and i know it's wrong. But seriously Naimh, stop being so fucking stupid you thought i were some fat internet geek.
This is all just silly crazy. I was hoping this thread would either get locked or delete. So have fun ripping me even more.
Even if he did come back under a different name, and admitted to us all that he is who he is.... we still don't really have the right to give him a hard time.
Ok so he fucked up...in fact he acted like a cunt and possibly still is acting like a cunt. He may act like a cunt for the rest of his life.... but at the end of the day, it's not really any of our business.
It's not like we're his friends or family in real life, I think sometimes we can get too emotionally attached to this site... at the end of the day, it's a website for people of his age to get help and advice, and that's what we should be doing... not judging him on what he does in his personal life, although we can offer our opinions if asked.
Well it just took the one post to realise it was you but it was kind of easy
Agree, I dont think he should feel like he cant come back here anymore despite what he has or hasnt done.
We've given B-A our advice and as this is an advice site, my advice to Jordan would be to forget about this and move on... ok she and everyone on here is saying bad stuff about you but be the bigger man, learn from your mistakes and walk away (not from thesite but from the situation), dont let it ruin your life or your ability to post on here. I think it would be incredibly sad if you have a huge problem and are in need of advice so bad but dont want to come back here.
Just break all ties you have of each other, and if you see each other posting on here with a problem, just dont go into that thread, its not worth getting worked up over.
She is 13 so she is a child,
Personally we now have two sides of the story yet I know from first hand experience how easy it is to fall in love with someone online, I met my wife this way so I believe it is possible,
mate if you want to go into how innocent you are I have a couple of secrets I would be more than happy to share on here if you like, Frankly from what I know about you, you make me SICK. heck I am even sure the police would like to know as well.
Oh also, I have to ask, how did the Girlfriend take to finding out? I hope she is okay?
Hellfire, if you're implying that there's a need for the police to be involved in something then you should either immediately contact them, or discuss the situation with us. To use it as a way of threatening someone is no way to deal with potential abuse.
Sorry B-A, I know you're in contact with other users through PM's, it may be best to use that as a way of discussing how you feel, or even chat sessions, given the nature of the allegations implied in this thread and how this involves two users I don't think it's possible to maintain an ongoing thread right now.