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He's my brother....
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I think you're reading more into the situation than there is. As I previously responded to another poster, I am being the adult, I am taking responsibility, I am making sure things remain relatively harmless. After a year and a half that I've been "managing" Dale's incursions, we are definitely closer, maybe even happier, and our personal relationship is unquestionably stronger for all we've been through.
I suppose I can be more emphatic about our physicality being merely incidental to the essence of our relationship, inappropriate as it may be. Every relationship is a unique, live and dynamic creation, and a one-size-fits-all approach isn't necessarily an answer or a solution to issues.
As for Dale, he purposefully refrained from engaging in any kind of sex (a huge endeavor, as most 13 and 14 year-olds, some younger, will tell you that oral sex is widely practiced in school, at parties and elsewhere, and many are engaging in intercourse). Dale had his first sexual episode on his 16th birthday, by one of his two close friends. So I give credit to Dale, more than I'd label him a stud. He's a great brother and I'm lucky to have him in my life.
With regard to "finding myself a man, dear".....I invited all, at the top of my "he's my brother" post, to peruse my introductory post for a little something about me. Obviously you didn't take me up on it. I'm actually presently on a sabbatical from dating and romantic relationships....but I do have all the men and sex I need at this time :-) Thanks for the suggestion anyway.
As for you making more sense than me, please temper your demeanor towards those you disagree with....there's a saying, which you should remember....no one can be more wrong and more humiliated, than one who is convinced he/she is right.
yeah fits in well with you, considering your leading your brother on and letting him, well yeah...
Good role model and grown up :thumb:
:rolleyes:
As Strubbles implies, you may as well go fuck your brother-who-is-not-your-brother-although-sometimes-he-is-your-brother-but-what-the-fuck-it-just-harmless-sex-between-an-adult-and-an-underage-youth-and fuck-any-effect-it-will-have-on-him-psychologically-or-the-response-you-will-get-from-your-parents.
Hmmmmmmmmmmmm .... I wonder if I can put a bet on Dale turning out to be an abuser himself one day? :chin:
Have you ever actually had a boyfriend? Are you expecting to aquire one at some point in the future? If so, do you really expect that any man would be cool with your relationship with your brother? I know I wouldn't be. The fact you've got so many guys giving you casual sex and Dale's got so many girls willing to give him casual sex (I think I must live in the wrong town) makes the whole thing even less understandable.
Sounds like something directly out of the paedophile's manifesto. I salute you!
some 6 billion people ain't. Find comfort in that fact.
But remember, we all have a tiny strubbles in our heart, who keeps us warm in lonely nights.
I even have a voodoo doll i put my winkie in every night just for you
(post #28).....yours is the first post I don't appreciate. You really need to enhance your vocabulary, and/or cleanse your way of thinking, for a more civil discourse. Yes, I do have an interesting situation, and it does make for a good story, doesn't it? Some online friends have actually told me they're honestly a little jealous of my predicament, and wish they had my problem. You, on the other hand, are perhaps in denial of your own jealousy?
I'm replying to nearly all the posts, including yours, so yeah, I think I "give a shit".
(post #36)....no, I'm not convinced I'm right, else I wouldn't be subjecting myself to hostilities by your type. You have a sarcasm which manifests your arrogance when others don't bow to your wishes.
Dale turns "legal" next month, so your advice becomes more do-able, lol. We can even get hitched a year later :-) as we're not consanguine, hence are not forbidden by law to marry.
Seriously, I appreciate your input....Dale was, is, will be my brother. But you're the frist to hit on the fact that Dale and I are the only ones who can decide how and what our relationship will be.
I'm trying to get my head around this situation but i can't, if you love him like a brother then treat him like a brother. If this goes on and ends badly, who is it going to affect more? and if this goes further and then ends badly who is going to be affected more? Dale either way is going to feel like you're leading him on. so why not stop this now? You don't need to completely change you're relationship providing that you aren't over each other all the time :eek2: Just sleep in different beds and wear some clothes, really is it that hard?
if it is.... get him dun and move on coz i bet thats what will happen
He ain't heavy, he's my brother.
So on we go
His welfare is my concern........:o
This really does give a new meaning to the phrase 'brotherly love'. I'd say wait a month - bang the shit out of him and get it out of both your systems. Then take it from there - Both your feelings may have changed at that point.
Not gonna mention anything about keeping it in the fam.......:razz:
You don't see X-rated "expletive deleted" words anywhere in my narratives or posts, do you?, nor profanities? but you'd find them in some posters who push morality, wouldn't you?
No, I haven't made up my mind....I'm on "instinct-drive". That you are "all, without exception" thinking I'm wrong does not necessarily make all of you right.... when did absolutism equate to righteousness? As I've said, maybe you're right, maybe you're not. Besides, SnuggleBubbles takes exception, lol.
"So, end of discusiion"....is reflective of dissent being stifled, don't you think? And ever hear of the term "tyranny of the majority'? :-)
Your suggestion to (expletive deleted) my brother kind of reminds me---again---about some posters shrilling epithets while oddly pushing morality.
Im really sorry, but im not the one whos over stepping the line and could potentially cause a massive rift in a family. You came onto this forum for adivce and critique, right? You've got it, but it seems that you've turned your back on any advice given and being extremely stubborn. If your not looking to change the way you are with your "brother" then please do not waste the time of others who could be helping over people.
And i may be 6 years younger than you, please, do not patronise me.
Dale's biological father is also my Dad. Dad is Mom's best friend going back to their teens. When my biological father bailed when I was 5, Dad came to pull us out of a real bad scenario. Mom and Dad live together but aren't married, so he's not my stepfather. Dad never adopted me, so he's not my adoptive father. Dad "became" my Dad, because he WAS my Dad every which way that matters.
So Dale and I are essentially and totally unrelated....we are the ones who created our relationship....we could have just as easily become strangers. This little tidbit, no one asked about....and it has everything to do with the morality issue of my situation. It could still be arguable, for sure, but certainly much less so. The legality factor is real, but goes away next month.
Oh and what would the family do, disown you?
Okay.
Do you parents know about your plans?
Don't you have the same mum?
just leave it, or stop gloating.
Yeah, i'm in denial and jealous of you fucking your brother instead of me :rolleyes: Aren't you an intelligent little person
Either that or I want to have it off with my sister? I better call her and tell her to leave her Husband, what a stupid suggestion, You think I am jelous of you lovely insest situation? ya know what, I'll stick with my fiancee who is unrelated to me.
How can you honestly think it is morally right to let your little brother touch you in a sexually manner and allow it? You sure you do not have issues?
And just to add, I don't care if you "bow to my wishes" for all I care you can go on with your redneck hillbilly incest ways for the rest of your life, I would nae batter an eye lid to that love, tbh I'd care more about if it rained tomorrow than you.