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Fuck's sake yes he does "kind of" have a point I said! It's true that some guys (including myself) have a problem with performing with a condom. But as I said it doesn't excuse him from not wearing one!
For fuck's sake, no he doesn't! His inability to wear one is not 'a point'. It's a problem. His problem.
You + point = totally missed.
His 'inability' to wear a condom in context of this post, is irrelevant. We couldn't give a fuck about him and his erectile dysfunction. However, we do care about Hyper.
He may or may not be lying about it but - it does affect some people. That's all I'm saying.
he forced me into sex before
Sleeping with him when he wants is not going to get him back, change him or let him gain respect for you.
He sound like a grade A prick and you owe him nothing. xxx
Ok, buddy.
Hun, that is not love. That is actually rape. You are in a harmful relationship. How old are you both?
WTF?! :mad: :mad: :mad: Keep him the fuck away from you.
im 19 now-was 17 first time- he 24 now
Hun, he ought to know better. It sounds like he is a bully and is BAD NEWS!
Seriously, is this the kind of relationship you want to spend the rest of your life in? You're worth FAR more than this! Just cut out this 'fuck buddy' nonsense and if he still scares you, cut him out of your life. You don't want to become just another statistic, do you? Whether that's rape, violence, STD's ... or worse. *hugs*
sorry-its just what happens
sorry
If you can't stay in control when communicating with him the it's probably best if you find ways to avoid landing in that situation.
Stop apologising. You're not the one in the wrong here. ... and don't say sorry to this!!
Erm .. you ain't the one that should be saying 'sorry' here. You have nothing to apologise about. What you need to realise is that you are in an abusive relationship and that this is NOT normal. If he loved you, he would never hurt you. I think I may be imploring a brick wall here but you REALLY need to understand this so you can make things better. *hugs*
No. It's *not* what happens.
Do any of your friends or family know what is going on? If not, you need to tell someone. And you need someone to help you cut all contact with this person. Delete his number from your phone, block him with your provider and seek solace with people who *do* love and respect you.
You do not need to be controlled by him one little bit. You are so much better than that and deserve to be treated with respect.
Stop apologising and try and do something to break this cycle. The only person that will get hurt is you, because he doesn't give a shit about you and what happens.
it's just if i cut contact he'll just turn up and then ill have no control at all and it'll be worse ive been through this before
sorry
Hun its sounds like the original question of "fuck buddies" wasn't actually a question. It appears that you are coding the situation your in to something that is normal. His abusive behavior is NOT normal.
Don't confuse or excuse his actions! This is a serious problem that you need to talk about. I would suggest that you explain this situation to a family member that you feel that you can talk to in detail. From what you have said here i would advise you to get him out of your life as soon as possible.
No use to you at all, I know. But I'd feel a lot more satisfied about dealing with that rapist myself.
Do you live alone? Is there somebody you can talk to about what's going on? Like littlemissy pointed out you need help to keep him away from you.
Actually, littlemissy's entire post was really helpful, you should re-read it and then go do something to improve your situation.
sorry and thank you for your concern
NO you definitely should bring it up! you need to speak to people around you. Please do!!
Then if this is the case you need to go to the police. It's that simple, IMO. Talk to someone close to you - a close family member / close friend and go to the police. Nobody should *ever* be in the position he has put you in.
look back at your posts you've made in this thread and see how many times you have said sorry, when really, you have NOTHING to be sorry for. dont say it again, seriously. he is putting you in a disgusting position and i know its hard but you need to try and help yourself, to get yourself out of it, otherwise it seems as if he is not bothered and will just carry on doing as he likes. maybe you could try and have a go of some of the suggestions in littlemissys post, could anybody you live with help you, or a family member or friend, or the police. please try and do something hun. x
Have you seen Lover's post about her boyfriend called 'Boyfriend makes me feel disgusting'?. It's quite similar to your situation and maybe reading the posts in there and seeing things from someone elses perspective will help.
All i can say now is to tell someone about this and drop all contact with him. He has no right to control you like this and clearly has no respect for you.
xx