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If you get male attention, so what? You're attractive and trustworthy, it's not like you're going to do anything. It's your birthday anyway, you're bound to get loads of attention, it's part of the fun of being a birthday girl!
How are you going to be dressing up? If it's anything like what Jodie Marsh wore for her 30th, then I'd understand his concerns
It would affect me too but havin said that its also life and its there 2 be enjoyed.
So id probably feel the same as him but would never stop my gf
Well yes, but what's the harm in that? You'll be safe in the company of your friends and having fun. Has anything bad ever happened when you've dressed up before? Doesn't sound like it since it sounds like you're really looking forward to it this time. And so what if he knows other people find you attractive? Keeps him on his toes surely?
If it's the outfit choice that's bothering him and the fact that he bought it for his eyes only, is there something else you could go as?
exactly what I was thinking!
If he isnt happy then perhaps compromise.
However, I can sort of see where he is coming from, if he is insecure and this makes him feel uncomfortable, you should take his feelings into account.
Nothing is stopping you from going out dressed up in an outfit, that would not normally be seen as sexy.
You can always make one.
You saying you look hot in it worries me too. I agree we should all try to look our best, but if your fella has made it clear he is uncomfortable with it then surely you respect him enough to not go out in an outfit he doesnt want you to wear coz he has bought it for the bedroom, and you go around saying you look hot in it. He is bound to worry.
Sorry if this sounds really anti-feminist, but it just seems a little unfair on your fella, and makes me think you aren't really that bothered about his feelings.
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This post says it all, IMHO.
1. For your own pleasure within the bedroom.
2. For the purpose of attending a hen night.
3. To go out on the pull.
"Your birthday" just doesn't fit with those categories. I'd find it a bit strange that you want to wear it really, and I would have to question why.
If you re-read the posts noone has called you a weirdo. This is our opinions, and you asked for them, which is what you got. I am sorry if you don't like it, but tough.
It's your birthday not his! Would you stop him from doing something he wanted to do?
He can't make up your mind for you and tell you what to do, so what if he makes you feel a bit guilty about it, he'll get over it! If my bf had a problem with it I still wear i, but then again I am stubborn! I went out dressed in nearly my underwear as a moulin rouge girl and he didn't complain about that. Your outfit doesn't even sound bad and you're wearing tights with it!
He should trust you enough to let you go out dressed up IMO.
But if you don't go as you planned he will realise that if he makes you feel like this in the future then you will change your plans because he doesn't like them or feels comfortable with them.
Are you now not going out at all or just not in fancy dress?
girls really need to learn how to consider guys feeling with things like this cuz it is big to them as it would be to me but i dont think any guy has the right to stop their gf from fancy dress even if it is tarty. trust has to come in 2 play.
If it was up 2 me id wrap my gf up in cotton wool but theres laws against that lol so i just deal with the thing thats called LIFE!
Mrniceguy is right it's life and he will just have to put up with the fact this is what you and your friends do!
If this was one of my friends I would think the same as your's, that ther are under the thumb.
I don't understand why he has made such a fuss about it.
I don't think this has anything to do with trust. You can trust someone 100% and still not think it's a great idea for them to go out dressed up in a French Maid's outfit or whatever.
Surely he can't pull a face at that, it's your friends birthday and you want to help her celebrate!
And Mist...I'll be going out in fancy dress when I'm 50 so it never time to stop
I can see why you dressing up would upset your boyfriend however you might as well make the most of what you have while you have it!
I didnt realise he had a problem with the entire idea of fancy dress. Just go as a cow girl or something, your normal clubbing clothes plus a hat