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A real friend would not interfere or slag off a friends partner even if they arent to their taste
I usually prefer old guys I recently was seeing some one my age and it was an absolute nightmare because he was really immature. But other boyfriends I've had that have been about 23-24 have probably found me mature for my age but still a bit young and naive at times.
This man (like 36-ish) asked me out for a drink and it creeped me out I think I felt uncomfortable because I was only sixteen and I felt that was really too old for me.
I know I'm happy, he's happy, so we're gonna stick together for the time being
I have a friend who is going out with a man approaching 40 who is really quite ugly and fat (and he doesn't have great prospects either). My friend is young and pretty and when she's not with us, me and my mates have said to each other "what is she doing with him? She could do so much better!" I think it's human nature really to be a bit judgemental of things liek that BUT as her friend I also just want the best for her and so I hope that he's good for her and they will be happy together. That's all there is to it really!
Thats usually what id assume if i couldnt see what the otherwise attraction was.
He doesn't have any money.. But I think he treats her well..and they fell in love..so even if as friends you're thinking "what does she see in him?" you have to look and see if your friend is happy and remember it's not what you think that matters it's how she feels when she is with him and if she's happy..and she is. She's just had his baby
Where are you guys all from where these sort of massive age gaps are so common? I've never come across it, don't know anyone with a bigger age gap than me (23 v 21).
Apparantly lots of fat/ugly people don't honestly find one another attractive, they're only with each other 'cos that's the best they can get. Agree/disagree?
I've been out with people 10+ years older than me and found them to be less mature than people closer my own age. It completely depends on the people involved whether it'll work or not.
There have been times that friends have asked me why I'm with a bloke or whatever, and I do believe friends should show their concern. But only once and friends certainly aren't friends if the take the mick constantly about someones relationship.
I know when I got back together with my current fella, my friends were all very concerned cos he'd treated me like shit in the past. 7 months on and he's proved to them he's changed and their all really happy for me. But on more than one occassion they have checked up to make sure things are ok and I am still happy. But thats just them being supportive...they'd never even think about doing it in a derogatory way.
lol ~I think that's another thread!
whats attractiveness got to do with age gaps though?
Its one thing thinking to yourself "I wonder what they see in that person" and another actually taking the piss and making someone think they have to run their prospective partners past their mates first rather than follow their heart.
Totally. Let's get back on topic guys.
Right, on the subject itself... I don't think age gaps are anything to worry about. Age should be just a number, truth be told. If we all had to date someone who was exactly the same age as us, that would put massive limits on whom we could go out with, after all.
However, I did have a few friends who went out with guys in their mid thirties when these girls were about 16. Looking back, I thought nothing of it, now that I'm getting older, it creeps me out.
There was a girl at school when we were 14/15 was with a guy 9 years older. Last time i spoke to her she was engaged to him. There was also a girl in my tutor having an affair with a married man at the time too. :nervous:
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What kind of college student dates a high school student other than the kind of college student who can't get anyone his own age to actually look at him?
he's a loser and can't get anyone his own age.
I'm not surprised he's engaged to a girl who is still in high school...he can't get anyone his own age anymore because he's such a stick in the mud!
Well, your boyfriend is a loser who can't get anyone his own age, so you should break up with him for that.
the guy is a loser and he can't get anyone his own age, so he goes for younger girls
To be honest, he's probably either going for you because he can't get anyone his own age, or he wants to use you.
He must be a loser if he can't get anyone his own age.
is because 1) he can't get anyone his own age (which means he is probably a loser) and 2) you are a lot easier to manipulate (because you are young
Yeah it is, that is completely messed up, it seems clear that the guy can't get anyone his own age, and will be a bit of a laughing stock.
You can't get anyone your own age because you're a loser, can you, you pathetic, ugly f-cker.
lol you're a 20 year old dating a 16 year old. what's the matter, can't get anyone your own age so you get date someone that could have babysat for?
That's pretty pathetic. What's wrong, can't get anyone your own age?
It's not my fault you can't get anyone your own age.
Like relationships, say if i went out with a year 7, everyone would be all 'Omg Rose you pedo just 'cause you can't get anyone your own age'
etc etc