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However, I've done some things I regret, none of them life-altering important. For example, there was this classmate of mine a few years ago, we were getting along well and I think we were on the way to becoming friends. One day a rumour was heard about her that made nearly everyone to stop talking to her, and I regret that I was one of them, out of pure stupidity (peer pressure).
So you've never regretted certain actions? For example you was on holiday and only realise later on the girl who was chatting to you wanted to get with you? Wouldn't you regret that in a 'damn, how stupid of me' kinda way?
Otherwise life is too short to regret most everything else.
I think that's the point I was trying to make. To regret for me personally is to see a flaw which all humans are capable of. Dwelling on the regret is another matter. Good for those who say they don't regret anything, it's something to aspire to I think but I just dont think its realistic.
I'm a lot more of a do-er now, I always take a chance nowadays. Better to regret doing something than regretting not doing it (except murder and rape and stuff obviously).
lol exactly
I can really sympathise with the very sad message that began this thread. Last year I had, for a brief moment, everything I'd ever dreamed of, and scarily, JUST as I'd dreamed of it. I lost all of it.
Things will get better again, they usually do, but it takes time. You're alive and you will be grateful for it again eventually, believe me. Its so hard not to sound cliched I know. But this is coming from someone who is currently at a very low ebb, not someone content and unable to really relate to such despair.
That was one of my Grandad's best pieces of advice. i always remember it and it's lead to some seriously funky times.
When he greets me at the Pearly Gates I am *so* gonna shake him warmly by the hand... and then tell him what it did...
I don't think the original poster is saying they're always UNHAPPY just that they're NOT Happy.
That they have not found something which makes them feel excited about life.
I do think if people are thinking about killing themselves they should do some activities which come close to simulating a life and death moment... such as a bungee jump or sky dive and see if that kick starts their thoughts on life and death anymore.
If people can't find anything in life that makes them happy then sometimes they find comfort in helping others to be a little happier - volunteer work abroad for example may be an option.
You really are ruled by your cock, aren't you?
Surely that's like saying "What's the point feeling sad." Wouldn't you say regret is a natural feeling just like feeling sad, happy, angry etc?
I think to NOT feel regret at some point in your life is either unnatural..or just plain bullshit.
That's really really pathetic, yeah?
I regret not putting £20 on the Sheffield Eagles to win the Challenge Cup in 1998 like I was going to...
Hold on - why is that pathetic?
If he's happy with everything else, but hasn't done as well with women as he would have liked, then it's a valid regret!
Seems Ricardo is becoming a bit of a fall guy around here...
Hit rock bottom, crawled up and out of my hole. Really hard arduous work it took.
Today, I don't have any particular regrets. Everything I have done to this date has shaped me into the person I am today, and the person I am today is a happy confident one who is headed where she wants to go.
If I'd think hard I would no doubt find something to regret if I really wanted to, but I've learned to use the negative stuff to push me in the correct direction.
Even the time when I was working for a sexual predator that had his eyes on me I learned a whole lot from the experience when I became ready to move on.
I don't know, when I think back and think about things that could possibly be counted as regrets, I usually end up thinking about how that could possibly have changed what I'm doing today and I really wouldn't want that.
But I guess if there's anything, when I quit this brass band because I was too lazy to practice and wanted to hang with my friend instead is the thing I probably regret the most.
Having said all that, if I hadn't used it in the way I did, I may not have met my boyfriend (it's a long story)...so maybe the point that everything happens for a reason is valid in this case.
Dwelling too much on the past though of course can be unhealthy and is unadvisable... but a certain amount of consciousness about your mistakes is ultimately healthy imo.
The difference is that regret should push you forward into the future, into taking into account the mistakes you don't want to repeat, not backwards into the past where things can't be changed.
Off topic BUT HEY where have yoooou been?!?!
But soon to be changing continents
I didn't lose my virginity until I was 20. I could choose to regret the fact I didn't start earlier, but I don't at all. I just see that I have to make up for lost time.
this whole 'i dont regret anything yadda yadda' is a load of balls :thumb:
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The key is not to let these things get ya down cos if you do then you're fucked.
Regrets are just lessons learned I think.
Well, my first kiss was at uni (and was absolutely terrible btw - the guy's singular aim seemed to be to suffercate me with his tongue!!) but my take on it is, yeah, I 'missed out', but only on immature school relationships and younger teenagers are horrible and selfish anyway [just a crude generalisation - please don't flame me!] and so I think it saved me a lot of hurt and shit, and so I came to my current relationship completely baggage-free :thumb: