If you need urgent support, call 999 or go to your nearest A&E. To contact our Crisis Messenger (open 24/7) text THEMIX to 85258.
Options
Take a look around and enjoy reading the discussions. If you'd like to join in, it's really easy to register and then you'll be able to post. If you'd like to learn what this place is all about, head here.
Comments
please don't hurt me!
*bangs you over the head with a mallet*
hmmm at first glance I thought u were sarcastic then, I wish id never bothered looking again!
:lol
It amazes me how many people refuse to join in on our little discussions because they reckon were all too intellectual for them.
[/QUOTE]
I sometimes feel like people kind of look down upon me here, just by the way they post. We all know my grammar is nothing to write home about and because of this im always dropping myself right in it, purely by using the wrong words.
I suppose I can look at my posts and think you silly woman, why the hell did you put it across like that, other people will kind of take me the wrong way, so I think some other posters would feel like they are getting laughed at and not want to make a fool out of themselves, so maybe that is why they dont post.
I used to never venture here purely because it was a scary forum to be honest, now because there are some subjects I can get involved in I do come here much more.
I'd hope by now people would understand this problem I have and try to be a bit more understanding of us who are not as intellectual as some people here. Ive had lots of things happen in my life, normal everyday things, Ive had experiences that some people here would not have had so in a kind of way my knowledge of things is *real life*, they have happened to me in real life, ive handled them myself and nothing has come from books or what a college tutor has told me.
Id say to some members who dont post here dont be frightened of these lot here, post away and get into a good debate here. We need more people view point and dont be scared because after all whilst they are picking up on my mistakes they will be leaving you alone
Jacq I use smileys to say "hey im laughing ok " or "hey your not so clever", type of thing. If I didnt use the smiley then people would never know when im joking.
I would say most members who visit this forum respect it much more than any other forum, there is hardly any mucking about at all. This is a much more serious place, quite rightly too, however the odd joke is fine by me
however this is hardly the place for those sorts of goings on!
Jacq I use smileys to say "hey im laughing ok " or "hey your not so clever", type of thing. If I didnt use the smiley then people would never know when im joking.
I would say most members who visit this forum respect it much more than any other forum, there is hardly any mucking about at all. This is a much more serious place, quite rightly too, however the odd joke is fine by me [/B][/QUOTE]
I was going to say, the site offers thoughs smilies so why not use them. Then I re-read and I think the point was when they are used with attitude kind of thing. Please correct me if i'm wrong.
They are used with attitude, but not always in a negitive way from my point of view.
sometimes that just isn't enough though but...well, what can ya do? accidents will happen
*takes tongue out of ass*
Depends what we are talking about tbh. If I get in the situation where I feel I have just dug a big hole for myself I kind of panic and use the wrong words. Its hard for me to explain but I know that sometimes I come across as angry when in effect im not and im trying hard to control that a bit more now. I feel I kind of lose it in this forum, get me in a jokey, relaxed thread then im a different person........its very wierd.
Thanks for your kind words
This goes for everyone - just because someone argues against what you have said doesn't mean you are wrong.
Use it as an opportunity to develop your ideas further, that is part of what this forum is for! Sometimes people are just trying to present you with ideas you may not have thought of before, not shoot you down in flames.
Don't be intimidated if you find yourself in the middle of a heated discussion, we are all entitled to an opinion. Just have a bit of confidence that you know your own mind.
Thats exactly what I think.
You are easily as bright as the rest of us, theres no reason why you should be scared of anyone. If you say something people will query it, show you other things- it doesnt mean that your own opinion is valid.
I respect you because you are prepared to change your opinion if people give you evidence contrary to what you already know. There are quite a few posters on here who wont do that ever.
Would you be so keen on the Sex forum if no-one talked about anything pervy opr used no 'rude' words?
Would there be any point in the Relationships forum if people did not express their emotions?
Bring on the anger, the rage, the vitriol, more the better!!!!! :mad:
I suppose its a confidence thing, maybe ?
Thanks for you input and also the other peoples views. Thanks kermit, thats one thing I will do and admit if im wrong..........even when im right
kermits finger.
And this is the politics section, peeps. It's not about intellect, it's about taking an interest in the decisions that affect your lives, locally and globally. Expect to be hazed occasionally and laugh about it. Getting really clued up on this subject can take months, but it's worth it. Learn to pepper your posts with qualifiers like 'It seems to me...' and 'As I understand it...' and make a point of welcoming other viewpoints that might enhance that understanding. Most importantly, or so it seems to me ( ), if a post really gets your goat, think about waiting a few hours before responding. Either a really good comeback will percolate in your gulliver in the meantime, or you'll realise, on re-reading the offending post, that it may not have been intended to be as offensive as first appearances suggested.
Bear in mind also that some people have seen particular logical fallacies cropping up with tedious regularity, and aren't always as gentle as they could be with the 'originator'. The 'why isn't there a white police officers association, then?' argument is one such example. The odd 'Correct me if I'm wrong, but...' preamble is a great mollifier.
*Orig. 'whining' - check posts for phrases that are unnecessarily antagonistic before sending
Agree with me and you will be:p