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one more thing rainbow brite, just for the record im working and im also in a managment position if that makes any difference to you, i was in collage at 16 im attually a couple of years infront of where i should be
So your quite possibly more mature for your age than you should be? Yet you date a child?
I aint critising your relationship. Its all good if you love each other, but im just having a bit of trouble working out the age thing.
D'ya not think your grammar and spelling should improve so your employees can follow suit?!
I am not an uncontrollable little tart, thank you very much, and I don't mess around with CHILDREN!
I dunno, I'm sorry if I went on a tangeant, but without the distactful remarks, a lot is quite true. She is still going through puberty, and yours has stopped. You are of legal age to do lots, and she's still got exams. You're out earning money, and I bet she doesn't even know what a P60 is. It's a little dodgy is all.
Plus I don't see a 14-year-old girl as being a child necessarily. True, she's probs still developing physically and all the rest of it, but it doesnt mean that mentally she's not prepared for this relationship. I think they've made the conscious decision of not basing their relationship on purely physical activity and focused on their emotional connection instead. Yes it does and can happen.
Btw, if when I was 14 someone had referred to me as a child, I would've made this face --> :eek2: . Don't think we're giving socksgirl a lot of credit here.
My sisters 14 and shes a baaaaaaaby. A baby dammit!
At 14 what exactly have you done? Well you've um been in school for 9 years? Tis about it.
At 18, hes in a mangerial position...and im thinking hmm, what do they have in common? I mean she has homework, he has rotas and shit like that. See what i mean?
I've seen how 14 year olds act, ffs, I was one, and I couldn't handle a bloke 4 years older than me! If I did, I'd get a clout around the ear for being so tarty! Cause everyone knows what a bloke at 18 wants from his lass!
i do attually consider myself more mature than my age, up untill several months ago most my friends where in there mid 20's early 30's and im also the youngest at work yet have most of the responsibility so i know where socks is and what the pressure is like when people judge you because of your age.
i dont mind a little criticisim, its to be expected not everyone is gonna be happy cause of the age difference like 1983 said, but i also understand where you are coming from regarding age i admittidly also have quite a large problem with it and it also scares me to an extent to be honest but i really have got to go i will reply asap.
sorry! t'was me..:p
I know most of the lasses I know were all sexually active at 14/15, I'm not saying its right but each to their own. There not even planning on having sex so what is the problem. A few years, whippee, lets name and shame him
He's found a lass he likes so i don't see any reason why he shouldn't see her. I also can't see why he won't have anything in common with her. I'm 20, I have an ex whos just turned 16 and I get on excellent with her (better than any other lass I know). I have mates (lads and lasses) who's ages range from 16-35 and I have plenty in common with all of them
Oh yeah i know its different for my sister, and dont get me wrong i was shaggin and going out with people older by the time i was 14 but maybe thats why i know it can be kinda weird.
Like Rainbow Brite said, you could be incredibly immature and thats why you'd get on with babbas but he dont sound like he is! And its people like that that makes you wonder what they are doing with kids (and regardless of physical/mental shit) they are children. Teenagers with no or little life experience.
I agree with all that. As long as he doesn't patronise her - that's annoying as hell!
Yep.
Yeah but you cant help feeling the young girls a slag, and the older lads too sad to get a girl his own age.
Think me mums brainwashed me :chin:
Maybe im being hypocritical, at 16 i was going out with a 22 year old and i never saw anything wrong with that. I just think between 14-16 is a kinda odd time. Your neither a child nor an adult if you get what i mean. And the closer you get to 14, the more of a kid she is. When i was that age i remember thinking i was really mature but compared to now i so wasnt. Its kinda strange ground.
But yes like you said thats one bonus.
OI!
name calling is where its at! and it was nothin to do with the relationship i started name callin, jus i took it into account to brutally destroy you verbally! hahahahaha
sorry, but i'm kinda in the same boat apart from i'm not as bad and my situation is accepted
so in conclusion i am not stoopin low because i've made fun of you cus how ever many people will deny it, they giggled at ish i was sayin!
so go FORK YOUSELF INDEED, cus you won't be gettin any 'forkin' for a while.
I cant be arsed to read through about 10 pages of threads, so im not gonna critiscise you
Dont WORRY Be HAPPY ...............Tis a good song that innit
Edited because theres only 6 pages, but I still cant be arsed
See, she's fine!
i have been thinking about this myself for quite awhile now and i love her, i have told her this but not in the way i should... i love her but things are going to fast. i see the age gap as quite a problem and i did voice that form the start, but at this moment in time i dont see it being anything more than friends for awhile.... there are several little "quirks" she doe's that remind me about her age and i must admit i try to forget and deny how old she is to myself and i cant do that cause eventually it will cause problems...
she has just signed off msn after i told her i wanted to take a step back but i hope she comes back soon, i do care about her i just dont think the time is right for us.
edited to add: i feel like a major bastard now...
Um.
Didn't see Samael's last post.
Shouldn't you phone her or something, instead of telling everyone on here about it? I'm not sure she'd appreciate it if she sees this.
Just my opinion - maybe she wouldn't care at all, I don't know.
I hope you work things out. Call her asap.