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Anybody want to vent or chat about anything? (Triggering Stuff Edition) w/c 06.04.26
Billie
Community Manager Posts: 81 Budding Regular
Hey Everyone!
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Here is this week's space to chat or vent about things which you think may be more triggering for the Community but you still want to get off your chest.
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Every Monday morning we will close the thread and start a new one so we have a fresh one each week. If you'd like to check out this week's venting thread that isn't triggering, click here.
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I don’t even know what the point of anything is lately :/
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Hey @River, sorry to hear how you're feeling. What's on your mind? Would you be able to tell us a little more about what you're going through? We're here to listen to you.
Im really not doing okay
@Chloe I’m really sorry you’re feeling like this. You don’t have to go through it on your own. If you wish to talk about what’s going on, I’m here to listen.
@River That sounds very tough I am so sorry. It’s more than okay to not have everything figured out right now and you don’t have to carry it on your own, I’m here if you want to talk more.
Thankyou @Ech0 I really do appreciate it. I never open up on here so im really conflicted to if I should but like im just so low
@Chloe That’s more than okay and it makes complete sense to feel conflicted about opening up. You can share as much or as little as you feel comfortable with at your own pace. Being able to say how you’re feeling right now and reaching out like this already matters so much.
y'all is it normal if you geniunely have an urge to be antisocial? to the point of death?
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@h2p
When it gets to the point where you’re feeling urges like that, it usually means you’re really overwhelmed and carrying a lot right now. You shouldn't have to handle it by yourself. If you can, please try to reach out to someone you trust, even just to let them know you’re not okay. And if it feels urgent or like you might not be safe, it’s really important to get immediate support from a crisis service or someone close to you.
nahh i can't where i am rarely does s%^&%
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@h2p Even if it feels like nothing helps, you don’t have to sit with it on your own. If it feels like it’s getting too much or you’re not safe, please try to reach out to urgent support (like a local crisis line or emergency services). You really do deserve help and care in this moment.
@Ech0
thx sososo much y'all help better than kooth
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My chest is feeling so tight, I think im gonna have a panic attack but I dont even know why. Self harm urges are strong too even though im at 22 days
@Chloe that sounds really awful to be going through. Is there anything that usually helps with those urges when they happen?
@h2p Thank you for opening up, as Echo said you really do deserve support right now , and having these intense feelings can make us feel like we don't even know what to do with it all. I wonder if you feel able to keep yourself safe at the moment?
Usually I just push them off but theyre feeling much stronger tonight. I call a friend sometimes too but the people i normally call cant so I just gotta deal with it i guess
@h2p do you happen to know what it is that makes you feel anti-social to that point? Sometimes, it can be because our social battery's have run out and you need a bit of rest from it, sometimes it can be because socialising can be really hard, and sometimes, it can just be a bit scary. Do any of these sound familiar to you perhaps? It's okay if not.
Like Leyla and Echo say, if it feels too much, or like you can't keep yourself safe at the moment, it's best to talk to a crisis line.
antisocial as in uhh against society
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@Chloe that's a really difficult situation, with your usual support not there. But you don't have to deal with this all alone. Has anything different happened recently that might have triggered the panic attack feeling. Sometimes, it's not obvious what the triggers might be, but perhaps it's something that can be worked out, by going through any worries on your mind, or stresses, or major changes that might have triggered it possibly.
And, if it ever feels too much, or that you can't keep yourself safe tonight, please give a crisis line a call.
@h2p oh so like anti-society itself, rather than anti-socialising? Sorry if I've misunderstood.
Thankyou Nathan
I guess im having more flashbacks than usual tonight so maybe that. I dont think its helping still having another week of Easter left when im doing so awful already. I think i find it tricky too as home is part of the problem for me and after being away mon - Thurs and having such a good time with my sister, being back home without her and in this environment makes everything feel 10 tomes worse
that's what the dictionary said
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seems like many of you are rly having a difficult evening tonight. just wanted to say you all arent alone n that we’re all here for you as a community. but pls reach out to crisis support if you feel unsafe.
you all matter n are never alone. 🤗
@Chloe that sounds like a huge amount of changes for you. And it seems like it's been a lot building up to get to this point. Do you usually have any sort of coping tactics for the flashbacks specifically when they happen, like grounding techniques perhaps? If you want, i can try and find a few to see if they help with that. Sometimes, just maybe getting a few triggers of your chest might make things just a little bit less heavy for you perhaps.
Usually I have things ive worked on with camhs like a compassionate figure or a safe space but recently I just havent had the energy to use them. Typically id just drown things out using college work but I just dont have the energy for that either. I just feel like im being really silly.
Part of me feels like a hypocrite for even opening up on here as I wont usually but I think ive just gotten so desperate. I spoke to samaritans last night but the person I had was usele
@Chloe I want to start off by saying your not a hypocrite, and despite the platforms many, many, many flaws, you are always welcome to open up here, because it is a support platform first and foremost. It's not hypocritical at all.
I can't pretend to understand the term compassionate and camhs in the same sentence, but i want to say it's not silly at all. It's human nature to want to drown out struggles with work and doing something productive and not having the energy to do that shows your emotionally and mentally depleted from it for so long, rather than it being something silly. Not having the energy to use either of those methods is understandable when it's something that's been ongoing for a long time, and it becomes exhausting. So please don't think your being silly, cause your not.
And Samaritans sadly are sometimes good, sometimes bad, it's really a coin flip whether you get someone decent or not, and i'm sorry that you had a bad experience with them yesterday, cause you honestly deserve to have good support from them.
@h2p I suppose it is normal to get strong Anti Social feelings sometimes. I've had a lot of intense hatred myself to certain parts of society (CAMHS and Social Care) in my life. It's normal to have strong feelings sometimes, but if you ever feel like urges are becoming overwhelming to be anti-social or you feel like acting on it, then it's best to speak to a support line. I know you mentioned there aren't many that are good near you, but there's a few that are nationwide ran, if you wanted to give any of those a try.
Thankyou so much Nathan
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Oh no camhs defo isnt the compassionate part lol my worker thinks im a joke basically but this compassionate figure thing defo is a load of poop
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Tbf its sad how inconsistent it is as I have had some really really good people before. It just sucks as I have no support in person until next monday and feel so stuck on what to do and where to go
@Chloe i know this won't make a huge difference, but you'll always have on here for support if you ever want it, you absolutely shouldn't be without support.
And yeah, that's sadly the case with most mental health services nowadays. It's truly awful, because you genuinely do deserve a compassionate figure and a safe space from CAMHS to help with it all, and it's absolutely messed up that it's pretty much just a box ticking thing for them rather than actual meaningful support. There's some absolute horror stories from CAMHS.
@Chloe I’m so sorry I wasn’t there when you posted this.
Reading this, it sounds like tonight has just been really overwhelming and painful in a lot of different ways and I certainly agree with everything @Nathan has said above.
Nothing about what you’re feeling is silly in any way and your feelings are absolutely valid and deserve to be taken seriously. I hear that going from having a really good, safe time with your sister back to being at home where things feel difficult can make everything feel heavier.
Also 22 days is a big achievement and something to be proud of. Every single one of those days where you kept going, even when it was hard, is still part of your progress. It is still you showing up and getting through things that were not easy. Struggling tonight does not take away the fact that you have already been fighting these urges and managing to get through them for over three weeks.
It makes a lot of sense that the CAMHS things like your compassionate figure or safe space feel harder to use at the moment because sometimes when we are exhausted or overwhelmed, even the tools that usually help can feel like a lot to access. And the same goes for college work being a distraction. And you are definitely not even close to a hypocrite for opening up here. It sounds like you have been carrying a lot on your own for a long time and that you would like some support which is completely human and there is nothing wrong with that at all.
I am really sorry the Samaritans call did not help last night. That must have felt really disappointing when you were already trying to get through so much. You deserved to feel listened to and supported. We are here for you and it’s okay to focus on getting through the next minute and take things one step at a time.