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Anybody want to vent or chat about anything? (Triggering Stuff Edition) w/c 23.03.26
Leyla
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Hey Everyone!
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Here is this week's space to chat or vent about things which you think may be more triggering for the Community but you still want to get off your chest.
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Every Monday morning we will close the thread and start a new one so we have a fresh one each week. If you'd like to check out this week's venting thread that isn't triggering, click here
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As its a new week I have just closed the last threads but noticed you posted this quite early this morning @River :
it’s all completely kicked off tonight :/ I give up with trying to support people if if backfires and they throw it back in my face
Do you want to go into a bit more about what happened, especially so late at night?
Hi @Leyla had a really rough night, I was awake till 6am after nasty messages because I thought I was doing the right thing because a friend came to me saying she had ran away from home, I tried supporting her and she kept saying “idc” everytime I suggest something. It reached a point where she made it seem like she had ran miles from home. She had a friends sofa last night to sleep on but tonight she was gonna be on the streets or so she made out to be. It reached a point where I felt the need to call a welfare check. I contacted the runaway line so they could contact her and then I contacted the police because the girl makes out she gets abused. I told the girl and then she ran to someone else who then ended up contacting me being nasty and rude. So I’m just done supporting people. If there in crisis then I’m sorry but they can sort themselves out I’m not doing it anymore I’ll just set those boundaries. I have enough shit going on for me I don’t need all this
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@River That sounds absolutely fair enough from what you have said, you are well within your rights to set those boundaries especially when trying to help others has backfired for you so much last night and also other times in the past. You have mentioned going through a lot yourself so having to contend with others strong emotions which might make them lash out could feel like too much right now and that makes so much sense. If you have anything you want to talk about for your own struggles right now then we want to hear that too, we're here to truly listen to you and share your pain
thank you @Leyla
I’m currently waiting for my doctors to phone me about my collar bone and then can go from there
I also contacted my job centre about changing my appointment tomorrow and they said if I do they will deduct my pay :/ I had a valid reason to have it changed but they won’t listen
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I’m struggling an I’m anxious worried and that about various things my mind feels like a tornado of thoughts
all I want to do is cause harm to myself
I just want all these feelings and thoughts to end
hi @Lottie5433 . are you safe?
hi @eylah yesh I’m safe I’m at work currently
Hey @River, just wanted to check in on how you are feeling today after what happened when you tried to support your friend and then waiting to speak to the doctors? And also did you manage to speak to the job centre about changing your appointment?
@Callum i ended up being sent to A&E, I have swelling in my collar bone due to an infection in the lymph nodes due to stress
I went job centre today and they sent me home
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Im not doing okay like at all but idk what to do with myself. Wanted to contact samaritans but their webchat hasn't worked for me for a few nights and I couldnt speak in chat so now im just sat alone trying to keep it together
Hi @River - sorry to hear about your collar bone. I hope you feel better soon. How come the Job Centre sent you home?
Hi @Chloe - thank you for sharing, and I'm sorry to hear how you're feeling. I can hear how difficult it is to not be able to access the services you've tried. You deserve to be supported and to not feel isolated. Are there other services that you could try while Samaritans webchat is down (such as their phone line)? We're here to support you.
@Azziman they sent me home because of my concussion
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@Azziman thankyou for the reply - im funny about using other places because I struggle trusting places etc. Also I cant do phonecalls. I just gotta deal with things alone I guess
Hi @Chloe, it is completely understandable that trying new places and services is difficult. It takes time to build up that trust. Have you been able to talk to anyone since yesterday? It is really hard to feel alone, but the community here at The Mix is here for you. Would you like any links to other services? Or to share more here about how you are feeling? No worries if not.
Hey everyone, if anybody's triggered by everything and wants somebody to talk to tonight, I'm here on this thread for you ❤️
thanks @Nathan im ok but i feel like i need someone to talk to.
@toffuna101 that's completely understandable. I'm all ears friend.
basically my dad's in the hospital and hes been there for a week. i hope he'll be discharged soon because itll be my brother's 10th birthday on the 1st of april.
@toffuna101 that so awful. It's such a crushing thing to have a parent in the hospital. Have you been able to go up and see him at all? I think i recall you mentioning his hospitalisation a short while ago. How have you been with this all cause it must be extremely heavy?
no i havent but ive been calling him and texting him recently which is at least something. yeah hes been in hospital several times at this point because of his stomach which sucks. hes been able to dispose of the stones in his body since it went into his intestines which means that hes recovering. ive just been trying to distract myself honestly by watching anime.
@toffuna101 that's good. He's awake and texting and calling, which is always good news, and he's on the road to recovery. It's still a scary thing though. i'm glad you've got a distraction from it with anime. What anime's have you been watching?
blue lock and most recently jujutsu kaisen. i finished season 1 of jjk and the movie today which means im making progress. by next week im hoping that i finish both season 2 and season 3. its good as well because im off for two weeks because of the easter break.
im so sry your dad is in hospital. @toffuna101 . we’re all here for you bc you matter so much. i know this must be a rly tough time for you rn but pls remember you can always turn to us n you’re never alone. 🫂
thank you @eylah i appreciate it
@toffuna101 oooh binge watching on the easter break! That's so awesome. Time to relax and decompress from everything and just chill out.
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@toffuna101 i know it won't fully stop you worrying and it will still probably be scary for you, but try to hold on to those good moments and enjoy the next 2 weeks as best you can, because you deserve to relax and rest after all of that worry and scaryness.
thank you @Nathan ill try my best to relax, and i hope that my dad gets back home soon.
i know its not much especially over a screen but. i will be here whenever ur needing a listening ear. bc i know what it feels like to worry abt having a family member in hospital. the worry etc. i understand.
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just wanted to know that you matter to us n that we’re all here for you. ill do my best to supporting you n ill always be here for you 🫂