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I have got a job but theres an issue
Redemption
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I’m starting induction next week for a domestic role. I didn’t want to do it at first, but I decided to start widening my options because things were dragging me down too much. Another Christmas was coming, and it felt like I had failed, but it’s not a job that’s completely unsuitable for me. The hours are every day, but just a couple of hours in the morning, which suits me since I prefer working during the day rather than evenings. I didn’t want to be too picky, and I’ve tried to be flexible. I’ve overthought the stigma around domestic jobs, but it’s a simple job and harder to mess up. I wouldn’t want to do it for life, but it doesn’t have to be forever, and it’s an important job. People should never look down on it.
I tend to focus more on the cons than the pros, even though multiple people have said I should be proud of myself, maybe even some who doubted me. I’ve struggled to feel positive about it and I’m scared of messing something up. I’ve been venting about this for ages, yet I still feel conflicted. It seems like part of me doesn’t want it, but I do. I think I’m slowly becoming more positive that I have a job, though I’m scared of failing. Previously, I’ve had negative experiences one after another, which makes it hard to feel optimistic, but I think getting into the routine will help. The job is only a couple of hours a day, seven days a week, so I’ll need to adjust to getting up earlier, but the short hours are constructive and give me a sense of accomplishment.
Living at home, I don’t have many bills, just my car, a bit of housekeeping, and my phone bill, which I’m trying to reduce. If I’m sensible with money, which I think I can be, I can treat myself occasionally but only buy what I can afford. I hope this marks the start of an uphill journey, and it should make it easier to get other jobs from here. I’ve done well by taking this role despite hesitations, ignoring the stigma, completing the online ID verification, and persevering through doubts, dark thoughts, and setbacks. I just want to do well and focus on the positives.
Also wanted to say a massive massive thank you, to you all for being with me during my journey and you're going with during this too, you all absolutely incredible, I mean it ❤️.
I tend to focus more on the cons than the pros, even though multiple people have said I should be proud of myself, maybe even some who doubted me. I’ve struggled to feel positive about it and I’m scared of messing something up. I’ve been venting about this for ages, yet I still feel conflicted. It seems like part of me doesn’t want it, but I do. I think I’m slowly becoming more positive that I have a job, though I’m scared of failing. Previously, I’ve had negative experiences one after another, which makes it hard to feel optimistic, but I think getting into the routine will help. The job is only a couple of hours a day, seven days a week, so I’ll need to adjust to getting up earlier, but the short hours are constructive and give me a sense of accomplishment.
Living at home, I don’t have many bills, just my car, a bit of housekeeping, and my phone bill, which I’m trying to reduce. If I’m sensible with money, which I think I can be, I can treat myself occasionally but only buy what I can afford. I hope this marks the start of an uphill journey, and it should make it easier to get other jobs from here. I’ve done well by taking this role despite hesitations, ignoring the stigma, completing the online ID verification, and persevering through doubts, dark thoughts, and setbacks. I just want to do well and focus on the positives.
Also wanted to say a massive massive thank you, to you all for being with me during my journey and you're going with during this too, you all absolutely incredible, I mean it ❤️.
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Also if you don't mind me asking, what are domestic jobs? I'm just curious since I haven't heard of the term before.
Thank you so so much @Nemuritai , I hope you're ok. Domestic job is cleaning
Than you so much Toe, I hope you're doing well ❤️
Thank you mate @so_very_tired
Thank you so so much Amy
Thank you so much @Azziman , I appreciate all your support youve given me
I’m really hearing how conflicting starting the job feels. It sounds like you pushed yourself to widen your options, chose something practical that fits your rhythms, and you can see the value in it but at the same time, it's hard to trust yourself maybe (?), or there's a fear that you could 'mess' things up? That sounds difficult, @Redemption , and I can hear how this might create anxiety or nerves.
Can I ask, when you say you’re scared of 'messing up,' what does that look like in your mind? What feels most at stake?
I also really hear how you're wanting to centre your focus on the positives, and to remember your own perseverance and flexibility here. It's beautiful to see your peers congratulating you in this thread and reminding you you're not alone.
What do you think could help bolster that sense of 'I can do this!!' over the next few weeks before your job starts?
@Sian321 Thank you so much! I really appreciate the support it means a lot. When I say I’m scared of ‘messing up,’ I mean not being good enough at the job, maybe doing something wrong or making mistakes. I think what feels most at stake is how long I’ll be able to stay in the job and whether I can stick with it. Over the next few weeks, I think what could help me feel more confident is just reminding myself to try my best and not stress too much about it.