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  • VerityVerity Community Manager Posts: 8 Confirmed not a robot
    Is there anything you've wanted to start but never got the chance to? Having small goals can be really helpful to not get stuck on things that make you feel down. If it's personal don't feel like you have to share!

    I undertsand it can be really difficult when you feel like you have tried everything, but I'm hearing thay you want to find ways to feel better.
  • LolaPumpkin13LolaPumpkin13 Posts: 196 Trailblazer
    I’ve started driving lessons
  • Sian321Sian321 Community Manager Posts: 2,972 Boards Guru
    @LolaPumpkin13 , I hear you, and thank you for sharing that you're really wanting help at the moment. Here at The Mix, we have a big data-base of UK wide services that might be able to provide some further support.

    These include services that offer counselling and therapy (both for a fee and free / low-cost)

    Services that offer emotional support and a space to chat and be heard.

    Services that might be able to offer practical help and advice.

    Which of these would you be most interested in?

    May I also ask, are you ideally looking for help over the phone, via webchat, face to face, or via email?

  • LolaPumpkin13LolaPumpkin13 Posts: 196 Trailblazer
    I have tried counselling sessions because of problems with my phone number and just getting up with my depression
  • LolaPumpkin13LolaPumpkin13 Posts: 196 Trailblazer
    I don’t have any distractions I can’t wait tv anything how can I expect to get help when I don’t remember half of the things that happened
  • VerityVerity Community Manager Posts: 8 Confirmed not a robot
    Hello @LolaPumpkin13 Thanks for sharing this, and well done for taking that step to begin couselling, I'm sorry to hear that it didn't give you the result you may have hoped for. A breakup can be really difficult for anyone, feeling slightly lost during this time really understandable, so don't worry you are not alone.

    Do you think joining a support chat could be helpful for you?

    Also...congradualtions on starting driving lessons! How is that going?
  • LolaPumpkin13LolaPumpkin13 Posts: 196 Trailblazer
    Thank you It is going well a bit hard due to the breakup but I have a amazing instructor who shares the same interests with me but I would like counselling but I would have to wait another six months which I don’t think I can do
  • LolaPumpkin13LolaPumpkin13 Posts: 196 Trailblazer
    I just really need some help please I’m begging this wasn’t me until I moved in here so I don’t know what to do I’ve tried everything
  • LolaPumpkin13LolaPumpkin13 Posts: 196 Trailblazer
    No one understands how angry which i know is normal but not for this breakup as a lot happened and I just want some help so I can be be better
  • LolaPumpkin13LolaPumpkin13 Posts: 196 Trailblazer
    I just don’t understand it because I had thoughts that I didn’t love him anymore
  • LolaPumpkin13LolaPumpkin13 Posts: 196 Trailblazer
    I just need some help as he is not coming back
  • LolaPumpkin13LolaPumpkin13 Posts: 196 Trailblazer
    I know I can be happy on my own but it’s just the thoughts
  • LolaPumpkin13LolaPumpkin13 Posts: 196 Trailblazer
    When I’ve tried to take accountability for my actions but I’m done
  • OwenOwen Community Manager Posts: 33 Boards Initiate
    Hey Lola, really sorry to hear you are going through a tough time. As Verity said what you are experiencing is very typical of the emotions people experience during a break up, but is understandably exremely tough to deal with when you're going through it. I wonder if this support resource would be useful for you right now?
    No Limits
  • LolaPumpkin13LolaPumpkin13 Posts: 196 Trailblazer
    What do you mean sorry
  • LolaPumpkin13LolaPumpkin13 Posts: 196 Trailblazer
    I’m just very angry and want to be taken away
  • LolaPumpkin13LolaPumpkin13 Posts: 196 Trailblazer
    I’m going to do something stupid
  • LolaPumpkin13LolaPumpkin13 Posts: 196 Trailblazer
    There is just no help in the system at all and no wonder people end their lives cause no one listens
  • LolaPumpkin13LolaPumpkin13 Posts: 196 Trailblazer
    Do you know how scary this is for me
  • LolaPumpkin13LolaPumpkin13 Posts: 196 Trailblazer
    No one has helped all I’ve been told distract yourself I can’t watch to or anything I’m done
  • TheMixTheMix Posts: 3,273 Boards Guru
    Hey Lola, it sounds like you may be currently in crisis and in need of emergency support? Would you be able to contact 999 if you feel you are at immediate risk? Is there anyone else around who could support you right now?
  • LolaPumpkin13LolaPumpkin13 Posts: 196 Trailblazer
    I’ve multiple times they don’t do anything
  • eylaheylah Community Connector Posts: 10,058 An Original Mixlorian
    if you’re in crisis lola pls call 999. if you’re currently safe and in need of urgent crisis support pls txt shout on 85258.
    ppl dont always need advice. sometimes all they rly need is a hand to hold. an ear to listen. and a heart to understand them. 🧸
  • LolaPumpkin13LolaPumpkin13 Posts: 196 Trailblazer
    Why what is the point I’ve got no one saving me
  • LolaPumpkin13LolaPumpkin13 Posts: 196 Trailblazer
    When I did that in the relationship and oh yes I’m by myself
  • eylaheylah Community Connector Posts: 10,058 An Original Mixlorian
    are you safe? if not then 999 are the best ppl to support you rn. bc the mix isn’t a crisis support place. we aren’t equipped to support ppl in crisis. there are places which can best support you. shout 85258 samaritans 116123
    ppl dont always need advice. sometimes all they rly need is a hand to hold. an ear to listen. and a heart to understand them. 🧸
  • LolaPumpkin13LolaPumpkin13 Posts: 196 Trailblazer
    I did it in the relationship and after the relationship and I’m countessling message them and nothing
  • eylaheylah Community Connector Posts: 10,058 An Original Mixlorian
    have you ever thought abt reaching out to childline? ( not sure if you’re under their age limit) but they can help you with your relationship problems. you can talk to them under 19 yrs old.

    or another gd place to go talk abt relationships etc is ‘kooth’ they are rly helpful and might be helpful for you rn.
    ppl dont always need advice. sometimes all they rly need is a hand to hold. an ear to listen. and a heart to understand them. 🧸
  • LolaPumpkin13LolaPumpkin13 Posts: 196 Trailblazer
    No I’m 21
  • eylaheylah Community Connector Posts: 10,058 An Original Mixlorian
    i would recommend ‘kooth’ then. they can offer you support. :)
    ppl dont always need advice. sometimes all they rly need is a hand to hold. an ear to listen. and a heart to understand them. 🧸
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