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  • RedemptionRedemption Community Connector Posts: 4,557 The Mix Elder
    edited June 23
    River wrote: »
    Hate that question

    Im sorry @River just wanted to know if you're ok tonight
  • DonnerKebabDonnerKebab Posts: 1,385 Wise Owl
    @River I know the feeling. I know it's no consolation, but i really do empathise with you. Never having that safety ever is something that breaks you down over time. And it's no use me talking about "in future this", or "maybe things can change" that, it's no consolation for what your longing for right now, and i'm sorry. trauma has a way of isolating and effecting us, and leaving us deprived of basic human needs. Being in the fight or flight mode for so long, the brain can't sustain it, which causes depression and all sorts of mental health challenges and surrender. Then, it goes back into fight or flight again, etc etc, and cycles endlessly. I spoke a bit about this before. There's a few terms for this cycle like Chronic stress response dysregulation, and being in fight or flight because you've never experienced safety has likely caused this cycle.

    I trust and believe you that you are safe, because you've been so strong for so long and are still here in the face of it. I just had to make sure you were not at risk of anything. I know that feelings are different than actions. What your feeling right now is valid, but never act on any of it. I know you promised you won't and i trust you friend.
  • eylaheylah Posts: 8,240 Legendary Poster
    River wrote: »
    @eylah i won’t harm myself 💕 Samaritans told me to have a milkshake and sleep 😶‍🌫️ im cureddddddddd least they clearly think so lmao

    that’s mental of them! im so sry they didn’t support you. im here though and i wont tell you to have a bath or milkshake 😝 <3

    is there anything you can do rn to calm those thoughts <3?
    ppl dont always need advice. sometimes all they rly need is a hand to hold. an ear to listen. and a heart to understand them. 🧸
  • DonnerKebabDonnerKebab Posts: 1,385 Wise Owl
    Redemption wrote: »
    Redemption wrote: »
    Redemption wrote: »
    Redemption wrote: »
    Redemption wrote: »
    @DonnerKebab you around to talk mate?

    @Redemption Hey redemption, how are you doing? Good chat?

    Hey @DonnerKebab I'm ok thanks and yh decent chat, it's in next week too for the last time. What about you? I hope you dont feel pressured to chat to me?

    @Redemption bro, your a pleasure to chat with. You don't give yourself enough credit. I think there's another type of chat being introduced after actually. And yeah, i'm doing okay thanks.

    Thanks so much @DonnerKebab , I didnt know there's another type of chat coming. Good you're ok, got any plans tomorrow?

    @Redemption not a lot, got to get my room tidied up, sort my brother out and that's that. What about you bro?

    @DonnerKebab just got my course, I don't want to go, I think I just struggle getting up and the bus which I shouldn't be because most people get up 7 45 like its nothing a lot early early hours. I just hate the bus man

    @Redemption I know bro. it can take up to a year to get into the routine of doing it regually. When you've not had to do it for so long, it's tough, especially in early months, but over time, you'll be able to manage it better.

    And i get not wanting to go, especially when all that stuff happened almost getting kicked off it. And 100%, the bus sucks.

    @DonnerKebab yh it can, I think what doesn't help is most of the people I live with work from home so I'm the only one getting up to go to my commute. I think my uncle was joking about getting kicked out like I didn't almost but still he shouldn't play them jokes he does it from time to time. They will hopefuly support me getting into work. What fustrates me is everyone else takes a day off no big deal, me no, I have to go, I might get out of it, I'm watching tv atm. It's not a bad course, a couple of issues like people on their phones and barely got told off, they justified it too and then teacher said it ok as long as I'm listening, me I get told to get off it. They're gonna help me get into work though not like going to hold my hand but there to an exent they said. I think I might pull off leaving it tomorrow, it's 10/11 pm and I'm still up.

    @Redemption Your uncle sounds like a complete prick mate. And yeah, it's a heavy expectation they put on you, expecting all this of you, whilst they're taking days off, and not getting up due to WFH, not having to commute. The course sounds like a stepping stone. Eventually, you will land something, and you will make your way, it's just about holding on until then. The course does sound unfair, but you don't want to miss it. It's still a stepping stone, even if it's an unfair one bro.
  • RiverRiver Community Connector Posts: 4,453 Community Veteran
    TW// physical abuse references
    - if you touch my hand I get sensory overload
    - Touch my head/neck or back and you trigger what happened in the foster home
    - If you lift a hand to scratch your head or whatever I’ll flinch because of when I was jumped just for looking at someone
    - Stand behind me and I’ll think your about to move your hand to the front of my mouth to hurt me
    Sometimes when the people most like you don't love you, it is a hurt that can cause the greatest pain, and this pain can lead you to hate everything.
  • RiverRiver Community Connector Posts: 4,453 Community Veteran
    @eylah as much as I love milkshakes even that wouldn’t fix my problems I want to know what milkshake they drink that cures them 😂😂😂 like let me know the secrets
    Sometimes when the people most like you don't love you, it is a hurt that can cause the greatest pain, and this pain can lead you to hate everything.
  • DonnerKebabDonnerKebab Posts: 1,385 Wise Owl
    eylah wrote: »
    eylah wrote: »
    eylah wrote: »
    eylah wrote: »
    @DonnerKebab my favourite ever twat <3

    not yet - im just watching angry ginge rn on twitch bc hes my favourite person who streams atm <3 but i see my therapist tmr and idk if im being discharged from her or not but im just chilling. might have some ice cream. hugs my favourite twat <3

    @eylah returning fire with even more hugs, for the slightly better twat of the twat duo (that's you) <3

    And yeah, worst case scenario your discharged, best case scenario they actually start being useful and help. Best thing to do chilling with ice cream is. No stress, no worry, just ice cream. What kind?

    defo not @DonnerKebab youre the best twat in this duo! no arguments or no hugs from me 🤣🫶🏼

    100% worst case scenario im discharged but it is what it is! it’s from lidl i never got it before but it’s chocolate ice cream with chocolate chips on outside and inside. <3

    @eylah sorry, but it is scientifically proven that you are the better twat of the twat duo. I'm not arguing, i'm simply stating a fact here. <3

    Sounds like dreamy ice cream. Have you ever had the off brand Ben and Jerries they do at Lidls. Amazing stuff.

    i don’t agree on the first statement <3 ooh no? is it nice

    @eylah Don't argue with me about it, argue with professor duckworth and his findings. Btw, it was really good ice cream. Glad you enjoying the one you've got.

    uhirc15ean9a.png

    feel like that duck is there to tell me off 🤣🤣🤣🤣

    @eylah only those who question his research, which concluded that you were the slightly better twat of the twat duo 🤣 <3
  • DonnerKebabDonnerKebab Posts: 1,385 Wise Owl
    River wrote: »
    @eylah as much as I love milkshakes even that wouldn’t fix my problems I want to know what milkshake they drink that cures them 😂😂😂 like let me know the secrets

    @River If only the NHS had the idea of serving people with mental conditions milkshakes and curing them with them. perhaps we shall find a cancer cure within a cornetto 😂

    Patient: Dying
    Nurse: Doctor, should we start CPR
    Doctor: Don't be absurd nurse, get this man a croissant NOW!
  • eylaheylah Posts: 8,240 Legendary Poster
    River wrote: »
    @eylah as much as I love milkshakes even that wouldn’t fix my problems I want to know what milkshake they drink that cures them 😂😂😂 like let me know the secrets

    me too. i hope i get that person if i ever talk to them 🤣❤️
    ppl dont always need advice. sometimes all they rly need is a hand to hold. an ear to listen. and a heart to understand them. 🧸
  • DonnerKebabDonnerKebab Posts: 1,385 Wise Owl
    River wrote: »
    TW// physical abuse references
    - if you touch my hand I get sensory overload
    - Touch my head/neck or back and you trigger what happened in the foster home
    - If you lift a hand to scratch your head or whatever I’ll flinch because of when I was jumped just for looking at someone
    - Stand behind me and I’ll think your about to move your hand to the front of my mouth to hurt me

    @River that's an extreme amount to deal with, and it makes perfect sense the fight or flight cycle causing chronic stress response dysregulation now. It did before, but even more now.
  • eylaheylah Posts: 8,240 Legendary Poster
    eylah wrote: »
    eylah wrote: »
    eylah wrote: »
    eylah wrote: »
    @DonnerKebab my favourite ever twat <3

    not yet - im just watching angry ginge rn on twitch bc hes my favourite person who streams atm <3 but i see my therapist tmr and idk if im being discharged from her or not but im just chilling. might have some ice cream. hugs my favourite twat <3

    @eylah returning fire with even more hugs, for the slightly better twat of the twat duo (that's you) <3

    And yeah, worst case scenario your discharged, best case scenario they actually start being useful and help. Best thing to do chilling with ice cream is. No stress, no worry, just ice cream. What kind?

    defo not @DonnerKebab youre the best twat in this duo! no arguments or no hugs from me 🤣🫶🏼

    100% worst case scenario im discharged but it is what it is! it’s from lidl i never got it before but it’s chocolate ice cream with chocolate chips on outside and inside. <3

    @eylah sorry, but it is scientifically proven that you are the better twat of the twat duo. I'm not arguing, i'm simply stating a fact here. <3

    Sounds like dreamy ice cream. Have you ever had the off brand Ben and Jerries they do at Lidls. Amazing stuff.

    i don’t agree on the first statement <3 ooh no? is it nice

    @eylah Don't argue with me about it, argue with professor duckworth and his findings. Btw, it was really good ice cream. Glad you enjoying the one you've got.

    uhirc15ean9a.png

    feel like that duck is there to tell me off 🤣🤣🤣🤣

    @eylah only those who question his research, which concluded that you were the slightly better twat of the twat duo 🤣 <3

    stop it! you’re the best twat of this duo <3 no questions asked!!
    ppl dont always need advice. sometimes all they rly need is a hand to hold. an ear to listen. and a heart to understand them. 🧸
  • RedemptionRedemption Community Connector Posts: 4,557 The Mix Elder
    Redemption wrote: »
    Redemption wrote: »
    Redemption wrote: »
    Redemption wrote: »
    Redemption wrote: »
    @DonnerKebab you around to talk mate?

    @Redemption Hey redemption, how are you doing? Good chat?

    Hey @DonnerKebab I'm ok thanks and yh decent chat, it's in next week too for the last time. What about you? I hope you dont feel pressured to chat to me?

    @Redemption bro, your a pleasure to chat with. You don't give yourself enough credit. I think there's another type of chat being introduced after actually. And yeah, i'm doing okay thanks.

    Thanks so much @DonnerKebab , I didnt know there's another type of chat coming. Good you're ok, got any plans tomorrow?

    @Redemption not a lot, got to get my room tidied up, sort my brother out and that's that. What about you bro?

    @DonnerKebab just got my course, I don't want to go, I think I just struggle getting up and the bus which I shouldn't be because most people get up 7 45 like its nothing a lot early early hours. I just hate the bus man

    @Redemption I know bro. it can take up to a year to get into the routine of doing it regually. When you've not had to do it for so long, it's tough, especially in early months, but over time, you'll be able to manage it better.

    And i get not wanting to go, especially when all that stuff happened almost getting kicked off it. And 100%, the bus sucks.

    @DonnerKebab yh it can, I think what doesn't help is most of the people I live with work from home so I'm the only one getting up to go to my commute. I think my uncle was joking about getting kicked out like I didn't almost but still he shouldn't play them jokes he does it from time to time. They will hopefuly support me getting into work. What fustrates me is everyone else takes a day off no big deal, me no, I have to go, I might get out of it, I'm watching tv atm. It's not a bad course, a couple of issues like people on their phones and barely got told off, they justified it too and then teacher said it ok as long as I'm listening, me I get told to get off it. They're gonna help me get into work though not like going to hold my hand but there to an exent they said. I think I might pull off leaving it tomorrow, it's 10/11 pm and I'm still up.

    @Redemption Your uncle sounds like a complete prick mate. And yeah, it's a heavy expectation they put on you, expecting all this of you, whilst they're taking days off, and not getting up due to WFH, not having to commute. The course sounds like a stepping stone. Eventually, you will land something, and you will make your way, it's just about holding on until then. The course does sound unfair, but you don't want to miss it. It's still a stepping stone, even if it's an unfair one bro.

    @DonnerKebab yh he is a bit like its not a funny joke. It is a stepping stone, it's actually decent and can go on my cv. It's just the odd niggle, it's definitely better than college I went. The staff are ok and hopefully help me to an exent with my next steps.
  • eylaheylah Posts: 8,240 Legendary Poster
    my body hurts 💔 gd job im having the surgery 🤣🤣
    ppl dont always need advice. sometimes all they rly need is a hand to hold. an ear to listen. and a heart to understand them. 🧸
  • DonnerKebabDonnerKebab Posts: 1,385 Wise Owl
    eylah wrote: »
    eylah wrote: »
    eylah wrote: »
    eylah wrote: »
    eylah wrote: »
    @DonnerKebab my favourite ever twat <3

    not yet - im just watching angry ginge rn on twitch bc hes my favourite person who streams atm <3 but i see my therapist tmr and idk if im being discharged from her or not but im just chilling. might have some ice cream. hugs my favourite twat <3

    @eylah returning fire with even more hugs, for the slightly better twat of the twat duo (that's you) <3

    And yeah, worst case scenario your discharged, best case scenario they actually start being useful and help. Best thing to do chilling with ice cream is. No stress, no worry, just ice cream. What kind?

    defo not @DonnerKebab youre the best twat in this duo! no arguments or no hugs from me 🤣🫶🏼

    100% worst case scenario im discharged but it is what it is! it’s from lidl i never got it before but it’s chocolate ice cream with chocolate chips on outside and inside. <3

    @eylah sorry, but it is scientifically proven that you are the better twat of the twat duo. I'm not arguing, i'm simply stating a fact here. <3

    Sounds like dreamy ice cream. Have you ever had the off brand Ben and Jerries they do at Lidls. Amazing stuff.

    i don’t agree on the first statement <3 ooh no? is it nice

    @eylah Don't argue with me about it, argue with professor duckworth and his findings. Btw, it was really good ice cream. Glad you enjoying the one you've got.

    uhirc15ean9a.png

    feel like that duck is there to tell me off 🤣🤣🤣🤣

    @eylah only those who question his research, which concluded that you were the slightly better twat of the twat duo 🤣 <3

    stop it! you’re the best twat of this duo <3 no questions asked!!

    @eylah Dr Duckworth disagrees and asks that you respect his research 🤣🤣 <3
  • DonnerKebabDonnerKebab Posts: 1,385 Wise Owl
    eylah wrote: »
    my body hurts 💔 gd job im having the surgery 🤣🤣

    @eylah i know it's not a lot, but try to think about how in a week time, you'll be so much better off and pain free. I don't know what it is you have, or how much pain it is, but i know it can get severe enough to become like hell. Try and remind yourself, this is the last week you'll have to suffer this pain, and then it's pain free for the rest of your life.
  • DonnerKebabDonnerKebab Posts: 1,385 Wise Owl
    Redemption wrote: »
    Redemption wrote: »
    Redemption wrote: »
    Redemption wrote: »
    Redemption wrote: »
    Redemption wrote: »
    @DonnerKebab you around to talk mate?

    @Redemption Hey redemption, how are you doing? Good chat?

    Hey @DonnerKebab I'm ok thanks and yh decent chat, it's in next week too for the last time. What about you? I hope you dont feel pressured to chat to me?

    @Redemption bro, your a pleasure to chat with. You don't give yourself enough credit. I think there's another type of chat being introduced after actually. And yeah, i'm doing okay thanks.

    Thanks so much @DonnerKebab , I didnt know there's another type of chat coming. Good you're ok, got any plans tomorrow?

    @Redemption not a lot, got to get my room tidied up, sort my brother out and that's that. What about you bro?

    @DonnerKebab just got my course, I don't want to go, I think I just struggle getting up and the bus which I shouldn't be because most people get up 7 45 like its nothing a lot early early hours. I just hate the bus man

    @Redemption I know bro. it can take up to a year to get into the routine of doing it regually. When you've not had to do it for so long, it's tough, especially in early months, but over time, you'll be able to manage it better.

    And i get not wanting to go, especially when all that stuff happened almost getting kicked off it. And 100%, the bus sucks.

    @DonnerKebab yh it can, I think what doesn't help is most of the people I live with work from home so I'm the only one getting up to go to my commute. I think my uncle was joking about getting kicked out like I didn't almost but still he shouldn't play them jokes he does it from time to time. They will hopefuly support me getting into work. What fustrates me is everyone else takes a day off no big deal, me no, I have to go, I might get out of it, I'm watching tv atm. It's not a bad course, a couple of issues like people on their phones and barely got told off, they justified it too and then teacher said it ok as long as I'm listening, me I get told to get off it. They're gonna help me get into work though not like going to hold my hand but there to an exent they said. I think I might pull off leaving it tomorrow, it's 10/11 pm and I'm still up.

    @Redemption Your uncle sounds like a complete prick mate. And yeah, it's a heavy expectation they put on you, expecting all this of you, whilst they're taking days off, and not getting up due to WFH, not having to commute. The course sounds like a stepping stone. Eventually, you will land something, and you will make your way, it's just about holding on until then. The course does sound unfair, but you don't want to miss it. It's still a stepping stone, even if it's an unfair one bro.

    @DonnerKebab yh he is a bit like its not a funny joke. It is a stepping stone, it's actually decent and can go on my cv. It's just the odd niggle, it's definitely better than college I went. The staff are ok and hopefully help me to an exent with my next steps.

    @Redemption it 100% beats nothing. At the end of the day, you've done well, socialised well, gotten a bit more confident i'm guessing, have something you can add to your CV and that is better than where you were before this. So that is a victory.
  • eylaheylah Posts: 8,240 Legendary Poster
    eylah wrote: »
    eylah wrote: »
    eylah wrote: »
    eylah wrote: »
    eylah wrote: »
    @DonnerKebab my favourite ever twat <3

    not yet - im just watching angry ginge rn on twitch bc hes my favourite person who streams atm <3 but i see my therapist tmr and idk if im being discharged from her or not but im just chilling. might have some ice cream. hugs my favourite twat <3

    @eylah returning fire with even more hugs, for the slightly better twat of the twat duo (that's you) <3

    And yeah, worst case scenario your discharged, best case scenario they actually start being useful and help. Best thing to do chilling with ice cream is. No stress, no worry, just ice cream. What kind?

    defo not @DonnerKebab youre the best twat in this duo! no arguments or no hugs from me 🤣🫶🏼

    100% worst case scenario im discharged but it is what it is! it’s from lidl i never got it before but it’s chocolate ice cream with chocolate chips on outside and inside. <3

    @eylah sorry, but it is scientifically proven that you are the better twat of the twat duo. I'm not arguing, i'm simply stating a fact here. <3

    Sounds like dreamy ice cream. Have you ever had the off brand Ben and Jerries they do at Lidls. Amazing stuff.

    i don’t agree on the first statement <3 ooh no? is it nice

    @eylah Don't argue with me about it, argue with professor duckworth and his findings. Btw, it was really good ice cream. Glad you enjoying the one you've got.

    uhirc15ean9a.png

    feel like that duck is there to tell me off 🤣🤣🤣🤣

    @eylah only those who question his research, which concluded that you were the slightly better twat of the twat duo 🤣 <3

    stop it! you’re the best twat of this duo <3 no questions asked!!

    @eylah Dr Duckworth disagrees and asks that you respect his research 🤣🤣 <3

    sry dr duckworth i’m not listening to you my friend 🤣🤣❤️
    eylah wrote: »
    my body hurts 💔 gd job im having the surgery 🤣🤣

    @eylah i know it's not a lot, but try to think about how in a week time, you'll be so much better off and pain free. I don't know what it is you have, or how much pain it is, but i know it can get severe enough to become like hell. Try and remind yourself, this is the last week you'll have to suffer this pain, and then it's pain free for the rest of your life.

    it can be rly severe which is painful!! but rn its a 7/10 but im excited to sleep tonight bc i dont get a lot of pain when i sleep but i do get pain. but like you said in a week time im pain free!!
    ppl dont always need advice. sometimes all they rly need is a hand to hold. an ear to listen. and a heart to understand them. 🧸
  • DonnerKebabDonnerKebab Posts: 1,385 Wise Owl
    eylah wrote: »
    eylah wrote: »
    eylah wrote: »
    eylah wrote: »
    eylah wrote: »
    eylah wrote: »
    @DonnerKebab my favourite ever twat <3

    not yet - im just watching angry ginge rn on twitch bc hes my favourite person who streams atm <3 but i see my therapist tmr and idk if im being discharged from her or not but im just chilling. might have some ice cream. hugs my favourite twat <3

    @eylah returning fire with even more hugs, for the slightly better twat of the twat duo (that's you) <3

    And yeah, worst case scenario your discharged, best case scenario they actually start being useful and help. Best thing to do chilling with ice cream is. No stress, no worry, just ice cream. What kind?

    defo not @DonnerKebab youre the best twat in this duo! no arguments or no hugs from me 🤣🫶🏼

    100% worst case scenario im discharged but it is what it is! it’s from lidl i never got it before but it’s chocolate ice cream with chocolate chips on outside and inside. <3

    @eylah sorry, but it is scientifically proven that you are the better twat of the twat duo. I'm not arguing, i'm simply stating a fact here. <3

    Sounds like dreamy ice cream. Have you ever had the off brand Ben and Jerries they do at Lidls. Amazing stuff.

    i don’t agree on the first statement <3 ooh no? is it nice

    @eylah Don't argue with me about it, argue with professor duckworth and his findings. Btw, it was really good ice cream. Glad you enjoying the one you've got.

    uhirc15ean9a.png

    feel like that duck is there to tell me off 🤣🤣🤣🤣

    @eylah only those who question his research, which concluded that you were the slightly better twat of the twat duo 🤣 <3

    stop it! you’re the best twat of this duo <3 no questions asked!!

    @eylah Dr Duckworth disagrees and asks that you respect his research 🤣🤣 <3

    sry dr duckworth i’m not listening to you my friend 🤣🤣❤️
    eylah wrote: »
    my body hurts 💔 gd job im having the surgery 🤣🤣

    @eylah i know it's not a lot, but try to think about how in a week time, you'll be so much better off and pain free. I don't know what it is you have, or how much pain it is, but i know it can get severe enough to become like hell. Try and remind yourself, this is the last week you'll have to suffer this pain, and then it's pain free for the rest of your life.

    it can be rly severe which is painful!! but rn its a 7/10 but im excited to sleep tonight bc i dont get a lot of pain when i sleep but i do get pain. but like you said in a week time im pain free!!

    @eylah i think you hurt doctor duckworths feelings. Just admit you're the slightly better twat of the twat duo, and you'll make doctor duckworth a very happy duck again, otherwise he'll be a sad duck. As i say, nothing to do with me, it's entirely between you and dr duckworth so those hugs better still keep coming in cause it's not me who technically argued 🤣🤣 <3 .

    It's gonna be like a new lease of life for you eylah. All the things you've not been able to do because of chronic pain, you'll start to be able to. Can you think of anything you'd like to do, or are going to do when your pain free? <3
  • RedemptionRedemption Community Connector Posts: 4,557 The Mix Elder
    Redemption wrote: »
    Redemption wrote: »
    Redemption wrote: »
    Redemption wrote: »
    Redemption wrote: »
    Redemption wrote: »
    @DonnerKebab you around to talk mate?

    @Redemption Hey redemption, how are you doing? Good chat?

    Hey @DonnerKebab I'm ok thanks and yh decent chat, it's in next week too for the last time. What about you? I hope you dont feel pressured to chat to me?

    @Redemption bro, your a pleasure to chat with. You don't give yourself enough credit. I think there's another type of chat being introduced after actually. And yeah, i'm doing okay thanks.

    Thanks so much @DonnerKebab , I didnt know there's another type of chat coming. Good you're ok, got any plans tomorrow?

    @Redemption not a lot, got to get my room tidied up, sort my brother out and that's that. What about you bro?

    @DonnerKebab just got my course, I don't want to go, I think I just struggle getting up and the bus which I shouldn't be because most people get up 7 45 like its nothing a lot early early hours. I just hate the bus man

    @Redemption I know bro. it can take up to a year to get into the routine of doing it regually. When you've not had to do it for so long, it's tough, especially in early months, but over time, you'll be able to manage it better.

    And i get not wanting to go, especially when all that stuff happened almost getting kicked off it. And 100%, the bus sucks.

    @DonnerKebab yh it can, I think what doesn't help is most of the people I live with work from home so I'm the only one getting up to go to my commute. I think my uncle was joking about getting kicked out like I didn't almost but still he shouldn't play them jokes he does it from time to time. They will hopefuly support me getting into work. What fustrates me is everyone else takes a day off no big deal, me no, I have to go, I might get out of it, I'm watching tv atm. It's not a bad course, a couple of issues like people on their phones and barely got told off, they justified it too and then teacher said it ok as long as I'm listening, me I get told to get off it. They're gonna help me get into work though not like going to hold my hand but there to an exent they said. I think I might pull off leaving it tomorrow, it's 10/11 pm and I'm still up.

    @Redemption Your uncle sounds like a complete prick mate. And yeah, it's a heavy expectation they put on you, expecting all this of you, whilst they're taking days off, and not getting up due to WFH, not having to commute. The course sounds like a stepping stone. Eventually, you will land something, and you will make your way, it's just about holding on until then. The course does sound unfair, but you don't want to miss it. It's still a stepping stone, even if it's an unfair one bro.

    @DonnerKebab yh he is a bit like its not a funny joke. It is a stepping stone, it's actually decent and can go on my cv. It's just the odd niggle, it's definitely better than college I went. The staff are ok and hopefully help me to an exent with my next steps.

    @Redemption it 100% beats nothing. At the end of the day, you've done well, socialised well, gotten a bit more confident i'm guessing, have something you can add to your CV and that is better than where you were before this. So that is a victory.

    @DonnerKebab yh I agree. I think 1 day won't do much harm though , I'll see how I am tomorrow plus I'm probably the only one who's not been off yet.
  • DonnerKebabDonnerKebab Posts: 1,385 Wise Owl
    Redemption wrote: »
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    @DonnerKebab you around to talk mate?

    @Redemption Hey redemption, how are you doing? Good chat?

    Hey @DonnerKebab I'm ok thanks and yh decent chat, it's in next week too for the last time. What about you? I hope you dont feel pressured to chat to me?

    @Redemption bro, your a pleasure to chat with. You don't give yourself enough credit. I think there's another type of chat being introduced after actually. And yeah, i'm doing okay thanks.

    Thanks so much @DonnerKebab , I didnt know there's another type of chat coming. Good you're ok, got any plans tomorrow?

    @Redemption not a lot, got to get my room tidied up, sort my brother out and that's that. What about you bro?

    @DonnerKebab just got my course, I don't want to go, I think I just struggle getting up and the bus which I shouldn't be because most people get up 7 45 like its nothing a lot early early hours. I just hate the bus man

    @Redemption I know bro. it can take up to a year to get into the routine of doing it regually. When you've not had to do it for so long, it's tough, especially in early months, but over time, you'll be able to manage it better.

    And i get not wanting to go, especially when all that stuff happened almost getting kicked off it. And 100%, the bus sucks.

    @DonnerKebab yh it can, I think what doesn't help is most of the people I live with work from home so I'm the only one getting up to go to my commute. I think my uncle was joking about getting kicked out like I didn't almost but still he shouldn't play them jokes he does it from time to time. They will hopefuly support me getting into work. What fustrates me is everyone else takes a day off no big deal, me no, I have to go, I might get out of it, I'm watching tv atm. It's not a bad course, a couple of issues like people on their phones and barely got told off, they justified it too and then teacher said it ok as long as I'm listening, me I get told to get off it. They're gonna help me get into work though not like going to hold my hand but there to an exent they said. I think I might pull off leaving it tomorrow, it's 10/11 pm and I'm still up.

    @Redemption Your uncle sounds like a complete prick mate. And yeah, it's a heavy expectation they put on you, expecting all this of you, whilst they're taking days off, and not getting up due to WFH, not having to commute. The course sounds like a stepping stone. Eventually, you will land something, and you will make your way, it's just about holding on until then. The course does sound unfair, but you don't want to miss it. It's still a stepping stone, even if it's an unfair one bro.

    @DonnerKebab yh he is a bit like its not a funny joke. It is a stepping stone, it's actually decent and can go on my cv. It's just the odd niggle, it's definitely better than college I went. The staff are ok and hopefully help me to an exent with my next steps.

    @Redemption it 100% beats nothing. At the end of the day, you've done well, socialised well, gotten a bit more confident i'm guessing, have something you can add to your CV and that is better than where you were before this. So that is a victory.

    @DonnerKebab yh I agree. I think 1 day won't do much harm though , I'll see how I am tomorrow plus I'm probably the only one who's not been off yet.

    @Redemption good luck to you with it bro. I hope your family don't give you any shit for it.
  • RiverRiver Community Connector Posts: 4,453 Community Veteran
    Someone just told me that if I ever have kids they would be taken off me because apparently I’m the same as my “breed” aka the same as my birth parents 🙄
    Sometimes when the people most like you don't love you, it is a hurt that can cause the greatest pain, and this pain can lead you to hate everything.
  • eylaheylah Posts: 8,240 Legendary Poster
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    @DonnerKebab my favourite ever twat <3

    not yet - im just watching angry ginge rn on twitch bc hes my favourite person who streams atm <3 but i see my therapist tmr and idk if im being discharged from her or not but im just chilling. might have some ice cream. hugs my favourite twat <3

    @eylah returning fire with even more hugs, for the slightly better twat of the twat duo (that's you) <3

    And yeah, worst case scenario your discharged, best case scenario they actually start being useful and help. Best thing to do chilling with ice cream is. No stress, no worry, just ice cream. What kind?

    defo not @DonnerKebab youre the best twat in this duo! no arguments or no hugs from me 🤣🫶🏼

    100% worst case scenario im discharged but it is what it is! it’s from lidl i never got it before but it’s chocolate ice cream with chocolate chips on outside and inside. <3

    @eylah sorry, but it is scientifically proven that you are the better twat of the twat duo. I'm not arguing, i'm simply stating a fact here. <3

    Sounds like dreamy ice cream. Have you ever had the off brand Ben and Jerries they do at Lidls. Amazing stuff.

    i don’t agree on the first statement <3 ooh no? is it nice

    @eylah Don't argue with me about it, argue with professor duckworth and his findings. Btw, it was really good ice cream. Glad you enjoying the one you've got.

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    feel like that duck is there to tell me off 🤣🤣🤣🤣

    @eylah only those who question his research, which concluded that you were the slightly better twat of the twat duo 🤣 <3

    stop it! you’re the best twat of this duo <3 no questions asked!!

    @eylah Dr Duckworth disagrees and asks that you respect his research 🤣🤣 <3

    sry dr duckworth i’m not listening to you my friend 🤣🤣❤️
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    my body hurts 💔 gd job im having the surgery 🤣🤣

    @eylah i know it's not a lot, but try to think about how in a week time, you'll be so much better off and pain free. I don't know what it is you have, or how much pain it is, but i know it can get severe enough to become like hell. Try and remind yourself, this is the last week you'll have to suffer this pain, and then it's pain free for the rest of your life.

    it can be rly severe which is painful!! but rn its a 7/10 but im excited to sleep tonight bc i dont get a lot of pain when i sleep but i do get pain. but like you said in a week time im pain free!!

    @eylah i think you hurt doctor duckworths feelings. Just admit you're the slightly better twat of the twat duo, and you'll make doctor duckworth a very happy duck again, otherwise he'll be a sad duck. As i say, nothing to do with me, it's entirely between you and dr duckworth so those hugs better still keep coming in cause it's not me who technically argued 🤣🤣 <3 .

    It's gonna be like a new lease of life for you eylah. All the things you've not been able to do because of chronic pain, you'll start to be able to. Can you think of anything you'd like to do, or are going to do when your pain free? <3

    ill keep arguing with dr duckworth bc he is arguing with me haha!! but you’re the better twat in this duo hehe.

    i know im going straight to the gym 🤣 i miss the gym
    ppl dont always need advice. sometimes all they rly need is a hand to hold. an ear to listen. and a heart to understand them. 🧸
  • RedemptionRedemption Community Connector Posts: 4,557 The Mix Elder
    edited June 23
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    @DonnerKebab you around to talk mate?

    @Redemption Hey redemption, how are you doing? Good chat?

    Hey @DonnerKebab I'm ok thanks and yh decent chat, it's in next week too for the last time. What about you? I hope you dont feel pressured to chat to me?

    @Redemption bro, your a pleasure to chat with. You don't give yourself enough credit. I think there's another type of chat being introduced after actually. And yeah, i'm doing okay thanks.

    Thanks so much @DonnerKebab , I didnt know there's another type of chat coming. Good you're ok, got any plans tomorrow?

    @Redemption not a lot, got to get my room tidied up, sort my brother out and that's that. What about you bro?

    @DonnerKebab just got my course, I don't want to go, I think I just struggle getting up and the bus which I shouldn't be because most people get up 7 45 like its nothing a lot early early hours. I just hate the bus man

    @Redemption I know bro. it can take up to a year to get into the routine of doing it regually. When you've not had to do it for so long, it's tough, especially in early months, but over time, you'll be able to manage it better.

    And i get not wanting to go, especially when all that stuff happened almost getting kicked off it. And 100%, the bus sucks.

    @DonnerKebab yh it can, I think what doesn't help is most of the people I live with work from home so I'm the only one getting up to go to my commute. I think my uncle was joking about getting kicked out like I didn't almost but still he shouldn't play them jokes he does it from time to time. They will hopefuly support me getting into work. What fustrates me is everyone else takes a day off no big deal, me no, I have to go, I might get out of it, I'm watching tv atm. It's not a bad course, a couple of issues like people on their phones and barely got told off, they justified it too and then teacher said it ok as long as I'm listening, me I get told to get off it. They're gonna help me get into work though not like going to hold my hand but there to an exent they said. I think I might pull off leaving it tomorrow, it's 10/11 pm and I'm still up.

    @Redemption Your uncle sounds like a complete prick mate. And yeah, it's a heavy expectation they put on you, expecting all this of you, whilst they're taking days off, and not getting up due to WFH, not having to commute. The course sounds like a stepping stone. Eventually, you will land something, and you will make your way, it's just about holding on until then. The course does sound unfair, but you don't want to miss it. It's still a stepping stone, even if it's an unfair one bro.

    @DonnerKebab yh he is a bit like its not a funny joke. It is a stepping stone, it's actually decent and can go on my cv. It's just the odd niggle, it's definitely better than college I went. The staff are ok and hopefully help me to an exent with my next steps.

    @Redemption it 100% beats nothing. At the end of the day, you've done well, socialised well, gotten a bit more confident i'm guessing, have something you can add to your CV and that is better than where you were before this. So that is a victory.

    @DonnerKebab yh I agree. I think 1 day won't do much harm though , I'll see how I am tomorrow plus I'm probably the only one who's not been off yet.

    @Redemption good luck to you with it bro. I hope your family don't give you any shit for it.

    @DonnerKebab yh hopefully not, ok up to now, I'm just watching tv still but yh, you sleep well. We'll talk in the morning if you want?
  • DonnerKebabDonnerKebab Posts: 1,385 Wise Owl
    edited June 23
    River wrote: »
    Someone just told me that if I ever have kids they would be taken off me because apparently I’m the same as my “breed” aka the same as my birth parents 🙄

    @River you are different. If you were still the same "breed" then so would I. I would be the same breed as my uncle who trafficked me, my dad who beat me, abused me, then fucked off when times got tough with my brother, and the same breed as my mum whose done some shady things. I'd be the same breed as my weed growing cousin who was so bold he put on a council vest and began "tending to the flowers" in the middle of a ring road, which is where he proceeded to grow weed out in the open 🤣 points for boldness, and he got caught after a while.

    We are not the same as our parents. We learn from there failings, and we strive to be better. my dad had a mom and dad growing up, a stable life, stable everything, and he failed his kids. he started the cycle. If i ever become a dad, I will be the best dad in the world and give my kids everything i never had growing up. That is why for me, i am not the same Breed. And neither are you. It isn't genetic, it's choice. Your parents made the choice to be fucking scum. You made the choice to be kind to others, so your already miles ahead of them.

    They didn't know or care what it's like to grow up like you did because of there failings. You do, you know what you were deprived off, and if you ever became a mom, you'd go above and beyond to never let your own kids be deprived of safety and a loving home because you know what that's like to go without.

    there are parents who start the cycle like yours and mine. There are those who continue the cycle, and there are those who break the cycle and decide "i went through hell, i won't let my kids go through the same hell. i'll give them what i never had." This is a little thing that might help.

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    Oh, and the people who said that about you, they are just cunts, ignore them. You'd make a great mum if you ever became one. just from how kind you are here. You went through hell and rather than going cold and cruel like so many others would of, you are so kind and caring for others. That's the spirit of a person who would break that cycle, and thus, would be a good mum and give your kids everything you were deprived of, the same way you give others the kindness you were deprived of.
  • DonnerKebabDonnerKebab Posts: 1,385 Wise Owl
    Redemption wrote: »
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    @DonnerKebab you around to talk mate?

    @Redemption Hey redemption, how are you doing? Good chat?

    Hey @DonnerKebab I'm ok thanks and yh decent chat, it's in next week too for the last time. What about you? I hope you dont feel pressured to chat to me?

    @Redemption bro, your a pleasure to chat with. You don't give yourself enough credit. I think there's another type of chat being introduced after actually. And yeah, i'm doing okay thanks.

    Thanks so much @DonnerKebab , I didnt know there's another type of chat coming. Good you're ok, got any plans tomorrow?

    @Redemption not a lot, got to get my room tidied up, sort my brother out and that's that. What about you bro?

    @DonnerKebab just got my course, I don't want to go, I think I just struggle getting up and the bus which I shouldn't be because most people get up 7 45 like its nothing a lot early early hours. I just hate the bus man

    @Redemption I know bro. it can take up to a year to get into the routine of doing it regually. When you've not had to do it for so long, it's tough, especially in early months, but over time, you'll be able to manage it better.

    And i get not wanting to go, especially when all that stuff happened almost getting kicked off it. And 100%, the bus sucks.

    @DonnerKebab yh it can, I think what doesn't help is most of the people I live with work from home so I'm the only one getting up to go to my commute. I think my uncle was joking about getting kicked out like I didn't almost but still he shouldn't play them jokes he does it from time to time. They will hopefuly support me getting into work. What fustrates me is everyone else takes a day off no big deal, me no, I have to go, I might get out of it, I'm watching tv atm. It's not a bad course, a couple of issues like people on their phones and barely got told off, they justified it too and then teacher said it ok as long as I'm listening, me I get told to get off it. They're gonna help me get into work though not like going to hold my hand but there to an exent they said. I think I might pull off leaving it tomorrow, it's 10/11 pm and I'm still up.

    @Redemption Your uncle sounds like a complete prick mate. And yeah, it's a heavy expectation they put on you, expecting all this of you, whilst they're taking days off, and not getting up due to WFH, not having to commute. The course sounds like a stepping stone. Eventually, you will land something, and you will make your way, it's just about holding on until then. The course does sound unfair, but you don't want to miss it. It's still a stepping stone, even if it's an unfair one bro.

    @DonnerKebab yh he is a bit like its not a funny joke. It is a stepping stone, it's actually decent and can go on my cv. It's just the odd niggle, it's definitely better than college I went. The staff are ok and hopefully help me to an exent with my next steps.

    @Redemption it 100% beats nothing. At the end of the day, you've done well, socialised well, gotten a bit more confident i'm guessing, have something you can add to your CV and that is better than where you were before this. So that is a victory.

    @DonnerKebab yh I agree. I think 1 day won't do much harm though , I'll see how I am tomorrow plus I'm probably the only one who's not been off yet.

    @Redemption good luck to you with it bro. I hope your family don't give you any shit for it.

    @DonnerKebab yh hopefully not, ok up to now, I'm just watching tv still but yh, you sleep well. We'll talk in the morning if you want?

    @Redemption sure thing redemption, sleep well yourself bro
  • RedemptionRedemption Community Connector Posts: 4,557 The Mix Elder
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    @DonnerKebab you around to talk mate?

    @Redemption Hey redemption, how are you doing? Good chat?

    Hey @DonnerKebab I'm ok thanks and yh decent chat, it's in next week too for the last time. What about you? I hope you dont feel pressured to chat to me?

    @Redemption bro, your a pleasure to chat with. You don't give yourself enough credit. I think there's another type of chat being introduced after actually. And yeah, i'm doing okay thanks.

    Thanks so much @DonnerKebab , I didnt know there's another type of chat coming. Good you're ok, got any plans tomorrow?

    @Redemption not a lot, got to get my room tidied up, sort my brother out and that's that. What about you bro?

    @DonnerKebab just got my course, I don't want to go, I think I just struggle getting up and the bus which I shouldn't be because most people get up 7 45 like its nothing a lot early early hours. I just hate the bus man

    @Redemption I know bro. it can take up to a year to get into the routine of doing it regually. When you've not had to do it for so long, it's tough, especially in early months, but over time, you'll be able to manage it better.

    And i get not wanting to go, especially when all that stuff happened almost getting kicked off it. And 100%, the bus sucks.

    @DonnerKebab yh it can, I think what doesn't help is most of the people I live with work from home so I'm the only one getting up to go to my commute. I think my uncle was joking about getting kicked out like I didn't almost but still he shouldn't play them jokes he does it from time to time. They will hopefuly support me getting into work. What fustrates me is everyone else takes a day off no big deal, me no, I have to go, I might get out of it, I'm watching tv atm. It's not a bad course, a couple of issues like people on their phones and barely got told off, they justified it too and then teacher said it ok as long as I'm listening, me I get told to get off it. They're gonna help me get into work though not like going to hold my hand but there to an exent they said. I think I might pull off leaving it tomorrow, it's 10/11 pm and I'm still up.

    @Redemption Your uncle sounds like a complete prick mate. And yeah, it's a heavy expectation they put on you, expecting all this of you, whilst they're taking days off, and not getting up due to WFH, not having to commute. The course sounds like a stepping stone. Eventually, you will land something, and you will make your way, it's just about holding on until then. The course does sound unfair, but you don't want to miss it. It's still a stepping stone, even if it's an unfair one bro.

    @DonnerKebab yh he is a bit like its not a funny joke. It is a stepping stone, it's actually decent and can go on my cv. It's just the odd niggle, it's definitely better than college I went. The staff are ok and hopefully help me to an exent with my next steps.

    @Redemption it 100% beats nothing. At the end of the day, you've done well, socialised well, gotten a bit more confident i'm guessing, have something you can add to your CV and that is better than where you were before this. So that is a victory.

    @DonnerKebab yh I agree. I think 1 day won't do much harm though , I'll see how I am tomorrow plus I'm probably the only one who's not been off yet.

    @Redemption good luck to you with it bro. I hope your family don't give you any shit for it.

    @DonnerKebab yh hopefully not, ok up to now, I'm just watching tv still but yh, you sleep well. We'll talk in the morning if you want?

    @Redemption sure thing redemption, sleep well yourself bro

    Thanks for all your support @DonnerKebab night
  • DonnerKebabDonnerKebab Posts: 1,385 Wise Owl
    edited June 23
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    @DonnerKebab my favourite ever twat <3

    not yet - im just watching angry ginge rn on twitch bc hes my favourite person who streams atm <3 but i see my therapist tmr and idk if im being discharged from her or not but im just chilling. might have some ice cream. hugs my favourite twat <3

    @eylah returning fire with even more hugs, for the slightly better twat of the twat duo (that's you) <3

    And yeah, worst case scenario your discharged, best case scenario they actually start being useful and help. Best thing to do chilling with ice cream is. No stress, no worry, just ice cream. What kind?

    defo not @DonnerKebab youre the best twat in this duo! no arguments or no hugs from me 🤣🫶🏼

    100% worst case scenario im discharged but it is what it is! it’s from lidl i never got it before but it’s chocolate ice cream with chocolate chips on outside and inside. <3

    @eylah sorry, but it is scientifically proven that you are the better twat of the twat duo. I'm not arguing, i'm simply stating a fact here. <3

    Sounds like dreamy ice cream. Have you ever had the off brand Ben and Jerries they do at Lidls. Amazing stuff.

    i don’t agree on the first statement <3 ooh no? is it nice

    @eylah Don't argue with me about it, argue with professor duckworth and his findings. Btw, it was really good ice cream. Glad you enjoying the one you've got.

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    feel like that duck is there to tell me off 🤣🤣🤣🤣

    @eylah only those who question his research, which concluded that you were the slightly better twat of the twat duo 🤣 <3

    stop it! you’re the best twat of this duo <3 no questions asked!!

    @eylah Dr Duckworth disagrees and asks that you respect his research 🤣🤣 <3

    sry dr duckworth i’m not listening to you my friend 🤣🤣❤️
    eylah wrote: »
    my body hurts 💔 gd job im having the surgery 🤣🤣

    @eylah i know it's not a lot, but try to think about how in a week time, you'll be so much better off and pain free. I don't know what it is you have, or how much pain it is, but i know it can get severe enough to become like hell. Try and remind yourself, this is the last week you'll have to suffer this pain, and then it's pain free for the rest of your life.

    it can be rly severe which is painful!! but rn its a 7/10 but im excited to sleep tonight bc i dont get a lot of pain when i sleep but i do get pain. but like you said in a week time im pain free!!

    @eylah i think you hurt doctor duckworths feelings. Just admit you're the slightly better twat of the twat duo, and you'll make doctor duckworth a very happy duck again, otherwise he'll be a sad duck. As i say, nothing to do with me, it's entirely between you and dr duckworth so those hugs better still keep coming in cause it's not me who technically argued 🤣🤣 <3 .

    It's gonna be like a new lease of life for you eylah. All the things you've not been able to do because of chronic pain, you'll start to be able to. Can you think of anything you'd like to do, or are going to do when your pain free? <3

    ill keep arguing with dr duckworth bc he is arguing with me haha!! but you’re the better twat in this duo hehe.

    i know im going straight to the gym 🤣 i miss the gym

    @eylah your arguing with his scientific research and scientifically proven fact. He's a very sad duck now. 🤣 you are completely fake news, the better twat of this duo is 100% you, and mr duckworth backs that up. It's 2 vs 1, you're outvoted. now hush about it. Mr Duckworth will keep arguing 🤣🤣❤️

    Amazing to go back there then? How long has it been if you don't mind me asking?
  • DonnerKebabDonnerKebab Posts: 1,385 Wise Owl
    @Redemption night bro
  • RiverRiver Community Connector Posts: 4,453 Community Veteran
    Was going to say something but I can’t 🥲
    Sometimes when the people most like you don't love you, it is a hurt that can cause the greatest pain, and this pain can lead you to hate everything.
  • DonnerKebabDonnerKebab Posts: 1,385 Wise Owl
    River wrote: »
    Was going to say something but I can’t 🥲

    @River I'm guessing because of the Mix community guidelines?
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