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@shannon_164 Never apologise for venting here. You deserve to vent for as long as you want. It's always easier to just be quiet in the short term, but in the long term, it's 1000 times worse keeping it all bottled up. You have very valid grievances over the lack of support you got in the support chat. I was in that chat, and at no point whatsoever did you at any stage direct any kind of hate at staff. I can back you up on that point. You are right that they treated your complaint differently than others, and i'm so sorry it's been two tiered treatment here for you. I promise you on my life, you are wanted as part of this community by us. You are the truly kindest person, and you deserve all of the kindness in the world back, and i'm sorry that when you reached out you never got it.
That Mix has let you down, and for people who have had bad experiences with the police being called before, the threat of the Mix doing it again will hang heavy over them. What they did that first time with you was just cruel. And for them to have created the same anxieties again over a minor complaint about being ignored, that is cruel too. I completely understand why you've been afraid to post it on here, but i want you to know, any backlash or getting kicked of the mix for criticising them that happens, they'll have to kick me too friend. I'm so proud of you for being brave enough to stand up and speak out about this, and i've got your back however i can.
with the psychologist, it's normal to not know how you feel about the sessions, and it can take time for a person to really understand there own feelings about that stuff. That you've taken the effort to process those feelings, write them down and come prepared is effort and any psychologist worth a damn will see that and congratulate you for putting in that effort, not be frustrated. And for the youth worker, I am so glad you are getting help from somebody experienced with what it's like to go through homelessness. They will have a huge amount of empathy, and will be able to help arrange alternative living to your current situation. I think your still with your mum right if you don't mind me asking? And i still get angry each time i hear about how they said just go to sleep and when you wake up it's fine. One of the soldiers who carried princess Diana's coffin for her funeral froze to death on the streets sleeping rough. Countless people do in winter. it's the dumbest thing ever, and i'm so sorry you went through that hell only to get this answer from a helpline. hopefully this youth worker will be able to help you a lot more finding alternatives to where you are right now. And i get what you mean. But it is an achievement and a half the certificate. It isn't the end, just the end of this chapter. Your gonna be able to pursue things related to that certificate, and have the same amount of fun while doing it. You'll have a good graduation i imagine. Hopefully better than my one 😅. Plus nobody ever said you can't celebrate twice. I'm hoping you have some good goodbyes later, and a grand time of it.
Thank you so much for being brave enough to vent. I know how scary it can be normally, and i know how much more scarier it will be given that it's complaining about the Mix on the Mix, like a chicken complaining about KFC in the KFC kitchen. I'm so very proud of you Shannon. You are truly stronger than you think, and you deserve all the best. Please vent whenever you want and i'll be here to listen and offer what support i can friend, like you have for me and so many others. Sending you a virtual hug, and best wishes with your graduation later.
Sorry if this sounds like a rambling mess. Oh and sorry for the late response. My brother is sick, has been having meltdowns from it, including this morning and even though he's not attacking her or anybody, she can't keep up or handle him so had to ask me for help and grovel an apology 😂
@River i think it's 100% worth it. She cares for you, and your wellbeing, and I think she wants to just help where she can. This is someone who has proven she cares I think. This isn't taking a gamble, this is somebody who's reliably shown they care and helped you consistently where she can. Please don't reject her help and go and see her. Even if only to say hello.
Sorry i'm responding a bit late btw.
@toffuna101 good stuff to keep yourself awake, but just make sure it doesn't become dependency, cause too much for too long can wreck your body. I speak from personal experience (admittedly it was 4 a day for several years, but the point stands 😂 )
@River
@River she might decide the lead the conversation and ask a few questions. Heck you could just talk about random non serious stuff if you wanted, like how the death penalty for pineapple pizza lovers is actually justified. But what matters is you are able to sit with her, talk, and feel comfortable. Maybe she brings up topics that leads onto others, maybe you bring them up unexpectedly. You never know how it will go.
@River what about if you don't mind me asking? Is it a big lie?
I'm so sorry there cutting the time short Shannon. I understand the fear of being totally alone and given up on, but please understand, we will never give up on you here, and you will always have somebody to talk to here. I know it's not a lot, and you feel restricted in a lot of what you say here, but please know, we care about you, and want you to feel as supported and cared about as possible, mods me damned.
Don't worry about reading the reply. You've got a very busy day, and a lot coming up, and you've just dealt with a lot and no doubt feel exhausted just recounting your life story to your psychologist only to have that bombshell dropped on you. Just do me a favour and give yourself a massive hug from me and have a grand time at graduation.
@River that sounds quite mad. I mean, i can imagine it now.
ALS report: Disruptive to the whole class for the whole lesson
You: I couldn't bring myself to sit with you pricks for longer than 10 minutes, what do you mean the whole lesson?
(I know it's not this but couldn't resist the joke)😂
But seriously, is there anyway you can prove it's a load of lies? Like teacher statements or anything to back that up. Cause that is out of order them doing that.
@River as in they've counted you as not attending when you were as the lies, or the attendance will prove the review is the lie?
You: Your honour I object I wasn't even there so bad was my attendance. They couldn't possibly have got an accurate assessment on 10 minutes a lesson.
As doctor strange says, a simple spell but quite unbreakable 😂
i drank one a day for three days in a row now. it just tastes so good. i wont drink one tomorrow as my mum is starting to get suspicious of my caffeine intake. she said to not buy energy drinks anymore as it can damage my heart which is true, it can. i know thats just her way of saying that shes concerned about me. @DonnerKebab
@toffuna101 definitely true. At my intake, i was having heart palpitations daily after the first 3 months of it and weight gain from the sugar in them. Definitely good as a 1 off boost, but avoid making it a regular thing. Your mum is 100% right and i can say that from experience.
@eylah please don't give up trying to get help. I know it's hard and it's so demoralising, but if you stop trying to seek help now, you might stay stuck like this. And i don't want that for you, I want you to be able to process these things, get into a better frame of mind with professional help, and to start to enjoy things in life again, cause you deserve to be happy. Please don't let those wankers yesterday stop you from getting the help you deserve friend. I'm here to talk if you want.
Can i ask one favour? Give yourself a hug from me, and a pat on the back. You're amazing.
ive already been told im being discharged by services so whats point? noone wants to help me.
that doesnt sound good. i definitely wont buy anymore energy drinks then unless if i receive an energy drink as a gift which will only be occasionally. the reason why i brought six cans of energy drinks was because they were really cheap at 69p each and i really liked sour apple as one of the energy drink flavours. plus online they sell them for double the price for six cans so it was way cheaper to get at home bargains in-person. so they kind of lured me in a way to for me drink more energy drinks. its a smart business move i must say. there was a deal to get three energy drinks for £1 but i didnt take that deal as i didnt know what flavour it was and the cans looked smaller. whilst the sour apple flavour energy drink had 500ml in one can which is worth it for 69p each. so yeah, they almost got me addicted to energy drinks i guess. im glad my mum and you warned me because if no one warned me i wouldve carried on drinking energy drinks. @DonnerKebab
@eylah i have now just hugged myself too. We can be twats together. 😂
The mental health services in this country are abysmal, and so many people are being discharged when they still need help. We have some of the worst and most under pressure mental health services in the world. This is a little graph showing it. You are being let down by the system, but that doesn't mean you deserve to be let down. It just means the system is severely broken. I know it's not a lot, but i'm always here to talk about anything you want friend. You might be discharged by the failing system, but you'll never be alone with nobody to speak too, cause i'm here for you.
@toffuna101 yeah, once it becomes addiction, it's hard to steer away from, and the caffeine addiction sucks, because if you stop drinking it once addicted, even for a day, the caffeine withdrawal causes headaches and all sorts. Rarely taking them is fine, taking them everyday is not, no matter how cheap or tasty they are. They used to do energy drinks for 35p, or 4 for £1 of 250ml cans. Them being cheap and needing to stay awake is what drew me in and then addiction followed. It's a slippery slop that you should always try and avoid. I'm proud of you for avoiding going down the same struggle i did.
the uk should do a study on energy drink addiction because of how cheap they are. dont they have sugar tax now where they raise the price of anything with sugar in it to prevent people from developing unhealthy eating habits? cause i think the same applies for energy drinks. correct me if im wrong. the caffeine withdrawal is real indeed. @DonnerKebab
@toffuna101 long term caffeine intake actually changes brain chemistry a bit even. Weight gain, heart issues, all on the rise. And the tax isn't a huge amount. So it's 18p per litre. So 9p for a 500ml energy drink on top of it's normal price. So essentially, it would take the price of your energy drinks from 61p to 69p and that's all. Not enough to make a difference. And yeah, caffeine withdrawal is recognised as scientific fact with medical evidence backing it up. Nobody knows the true extent of the long term impact, just that there is one.